Postby CanGetItUpButNotOff » Sat Mar 01, 2025 9:56 am
jwjwjw wrote:It seems that when I use a lube that is not quite so slick I can get off faster.
I saw your post on the lube thread and I've been thinking about this. This anorgasmia is really a head-scratcher. I've seen several doctors comment that it is the least researched topic in men's health. I never know how I'm going to fare until the moment of truth - I can be going great, pumping the wife and really feeling it, then switch into "cum" mode and then.... who knows what's going to happen?? Sometimes, I feel it escalating and within a minute I cum. But sometimes it feels really good but then quickly disappears. I prefer the term "anorgasmia" to "delayed ejaculation" because, for me, pumping harder and longer is a waste of time; once the feeling is gone, it's gone for the session.
As much as I love blowjobs (love, love, love), that was the first casualty of my anorgasmia. Now it's almost impossible for me to cum from a BJ.
I've had a bunch of, and still undergoing, scientific tests that show that I definitely have decreased sensitivity. Back to the question of lube, I had one experience where the lube was so sloppy that I could tell that it was the cause of the lack of friction. It felt like I was screwing a bowl of oatmeal. This leads me to think there's some validity to your thesis that the right lube can make a difference. I'm interested in whatever research you come across.
Born 1954. Diabetes, hypertension and atherosclerosis. Sildenafil is iffy. Tri-Mix (30/3/20 Pap/Phen/PGE1) a godsend pending long-term efficacy. Daily Cialis. Tried LiESWT, Botox, PT-141, Eroxon, QST, DUS, Vertica, cabergoline, psychotherapy+hypnotherapy.