Concerns as a top + working out: size, being rough, time, lifting, etc

[Oriansalem]

Hi all! I’m 42, gay, married (but in a poly relationship), and one of those annoying guys who posts shirtless and workout videos on IG with a lot of followers. I very much enjoy being healthy and taking care of myself, and encourage others to do the same. It’s Tues, Feb 3rd, and I just had the Titan Coloplast implanted on Friday, Jan 30th. So far, expectations and reality are met, thanks to places like this forum. I have bruising and swelling, but it’s manageable. I’m partially pumped, and have learned how to pull him to the side after bandaging was removed so that I could more comfortably walk around. I’m WFH all this week so that I can rest and heal. I’ve sent pics of bruising and swelling to my doctors at UCSF and they said everything looks great. However. I have a few questions that I hope you all can help me with, and perhaps ease some anxiety.
I am 5 years sober (bourbon). I drank so much I developed Wernicke Korsakoff Syndrome, which put me on a breathing tube in a coma for almost 2 months, and then in a wheelchair for 3 months while I learned to walk again. Most people with WK end up in nursing homes, but I somehow recovered. The first year of sobriety wasn’t easy, so sex wasn’t on my mind a lot. My partner also got sober, and we just supported and loved on each other. No pressure for sex. Then as I gained strength and mobility, I started working out. I lost 70lbs of fat, gained 60 in muscle. I got on TRT. My drive was back, but dick wasn’t always functional. So I went the route of pills till they stopped working consistently. Then trimix, which was a godsend. Up until surgery, I was having sex 3-4 days a week, 2-3 times each. Then I met with my urologist for a frank discussion (heyo) on the future of my dick. He said with my increasing need for more and more trimix to achieve erections, and with my high sex drive, I’m looking at scarification of my penis, possible peyronies, and injections that will just require more and more over time. So we landed on the Titan, since I’m still young and very sexually active.

I didn’t have a monster dick, but I had 7.75” that most guys thought was 9. Two of my paramours are size kings - and I have kept them happy for a few years, so I always felt confident. What I’m looking at now is more like 5.5” of bruised dick sticking straight out, and I’m praying to God that this is not my permanent length. Yes, my dick isn’t pumped all the way, and I have read that size does come back, especially for men my age. But still. It gives me some buyers remorse, for lack of a better phrase.

1) any other guys out there that were my size or bigger, regain their pre-op size?
2) have you been limited on how rough you can fuck? I really enjoy being on the rougher side, as do my partners.
3) any tips/tricks to help with healing or regaining size?
4) when did you start using your cock, and could your lovers tell a difference with the way it feels?
5) when were you able to finally lift heavy weights again and start training?

I know size can be regained once cycling begins. And there is the Perito technique to help regain size. I guess I’m hoping for some reassurance that it can be back to pre-surgery length. My surgeon told me the only length loss I should experience would be if my cock head doesn’t get hard - which he said it should still be able to, and that ED meds can still assist with that.

[GoodWood]

1) any other guys out there that were my size or bigger, regain their pre-op size?
2) have you been limited on how rough you can fuck? I really enjoy being on the rougher side, as do my partners.
3) any tips/tricks to help with healing or regaining size?
4) when did you start using your cock, and could your lovers tell a difference with the way it feels?
5) when were you able to finally lift heavy weights again and start training?

Congrats on your implant. I love mine and expect you’ll love your too.

1) I’m 7.25” now and that is my preop size. I might even slightly exceed my preop size but I think that is because I lost a little bit to ED in the years of using pills and TriMix. I was 6.5 girth before and am 6.25 now. But due to the more oval shape it is now it actually LOOKS wider.

2. Once healed you can go hard. Go ahead and be rough. I have been rough with no issues.

3. Follow your surgeons recommendations exactly. Even if several of us were told something else. Ice for the first few days but you are a week out so that time has passed. At your point I found a heating pad comforting. And increased blood flow to the area should lead to increased healing.

4. At 7 days I was told I was cleared for sex at 3 weeks and could gently masturbate whenever I felt ready. Masturbated at 9 days. Didn’t have sex until 4 weeks. I have the Coloplast Classic pump. It’s smaller than the One-Touch and doesn’t have squared off (unnatural feeling) edges. The classic feels like a really firm testicle.

Hookups don’t notice. Most long term fuck buddies haven’t noticed. Two of the noticed and asked about my scrotum. They didn’t think I had an implant. They thought maybe I had a prosthetic testicle. After I explained it, they didn’t care. No one has noticed a change in how my cock feels.

5). I don’t lift heavy but do go to the gym. I was told to wait a few weeks. Start light and easy. And no straining my abs for a while. (6 weeks maybe? I don’t remember.)

Feel free to PM if you have any other questions.

[Oriansalem]

Thank you! I’m on day 4 post implant, since it was just done on Friday. Each day feels a bit better, and only OTC pain meds needed at this point. And I’m able to pull my dick into other directions, now, thankfully! Balls are still swollen, a little tender where the fluid bladder is in my stomach area. But all is tolerable. Able to get up and down from bed/sitting easier and solo, now. First day I needed assistance.
I guess what really has thrown me off is the constant boner, since they have me partially pumped. Like, it’s hard, but it’s like 2” shorter than my normal hard dick and that freaks me out.
I’m hoping with time that comes back.
Good to know rough sex is still possible, thanks!