Super embarrassing to discuss even in an anonymous forum, but here it goes. Very healthy (no diabetes or high blood pressure), active, fit, 55yo man. Long standing history of ED which I attribute to antidepressants and Propecia. I can get and stay very hard when looking at porn and ejaculate 3-4 times a day. That said, when with the wife, my cock absolutely refuses to rise to the occasion, even with Viagara and a vacuum pump. Now, before anyone suggest not masturbating, I’ve been long periods without and it makes absolutely no difference. Also, talking to a sex/couples therapist or trying to spice things up in the bedroom
has not helped. I’ve tried all of the traditional ED treatments with disappointing results. My last option is an implant but I hate to get rid of the function I do have. My libido is off the chart and I would love to enjoy a normal sexual relationship with my wife as this issue has caused many marital problems. Please help!
Do I or Don’t I?
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Do I or Don’t I?
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58yo, healthy, fit man with long-standing ED and disappointing results with conventional treatment modalities. Now implanted (07/2024) with Tactra, malleable implant.
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Re: Do I or Don’t I
Yup, get an implant.
After many years of trying everything that the medical profession had, I...we got an implant. It was a decision that
at WE came to.
For me, having a supportive partner made all the difference. Please involve you partner in all aspects of the implant process.
Our marriage is so secure, because she enjoys sex as much as I do.
stmfttr
After many years of trying everything that the medical profession had, I...we got an implant. It was a decision that
at WE came to.
For me, having a supportive partner made all the difference. Please involve you partner in all aspects of the implant process.
Our marriage is so secure, because she enjoys sex as much as I do.
stmfttr
78 - Married 54 years - Coloplast Titan, 22cm and no RTE's - Installed June 2019 Nebraska Medicine, Dr. Deibert (urologist/surgeon)
Update: Replaced implant due to pump failure. New implant Nov.19th, 2024 - Coloplast Titan w/OTR pump - 22cm + 1cm RTE
Update: Replaced implant due to pump failure. New implant Nov.19th, 2024 - Coloplast Titan w/OTR pump - 22cm + 1cm RTE
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Re: Do I or Don’t I?
tobenormalagain wrote: I can get and stay very hard when looking at porn and ejaculate 3-4 times a day. That said, when with the wife, my cock absolutely refuses to rise to the occasion, even with Viagara and a vacuum pump.
What if she masturbates you?
This sounds like a mental issue that could possibly be fixed.
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56, ED 10-15 years. Pills, Bi, Tri then Quad Mix Injections- all slowly less effective. IPP July 2022 (Penscrotal, Titan, 22 + 1) @6mo back to OEM--7.2"L x 5.5"w
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Re: Do I or Don’t I?
and if you watch porn with her by your side? and you tell her the sexual fantasies you have? just watch with her, let her see how you masturbate and the same from that point something begins
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Re: Do I or Don’t I?
me having erections watching porn and ejaculating 3 or 4 times would never get an implant. I think the problem is in a high psychological percentage. try other techniques
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Re: Do I or Don’t I?
España1980 wrote:me having erections watching porn and ejaculating 3 or 4 times would never get an implant. I think the problem is in a high psychological percentage. try other techniques
Thank you! It’s such a drastic step and there’s no going back or guarantees. Appreciate your sound advice!
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Re: Do I or Don’t I?
tobenormalagain wrote:España1980 wrote:me having erections watching porn and ejaculating 3 or 4 times would never get an implant. I think the problem is in a high psychological percentage. try other techniques
Thank you! It’s such a drastic step and there’s no going back or guarantees. Appreciate your sound advice!
When there is nothing to go back to, your decision is easy. If you still have someting working that you would regret losing if the implant should fail, then the decision is hard.
Lost Sheep
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Prostate Cancer 2023
READ OLD THREADS-ask better questions -better understand answers
Be part of your medical team
Document pre-op size-photos and written records
Pre-op VED therapy helps. Post-op is another matter
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017
Prostate Cancer 2023
READ OLD THREADS-ask better questions -better understand answers
Be part of your medical team
Document pre-op size-photos and written records
Pre-op VED therapy helps. Post-op is another matter
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Re: Do I or Don’t I?
tobenormalagain wrote:Super embarrassing to discuss even in an anonymous forum, but here it goes. Very healthy (no diabetes or high blood pressure), active, fit, 55yo man. Long standing history of ED which I attribute to antidepressants and Propecia. I can get and stay very hard when looking at porn and ejaculate 3-4 times a day. That said, when with the wife, my cock absolutely refuses to rise to the occasion, even with Viagara and a vacuum pump. Now, before anyone suggest not masturbating, I’ve been long periods without and it makes absolutely no difference. Also, talking to a sex/couples therapist or trying to spice things up in the bedroom
has not helped. I’ve tried all of the traditional ED treatments with disappointing results. My last option is an implant but I hate to get rid of the function I do have. My libido is off the chart and I would love to enjoy a normal sexual relationship with my wife as this issue has caused many marital problems. Please help!
Do you have a curvature which is not attributed to PD?
1978, male Netherlands. ED due Propecia use. Currently using cialis.
Thinking about Penile Implant.
Thinking about Penile Implant.
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Re: Do I or Don’t I?
It sounds like you need to do something before you lose a wife.
If you get hard watching porn, and can masturbate 3 or 4 times a day doing that, are you using all your sexual energy on that and not saving any for the wife?
An implant is forever. If you can still achieve erections, it's doubtful any doc would implant you.
If you get hard watching porn, and can masturbate 3 or 4 times a day doing that, are you using all your sexual energy on that and not saving any for the wife?
An implant is forever. If you can still achieve erections, it's doubtful any doc would implant you.
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5+ years, Coloplast Titan OTR
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5+ years, Coloplast Titan OTR
Married 37 years to my beautiful young bride
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Re: Do I or Don’t I?
tobenormalagain,
You are very functional in you natural state, and you don’t need an implant.
It would be sin to destroy your god given function.
Change your antidepressants, try others, Wellbutrin has very good sexual side effects.
Just my 2 cents.
MK
You are very functional in you natural state, and you don’t need an implant.
It would be sin to destroy your god given function.
Change your antidepressants, try others, Wellbutrin has very good sexual side effects.
Just my 2 cents.
MK
IPP 9/5/18; TITAN OTR 18 +1cm RTE,Prostate Ca at 51 y/o; RARP 11/2/16, ED Post RP, Cialis, Viagra, VED,TRIMIX painful, BIMIX ineffective,lost 2+ inches of length after RP. Revision 12/2/20 by Dr Clavell, AMS 700 CX, L 21 R 21+1.5 RTE.
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