Enjoying role reversal?

[Lost Sheep]

Note: In this essay, I am talking particularly about coitus - I am not talking about any other forms of sex.

Sometimes one partner (A) desires sex and the other partner (B) is not so enthusiastic.

Usually the initiating/insistent partner (A) is the man (or top). Partner (B) need only be unopposed. Partner B can even be planning the following day's itinerary or just wishing to "get it over with".

In the best cases, partner B does eventually become enthusiastic, to completion of a satisfactory sexual session for both.

With pharmaceutical or mechanical help, an erectily dysfunctional man COULD be partner B (not really possible otherwise).

Anyone have that experience?

Being partner "B" has its joys. I think it is GREAT for my partner to drive the bus once in a while.

The other day, my lover and I both knew we did not have time for a "proper" love-making session, but she wanted some loving. She was already wet enough so I just pumped up my implant and away we went. It did not matter that I was unaroused at the beginning, once inside her, my enthusiasm waxed and we had a delightful "quickie" and both enjoyed the experience immensely.

[Lost Sheep]

A while ago I posted a thread posing a similar, but not quite identical question. "Have you ever been pressed for sex when you did not feel like it?" Now that, (as an implanted man) can have sex even if I am not in the mood to be aroused, I can still perform sexually to the satisfaction of my lover my perspective on the matter is evolving about sex, arousal, gender stereotypes around seduction and "accommodating" my lover's desires.

Women have been in this situation forever. Even if she is not in the mood, she can accept a man's penis and "let him have his way" and can even fake enjoyment/orgasm if she wants to.

Often enough, an ambivalent woman might "give in" to her lover and become aroused and enthusiastic. That would be a happy outcome.

As an implanted man, my partner has approached me in a desirous mood when I was not (too tired, preoccupied with the day's exigencies or otherwise uninterested in sex). But I can still "service" her adequately.

I, as a man formerly incapable of serving my lover sexually even if I WAS in the mood, I am THRILLED beyond imagination to be able to perform sexually. I don't know if that thrill will wear off after a time, but we will see. I don't think it will abate all that much, though, because I do love/like her and enjoy seeing her smile and adore it when she shows me her appreciation (both before and after sex).

I have always been interested in gender issues, how men and women treat each other, view each other and such. This question is an extension of that interest and any thoughts any members of this support group or my bionic brothers are welcome.

[Hawkman]

Not much response on this topic but so you won't have to talk to yourself I will toss in another angle. I have recurrent prostate cancer than escaped surgery,(after more than 4 years) and escaped salvage radiation (after more than another 4 years). It is still undetectable with the latest sensitive scans but it is somewhere according to by PSA tests. I feel great and they can find nothing, but someday it is coming to get me (assuming a truck doesn't run over me). So I likely have hormone ablation therapy. essentially killing all my testosterone with a shot often referred to as chemical castration. When that day comes, it is good to know I can still perform when any other man would be down for the count. At least his penis would be down got the count.

That, all by itself will be such a Godsend psychologically. One component toward still psychologically feeling like there is some maleness left. So unless a miracle cure hits the market in the next 5 year I will no doubt get to practice a lot of roll reversal.

[LookingUp]

Thank your luck many times over. To have a sexually aggressive equal partner is the best relationship. There will be plenty of time to hug and cuddle. The worst is when two libidos are out of sink. I traded a menopaused wife for a younger model and now, you guessed it, menopaused Part Deux. My implant will be Fair Notice. Use me or lose me.

Sex is like Air. You don’t miss it until you’re not getting any.

[Vagabond127]

I think it is a great topic. Never would have thought about the question. One more pro of an implant.