Gary59 wrote:I met a new girl friend and we had sex for the first time a couple of days ago. I like her a lot as we have much in common. This relationship is only a couple of weeks old. We are in our mid 50's. She had normal orgasms the first few times, but as we continued she farted continuously and basically emptied her bladder on subsequent orgasms. (Check that off the bucket list). It turns me off, not to mention I had to wash everything including the comforter and blanket. I even had to wash the mattress by spraying hot water on it and tried to wet vacuum it.
I really like this lady but can't seem to come up with a way of telling her this has to stop. I know I will loose her. I need some wisdom here please.
My wife ejaculates a lot as well. We got our hands on a few of the incontinence pads the hospitals use... they are very large and don't let liquids penetrate through... I still think doing it in her bed is a great idea... you won't have to tell her but she will definitely know.
You really need positively determine whether she is "emptying her bladder" [Urine] or female squirting [ejaculate]. There is a huge difference.
Generally ejaculate has no odor. There could also be the possibility that youre getting a little of both.
If she is squirting, this is normal; she cannot help it. It just happens when she orgasms. In fact, IF this is the case; it may be so natural to her she may think you know about squirting. She may have dealt with this her whole life.
In the present sexual climate, many consider squirting ~H~0~T~ and very desireable, but everyone has their own preferences too.
If she is urinating, it could be incontinence from aging or some other health problem. At this point ill just say our brotherhood has spent time in the company of a urologist.
If she is aware of it, possibly she is too embarrassed to discuss it at this point. If this is the case my concern would be why she isn't more
active in the clean up effort. It shouldnt be left entirely up to you even though it might be your household.
Either way, a wet spot is a wet spot. It's not uncommon to have wet spots from either partners natural body secretions durring intercourse.. Squirting just maximises that.
It's up to the male to be the Dominant partner , especially early on in the relationship and responsibly take the lead to discuss this issue with her and attempt to seek a solution together. This sets the stage for everything that follows. I realize it's early in this relationship, however; if you cannot discuss sex together; then you probably shouldnt be having sex together.
The solution could be as simple as not drinking as much prior to anticipating becoming intimate , having her empty her bladder prior to having intercourse or utilizing a waterproof protective pad under her while indulging in sex.
You're the host in your home, limit her beverages when youre in the mood to become intimate. Set the example say, "I'm going to take a quick leak before things get any heavier."., shell probably follow. Have absorbant pads or a towel handy for under her. They are always handy for any type wet spot. She will probably think youre very thoughtful.
Always have her urinate after intercourse to to help avoid [UTI] a urinary tract infection.
So you're in a new relationship, you have sex together for the first time at your place. You cannot expect her to bring a carton of absorbant pads with her; "just in case we decide to fuck" .
Now the issue is out in the open. Grab the Bull by the horns. [Figuratively speaking]
It should prove informative to see IF she takes any precaution when you bang her in her own bed.
If the simple precautions dont work, its time for you to ensure she see's a doctor.