Depression and ED

What are your fears? Ideas? Hints? to coping with ED. What helps you with your mental game? How are relationships affected?
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Re: Depression and ED

Postby bob1138 » Sun Dec 11, 2011 6:29 pm


First, God Bless You for the strength and courage you have shown through all your troubles and losses.
I will share my story and hope it helps someone suffering with ED.
I developed ED Post-Prostatectomy in February 2004 at age 65.
I had never had any problem with ED prior to my Prostatectomy.
My wife and I were High School sweethearts and had a long and wonderful sex life before my Prostate Cancer.
Viagra, Cialis, etc. did not work for me.
Between worrying about my Prostate Cancer and developing ED I was in a very dark place at that time and had some very disturbing thoughts.
The thing I missed most was the emotional intimacy with my wife of over 40 years and I felt guilty of depriving her of this intimacy and felt shame for not being able to satisfy her. I gradually withdrew into myself a little more each day.
I have worked out in the gym my entire life and I credit this with helping me survive this period of several years.
I attended a number of Seminars on the Coloplast Titan Penile Implant and was very favorably impressed but still not ready to move forward. Then I had the opportunity to speak with 2 men who had undergone the Titan Penile Implant Procedure
and realized this was the real deal!
I had my Coloplast Titan Penile Implant Procedure done three weeks later on December 13, 2007 at Hackensack University Medical Center in Bergen County, New Jersey by Dr. Hossein Sadeghi, a highly regarded Penile Implant Surgeon.
The Titan Implant completely restored my sex life and the emotional intimacy with my wife and raised my self-esteem
through the roof.
I became a Coloplast Patient Educator in January 2008 in order to share my Pre-Implant and Post-Implant experiences
with men still suffering with ED and its devastating side effects.
I share this to point out that a full and rewarding sex life is still very possible after ED.
If this helps just one man with ED, I think it is worth-while doing.

May God Bless and Protect you and your family.



Re: Depression and ED

Postby 3mtrship » Sun Dec 11, 2011 7:23 pm

Thank you both for making this place a little better for all of us. This is exactly what makes FT helpful and necessary.


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Re: Depression and ED

Postby corvetteman3 » Sun Dec 11, 2011 8:18 pm

Bob, What a wonderful post. Yes this is what the board is about. How be battle and get through the struggles of ED and move to a fullfilled life again.

Thanks for posting.

Cajun Jeff

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Re: Depression and ED

Postby edmustgo » Wed Dec 21, 2011 10:36 am

Hi Bonefish,

I don't have many words of wisdom to offer but I am right there with you with the depression. I've been on antidepressants (Zyprexa, Wellbutrin) but am currently off them (Still taking Lithium although recently I have found I do not need it) but I was depressed for the exact same reason, brother. Just know I'm here for you like everyone else is...isn't it awesome to have a site like this?!
Name's Ian..
22 year old suffering from chronic/severe psychological ed.
When I find the solution, I'll list it here <_>

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Re: Depression and ED

Postby Erecaid7 » Sat Sep 29, 2012 8:26 pm

I have severe depression. As far as I can tell (and my doctor) it's the cause of my E.D.

My depression isn't situational. It's not going away. So I've tried to manage the E.D. as best I can. Unfortunately, the problem doesn't help the depression much--it just make it worse.

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Re: Depression and ED

Postby hoosierphilly » Tue Jan 31, 2017 12:44 pm

Became angry and depressed so, I am back on Wellbutrin and after a few months I went back to great problems with staying erect and climaxing even with lots of aid from my wife and the wand and its attachments. I suddenly went from getting erect every day and barely getting aroused at all. Thinking it may be the Wellbutrin. See a Psychiatrists today. Trying electrical stem on my ears again, as Australian research indicates that antidepressants with electric impulses are more effective.

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Re: Depression and ED

Postby italianbuck » Sat May 06, 2017 11:17 am

I have not had sex in over 5 years. My Prostate surgery was 2010. Dating has been a disaster despite the fact I keep in excellent physical shape, 5'8" tall, 149lbs, 30" waist, 41" chest, blue eyes/sandy hair. I am a total bottom but once even topmen learn I cannot shoot a load, all of a sudden they lose interest. So i said what is the point o guys hitting me a lot , if when they find out I have functional limitations, I am considered not a serious dating candidate for a relationship?

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Re: Depression and ED

Postby David_R » Sat May 06, 2017 4:20 pm

italianbuck wrote:I am a total bottom but once even topmen learn I cannot shoot a load, all of a sudden they lose interest. So i said what is the point o guys hitting me a lot , if when they find out I have functional limitations, I am considered not a serious dating candidate for a relationship?

Anyone who would not be interested in you simply because you no longer ejaculate is a total asshole. :x
Baltimore area. Age 68. Prostatectomy 2000, CX in 2002. After 12 yrs. got LGX 2014. My urologist is Dr. Marc Siegelbaum of Univ. of Md. St. Joseph Med. Ctr. in Baltimore suburb of Towson. (After regular inflating I regained my original length and girth.)

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