Feeling robbed

What are your fears? Ideas? Hints? to coping with ED. What helps you with your mental game? How are relationships affected?

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Stevareno
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Feeling robbed

Postby Stevareno » Tue Mar 28, 2017 12:25 am

Just had a RP last month. Although it saved my life and I am grateful, I feel more mad. I have a beautiful wife who is six yrs my junior. We had been married for 25yrs this year but it wasn't always a good time. For about twenty yrs we had mediocre sex. One reason because I had PE and as soon as it happened, it was over. Not that I wanted it to be but to wait 30 minutes for it to come back around kinda killed the mood for her. We even went a whole year without any sex at all because we both fell out of the mood for it. About 4 yrs ago I discovered the injections, this after taking Viagra which helped but then fizzled out. With the injections it opened up a whole new world for us. We were having great sex. And her attitude towards me changed also. She was so much more loving and respectful to me. I know I was finally after 20 yrs able to fill her needs.
Now come December 2016 I find out I had Prostate Cancer. Had to do the Radical Prostatectomy. Here it is now almost April and there is no signs of life in my penis. No indication that it is going to come alive. However, I can take a shot and it will get hard, it stays that way for about 10 minutes then go dead again.
I hate this. I want to get back to having sex but can't. I know it hasn't been that long since my surgery. I am just worried it isn't going to come back around. My insurance will pay for an implant but I have some reserves about that. If I know for sure it would work, I will do it but I do not know how good the surgeon who does these is. Don't want to get a botched up implant. Although he is the one who did my prostatectomy and was very good at it.
What makes it worse is the older I get, it shows. My wife however, looks hotter now than when I first met her when she was 21. She is now 48 and gets more looks than ever before.
I guess I am being a bit insecure. Just thinking now is not the time to have this problem.
Not saying she would ever leave me, she does love me. Just that I want to correct this problem and soon. I believe the great sex we had is what kept up close. Don't want to lose that.
What to do?

JayGould
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Re: Feeling robbed

Postby JayGould » Tue Mar 28, 2017 1:07 am

Just get the implant. A man's attractiveness peaks in his 50's and 60's. A woman's peaks in her 20's. If your wife leaves you it's her problem. Go see Eid or Kramer, they will do a good job.

Lost Sheep
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Re: Feeling robbed / feel restored

Postby Lost Sheep » Tue Mar 28, 2017 1:23 pm

The statistics for success of an implant are greater that 95% for success and 90% or so continued satisfaction after 10 years or more and the devices are continuing to improve, so today's devices are experiencing longer service lives than those from 10 years ago.

What were your odds for success for your RP?

If non-coital sex is insufficient for you (oral on her or using "toys"), an implant is a logical extension of the RP path to a full recovery from your cancer.

Blessing to you both.
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT ,as there is no second chance with one's first.

dg_moore
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Re: Feeling robbed

Postby dg_moore » Tue Mar 28, 2017 2:35 pm

We all get angry when life hands us one of its many little surprises, but then life isn't fair. You just have to soldier on the best you can. I dealt with ED for years, and then finally got an implant almost 10 years ago as a last resort. But I had a stroke that ended my sex life and never used it once. I was disappointed, of course, but never really angry. If you're the praying - or just philosophical - sort, the serenity prayer has a lot to offer, especially with regard to recognizing the difference between things you can change and things you can't.
Dave, 74, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
Life is not the way it's supposed to be, it's the way it is.

rahod1
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Re: Feeling robbed

Postby rahod1 » Fri Mar 31, 2017 2:44 am

For now, you should continue injections since you get an initial *solid* response, albeit a short one. Try a stronger formula/increase dose and use an adjustable cock ring right after injecting. Over time, you may regain the initial response you had prior to surgery. If not...definitely go with implant.

Cigar56
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Re: Feeling robbed

Postby Cigar56 » Tue Apr 04, 2017 3:25 pm

I am currently using injections and will have radical prostatectomy for prostate cancer later this year. I see guys waiting six months or a year for their erections to return after RP but I have already told the wife I am not going to wait that long. If I don't see positive results after 60-90 days I'm going for the implant.
Age 61 as of 2017. Under "active surveillance" for small amounts of cancer in prostate as of 2016. Quit using ED pills and now using injections. Considering an implant. Surgeon advises shrinking prostate to avoid damaging bladder during RALP.

ccrider
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Re: Feeling robbed

Postby ccrider » Tue Apr 04, 2017 6:39 pm

Don't wait...get the implant from Kramer or Eid. You have nothing to lose but ED...you and the missus will have a life of good rockin' ahead of you after the procedure.
...65 years old, married almost 30 years, serious ED for around 10 years. AMS 700 LGX 21 cm +3 cm RTE implanted by Dr. Andrew Kramer on Dec 7, 2016.

Artist
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Re: Feeling robbed

Postby Artist » Tue Jun 13, 2017 11:10 pm

I am sympathetic to your situation. There are times when dealing with health issues that one can indeed feel robbed. Given your situation I would consider the implant. I would include your wife in the discussion and the decision.
65 ears of age, RP at age 51, 14 years cancer free PTL

Eveready
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Re: Feeling robbed

Postby Eveready » Wed Jun 14, 2017 8:14 am

If you are capable of feeling pleasant sensation in your cock then everything is possible; no: better than you have ever known is possible.
I had my RP in January. Not nerve-sparing, so my chances of gaining an erection post-op were, as it was told me, extremely low. That probability played out.
But the RP has served me as a pretext for doing something about an unacknowledged general hydraulic decline that's dogged my marriage for 20 years. The bride and I had no hesitation in opting to go bionic straight off the bat.
3 weeks ago I received my implant. Today the surgeon inflated it to 60-70%. It killed! But through the tears I could see that I now have a weapon of mass defloration that will soon be a source of great satisfaction to me - 60 - and the bride - who at 46 is as delicious as she was when I snatched her from the cradle, and more willing.
One bit of advice I was given by both the surgeon who did my RP and the one who implanted me: use your dick. Take pills, use a pump, do whatever you can to keep its blood supply up as much as possible. Both of them advised me that delay leads to atrophy, a buildup of scarring and associated shrinkage.
And I don't for a moment mean to make light of your past difficulties, but having had an RP you will never again suffer from PE. The firmness of a baby holding an apple in its fist is eminently do-able. It's all good for you from here on in!
Melbourne, Oz. Radical prostatectomy & titan implant at 60. Size uncertain, but big enough to hang onto. Nah, it's huge!

Flannigan
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Re: Feeling robbed

Postby Flannigan » Thu Jun 15, 2017 12:40 pm

I feel your pain brother. I just turned 53 and have suffered from ED since I was about 47. I have found the woman of my dreams and she is as hot as they get. Up to this point the Viagra has been working and we have been having sex 5 times a week and it has been the best thing that ever happened to me. She is a sexual freak and wants it all the time. Well the side affects from the Viagra finally caught up to me and I just can't take them anymore except occasionally. I have terrible body and muscle aches for as much as 10 days after taking one. My girlfriend is trying to be supporting and I know she loves me but she is getting impatient and it won't be long before she starts hitting me with her purse and then finds some new cock to fuck. The woman loves the cock and she needs sex badly. It's driving me a little nuts because I don't want to lose her and not sure what to do. I am now trying to find out the root cause of my ED. I always had a very healthy sex drive and everything was working great until my mid to late 40's. I feel that I am way to young to be going thru this. There must be a reason.
Anyway...enough about my story. I can only tell you that after being on this site for a month or so now that I have read sooo many positive posts on the implants. I would have never in a million years even considered one until getting on this site. And if your insurance will cover it than I think you really need to investigate it. I hear a lot of dudes use this Dr. Kraemer. Just look at some of the other posts under "Implants". You will see that 99% are positive.

Good luck mate !
Flannigan
53 years old. Suffering from ED since I was 45. Side effects from Viagra now too much to take. Started Trimix injections July 2017. Very low dose. 6 units @ 8.8/.29/2.9.


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