First intercourse - Day 42 post-op

[Waynetho]

My wife and I had our first test drive of my new equipment today. I'm just going to explain some things first:

My current length is 5.25" at best and my glans doesn't easily engorge (probably VL, undiagnosed).
My wife is 4' 10" and 270 lb and has mobility problems (falls easily, cannot get up without help)
We worked for about 15-20 minutes trying to engineer a suitable position for the best penetration possible tonight. What we ended up settling for was the old tried & true, "Doggy Style" or rear entry.

With her excessive weight and my "fat pad" above my penis, there was about 3-3.5" of fat between us, meaning I was only able to get about 1-1.5" of penetration. I would have hoped for 3-4" but that is still better than none. A couple of months before surgery we tried after I pumped up using a VED and used some gel rings to hold the erection, but I couldn't get it to stay up long enough to penetrate even the one inch or so we got tonight.

We just received a rental sling lift from a medical supply company for use if she falls and I'm playing with the idea of actually using it as a sex swing to see if we can be creative!

[David_R]

Good luck, Wayne. Fat pads can drive people crazy! Don't give up, brother.

[WhiteCane]

Awesome, man! Myng and I have been doing this thing for about a week now as foreplay… I think it might be something good in your situation? basically, place your scrotum more towards the entry to her vagina and grind your frenulum against her clitoris… Keep the shaft of your penis sort of between her labia… It’s going to feel really really good to her… Myng comes every time… To me, it feels more like a hand job or masturbation but I can come… It doesn’t really feel like penetrative sex though… Anyway, I hope that isn’t a way to forward but just trying to come up with some ideas for you! I love the idea with the lift! I wish I would’ve thought of that in the hospital… You are a creative soul!

[Waynetho]

Anyway, I hope that isn’t a way to forward but just trying to come up with some ideas for you! I love the idea with the lift! I wish I would’ve thought of that in the hospital… You are a creative soul!

Don't worry about being "too forward". Dude, that's why we're here, right? Besides that, I'll probably get myself in trouble at work for discussing my "surgical alterations" too freely. To tell the truth though, I was more modest than most guys before I was admitted to the hospital in May (first time since I was five!) I even switched from a female doctor to a male when my physical was eminent. After my hospital stay in May where two 20-something female nurses gave me a head-to-toe body inspection to check for diabetic sores, and having to pee in a urinal with the hospital door open with people coming in and out all the time, I lost all modesty!

I went from being so modest or shy that if my wife came into our single bathroom while I was showering, I would grab my towel through the closed shower curtain, to now just throwing open the curtain for God and the world to see. I even went full nudist at home for several months after I got out of the hospital. Now I can be nude or not - it makes no difference and I'm not even shy about open blinds either...