Interesting thread.
As I described somewhere in the earlier parts of My Joyrnal (
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=6010), my wife was also sceptical to start with.
Her reasoning was that it is a big surgery, high risk, what if things go wrong and you end up with nothing, now at least we have something that works ok, I am fine with what we have, etc.
And that was based on our case, where we could have sex. My ED was not 100%. I used pills and managed to penetrate probably 9/10, even though often requiring help in form of a BJ or HJ to get it up, and then shoving it in without delay before it went down. Sex was high-intensity from start to finish to avoid it going down, and perhaps 3/10 I still ended with a semi with which I could not orgasm or even have to terminate the whole thing.
But at least we did have sex. Even if it wasn’t good.
After discussing it several times, showing her pics and videos of what it actually is, what it looks like, how it works, and what it meant to me, she quickly changed her mind. Mostly because she didn’t quite understand the concept at first. She thought it wasn’t as natural looking and feeling as it actually is.
And finally, once I got it and we started to reap the benefits from it, she is just as happy as me that I got it.
The whole thing about the woman losing her ability to get her man hard, well, yes. Sure. But if she can her man hard today, then why is he considering an implant?
As so often in the implant or not discussions, the thing is that if things work well enough today, then don’t get implanted.
If things don’t work well enough today, well then apparently she cannot get her man hard (enough) today, so then that argument falls.
She won't lose anything she has. She already lost it. Now it's about making the best of the situation.
Then the question becomes, does she prefer her man getting hard with an implant or not at all (i.e. no sex)?
If her answer is not at all, meaning she prefers no sex over implant sex, then I would say that would be it for me.
For two reasons.
One – if she doesn’t think sex with me is important, I would take that as an insult more or less. She doesn’t find me attractive, she thinks our sex is useless. And I wouldn’t want a GF/wife who didn’t like to have sex with me. It would be sign of deeper issues that would pop up sooner or later anyway.
Also, I would find it hard to accept that I have a disease/handicap which hurts me badly. I can fix it, but she is against it. So what if my hearing worsened. I would end up needing a hearing aid. If she would say “no, please don’t get it. It is unnatural, I wouldn’t like you having one”, then wtf is that? If she loves me she will want me to fix my issues, issues that both hurt me physically and mentally. It is borderline evil to oppose to your spouse/GF/BF to fix his/her health problems.
So if she got breast cancer, had to remove one breast, wanted to replace her missing breast with an implant to make her feel better, not to feel awkward in public, to feel sexy for her partner, to feel like a whole woman – would I say “No, don’t to it, it is unnatural, I will not like it”???
If I did that, I would be mental. A Psychopath. No matter what I actually thought, I would support her 100%. If she felt bad about it, if this could make her feel better about it, I would back her with all I had to offer. If she went through the trauma of having cancer, and then coming out of it, she could restore some or most of her self esteem and spark by replacing what was lost – How the F could I be anything less than 100% supportive if I loved her? What I think, whether I have some morale ideas about breast implants, has nothing to with it. This would be her life.
And I see no differences whatsoever in a penile implant.
The argument that I wouldn’t need to have her breast implant stuffed up between my legs doesn’t work. It is not supposed to. But a dick is. And getting fucked by an implanted dick feels no different than being so by a natural dick. So that argument just falls flat.
So I wouldn’t accept it. If my wife said “I won’t accept the implant” I would get it anyway. Because if she actually meant that, everything would be lost already. And staying with her wouldn’t work anyway. I would find it evil, and a total lack of empathy.
