DaveKell wrote:My confidence is probably on a par now with the President of the United States. Here's briefly where I'm coming from with this. When I was a younger man I had inherited my father's good looks that, like him, many times had women falling all over me. It was never a problem for me to end up in the sack with women. I was committed to remaining single because I enjoyed playing the field. Plus, I grew up seeing my mother tortured by my dad's numerous affairs. They were divorced and remarried twice, but he never reformed his ways. At age 25 I met a then teenage girl who completely rocked my world. In less than three months I asked her to marry me. She had two years of college to go but I didn't care. I was willing to move anywhere in the world I had to to be with her. We married when I was 26 and she was 19. I made a vow to myself I would never subject her to what my mom endured. My wife was a virgin when I met her, probably the only one I'd ever encountered.
Our sex life was totally satisfying until ED reared its head after quite a number of surgeries on my abdomen. We too gave up even trying to have sex after a repeated pattern of humiliating failures. My confidence was completely non existent. I closed down a successful business I owned and at age 58 began a life of getting out of bed around 10am and laying horizontally on the couch all day mindlessly watching tv. Not participating in much of anything else. Skip ahead to after I was implanted.
Our sex life has returned so much improved over anything we had before. I had a ton of relationship issues to work through from my formerly withdrawn state. We're almost there.
AS for my confidence... well, I've previously stated here I now find myself chatting up women in public I don't even know. Looking them square in the eye. It's a byproduct of KNOWING I'm a phenomenally awesome, fully functioning man. I've always stood by my vow but man oh man you can't believe the temptations I've endured. Of course there's now 40 years added to my previous looks but I still find younger women easy to talk to and they respond to me in a positive way. That matter nothing to me, I'm happy with how my wife responds. My confidence is so high my wife and I travel and speak at seminars for my implant manufacturer together. I see the dejected looks on men's faces at these events and can sympathize with what they're experiencing. They see the happiness on my wife's face and I think we give them hope.
Your a good man Dave to have stuck to your vow, that is so important and shows the kind of man you are! I to am looking to get my confidence back. We found ways to satisfy each other but for the last year intercourse just couldn't happen, I would go somewhat limp every time
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81 yrs., married 58 yrs. ED for over 20 yrs.
