3 weeks w/ Titan mostly regret

[Lawrence13]

I actually sympathize with you. I’m not too much older than you and was single like you. Unfortunately, you’re going to have go get used to making some concessions. As there is a price to pay to be able to have a hard dick on demand whenever you want. It took me about 4 months to get back to my pre op size.
And what no one will tell you on this site or is ever talked about is the fact that the flaccid especially in the first year is too much. You feel like you are constantly trying to hide your dick. If you’re not hiding your dick, you are protecting it. In my case, dogs jump on it laying in bed, kids run up and hit it by accident. The worst part about it all is I live in the south and spend most my weekends during the summer on the beach, pool, or on the river. It fucking sucks trying to conceal this thing whether you’re laying out, or getting out of a pool. You can no longer just wear a swimsuit in public, you pretty much have to wear tight underwear underneath. And I’m not gonna listen to argument about just be a shower and be proud of it. Thats ridiculous.

All that being said, I’m still glad I did it. I have amazing sex. Something I’ve never had before.

My advice: your dick is going to be completely normal to women when pumped up so don’t worry what it feels like. They love it.
Don’t worry about the noise, just pump up right before. They never know.
As far as concealment, find you a good jock strap. It’s not nearly as free or as comfortable as previous life, but it’s the trade off.


Good luck

Franklin, when you were ready to star using the implant. How did you go about it as a single guy. What was your mind set at the time m? I thought I was going to have the love and support of my now ex…. That turned out to be …. Not accurate. Newly single with an implant is a tall order.

No one can prepare you for the anxiety you feel when you first start using your implant being single. Will she notice ?when should I pump up? Does she like it ? Your brain is not connected to your dick because you have too much anxiety going. Looking back, having sex with random new partners wasn’t great for me in the beginning because I really couldn’t relax enough to cum.
Things changed for me after about girl number 4 that was a one night stand. She texted me the next day saying I had the best dick ever and was begging for it again. That gave me a ton of confidence moving forward. And continued to get texts like that from others.

As far as your ex goes, she did you a favor. If she won’t stick through this for you now she won’t be there later.
Start dating around and when you find one you are really comfortable with that you know is a good person tell her. But I’d give her deep dicking for minimum 6 months before you tell anyone you are dating. It’s none of their business. The only reason you need to tell her is if you could see yourself marrying her. I’m now happily engaged and we’ve been dating a year. She did the video call with me for a revision with Clavell and was there in the recovery room for me when I woke up helping the nurse. Thank God I told her when I did.
Your ex is gonna be pissed she missed out on this part of you.

I didn’t want my ex to miss it. I very much wanted to be her that got the benefit with it. Will be a long time before I’m over that aspect of things. Anyhow, I appreciate this response so much. Actually helps prepare me for what’s to come so hopefully I don’t crash out after my first experience. I just wonder how many more weeks healing I need before I can first give it a go.

[Lawrence13]

we are not fighting the battle anymore, we have won it already and enjoy sex and life with the best thing ever, with a functional dick, that is better than our dick during ED and for some of us, including me, better than my original dick.

Lawrence,
give it time and try to focus on the positives, you'll have the best sex of your life!
Dan

Dan with out question the goal is to end up like you and have your enthusiasm, happiness and epic sex life with the implant. Make no mistake, I want to be like you. I’m just having a real bad time right now and possibly let my lack of sleep make things exponentially worse.

Lawrence,
As soon as you had your first sex with implant and see the girl enjoying your dick, you'll forget all of your negative points and just go for the next horny chick
Just start it positive and forget the negatives, nothing to loose now and the only way to go forward.
Waiting for your first report of great sex with a sexy horny chick!
Dan

Well to be honest there was one girl that I really wanted it for…. But it doesn’t seem that I’m going to get that opportunity. So yeah eventually someone else will have to do. Just need to keep cycling and recovering to get ready.

[Lawrence13]

I actually sympathize with you. I’m not too much older than you and was single like you. Unfortunately, you’re going to have go get used to making some concessions. As there is a price to pay to be able to have a hard dick on demand whenever you want. It took me about 4 months to get back to my pre op size.
And what no one will tell you on this site or is ever talked about is the fact that the flaccid especially in the first year is too much. You feel like you are constantly trying to hide your dick. If you’re not hiding your dick, you are protecting it. In my case, dogs jump on it laying in bed, kids run up and hit it by accident. The worst part about it all is I live in the south and spend most my weekends during the summer on the beach, pool, or on the river. It fucking sucks trying to conceal this thing whether you’re laying out, or getting out of a pool. You can no longer just wear a swimsuit in public, you pretty much have to wear tight underwear underneath. And I’m not gonna listen to argument about just be a shower and be proud of it. Thats ridiculous.

All that being said, I’m still glad I did it. I have amazing sex. Something I’ve never had before.

My advice: your dick is going to be completely normal to women when pumped up so don’t worry what it feels like. They love it.
Don’t worry about the noise, just pump up right before. They never know.
As far as concealment, find you a good jock strap. It’s not nearly as free or as comfortable as previous life, but it’s the trade off.


Good luck

Franklin, when you were ready to star using the implant. How did you go about it as a single guy. What was your mind set at the time m? I thought I was going to have the love and support of my now ex…. That turned out to be …. Not accurate. Newly single with an implant is a tall order.

No one can prepare you for the anxiety you feel when you first start using your implant being single. Will she notice ?when should I pump up? Does she like it ? Your brain is not connected to your dick because you have too much anxiety going. Looking back, having sex with random new partners wasn’t great for me in the beginning because I really couldn’t relax enough to cum.
Things changed for me after about girl number 4 that was a one night stand. She texted me the next day saying I had the best dick ever and was begging for it again. That gave me a ton of confidence moving forward. And continued to get texts like that from others.

As far as your ex goes, she did you a favor. If she won’t stick through this for you now she won’t be there later.
Start dating around and when you find one you are really comfortable with that you know is a good person tell her. But I’d give her deep dicking for minimum 6 months before you tell anyone you are dating. It’s none of their business. The only reason you need to tell her is if you could see yourself marrying her. I’m now happily engaged and we’ve been dating a year. She did the video call with me for a revision with Clavell and was there in the recovery room for me when I woke up helping the nurse. Thank God I told her when I did.
Your ex is gonna be pissed she missed out on this part of you.

My first response was insufficient in expressing my gratitude to you. Truly detailed things for me that I can look out for and prepare for mentally. I don’t particularly want to sleep with random woman, I still love my ex as absurd as that may sound but … that’s something I ultimately need to face and get over.

[Lawrence13]

@Lawrence13

I'll chime in... I am 5-days out from revision surgery. I had an AMS implant fail after 9.5 years and now have a Titan. Dr. Eid did my revision surgery. I will do a comparison but will save that for another thread.

I wanted to reply to your post because when I originally got my AMS implant, I wasn't much older than you. I had just turned 40 when I got mine. My ED story was a little bizarre. At 37, I got really sick with a mystery illness, that destroyed my parasympathetic nervous system and left me with serious autonomic dysfunction literally overnight. One day I was getting rock hard erections at will, and the next day I wasn't. Pills and shots did nothing. After 3 years of meeting with specialists, it was decided that an IPP was my best (only) option.

By the time of my surgery, my penis had atrophied a massive amount. Prior to getting sick, I was a nice 7.5" erect with excellent girth. I remember post-surgery, when I could finally begin pumping a significant amount, I was maxed out at 5" and had much less girth. Talk about depression, believe me, I understand everything that you are going through. I was a young, healthy, successful, good looking, heterosexual man with a beautiful penis, who was now degraded to a mechanical, MUCH smaller version of myself!

I could go on and on, but I want to get to the point. Once you are fully healed, everything that you are experiencing now, will be a non-issue. I dated many gorgeous women with my IPP, and believe me when I tell you, they all loved it. Also believe me when I tell you, not a single one knew I had it until I told them. That was always an interesting conversation! You will become a pro at inflating/deflating to the point where it will be second-nature.

Regarding size, you will get a decent amount back, trust me. Before my AMS implant failed, I was at 6.25. Now, that's definitely not 7.5", but it is still a significant gain from where I was post-op. If I hadn't been completely limp for 3-years and change, my guess is it would have come back quicker.

Hang in there, implant surgery is a long, slow road. I am dealing with the pain and discomfort as we speak, and it sucks....bad. It is also bringing back not-so-good memories. That said, I have had an amazing sex life with lots of gorgeous, experienced girls, and at no point was my implant an issue. I know it is only a matter of time before this pain and discomfort is once again in the rearview mirror.

Go easy on yourself. Trust Dr. Eid and the process. Be patient, and come back in 6 months and tell us all a feelgood story about a rocking one-night stand with a 10!

Cardinal. Man I’ll tell you what. We had similar situations in terms of being handsome successful confident sexual men in our 30’s only to have it ripped away rather swiftly. The damage that does mentally is hard to put into words. Thank you for sharing your story with me.

I will be very interested to see how you do with the Titan v. The AMS. Keep me posted.

[Lawrence13]

when your incisions are all healed and closed, start using a VED device. It'll help pull some blood into the penis and tissues and it makes you feel a bit more like your old dick again. slip a cock ring on after using the VED and a lot of that blood will stay longer in place, helps a lot to keep the glans engorged with blood especially. It really doesn't feel like an unnatural dick when you do that. Maybe do a 10 to 20 minute VED session before you go out for the night or get together with a person for sex. I have used it also as a bit of foreplay with my sexual partners, some of them get turned on seeing your dick get engorged a bit in a pump before you have sex. That may depend on the level of comfort and familiarity you have with them, but I find quite a few people can view it as a bit of kink and like it. You can find great products on ebay, LeLuv has a wide variety of penis pumps in varying cylinder sizes, with flanged bases so you don't even need a sleeve for it. I use mine every day.

See I was wondering about using the ved. What would be a good way to go about it? Like pump up part of the way and then use the ved? Or 75 percent? I just don’t want to make a mistake.

How I do it, is I put my flaccid penis in the VED and keep it on for about 5 minutes or so, take it off and try to pump up my implant. then I put the VED back on again for ten minutes again, or maybe a few minutes, remove and reapply it several times. each time I take it off I try to pump another few pumps from my reservoir as I think it helps expand your girth slowly that way. You're not going to damage your implant. Those cyclinders and tubes are extremely tough and negative pressure is negligible effect on any of the system.

Do you think it would expedite my recovery and ability to get into a place where I can use this thing with out pain? I’m day 24 post opp and cycling 2 or 3 times a day. Twice in the bathtub and once none bath to try to prepare for conditions of cycling where I might be having sex.

[Lawrence13]

Franklin, when you were ready to star using the implant. How did you go about it as a single guy. What was your mind set at the time m? I thought I was going to have the love and support of my now ex…. That turned out to be …. Not accurate. Newly single with an implant is a tall order.

I moved out and separated from my wife the week before my implant surgery, and was divorced a few months later. I have been dating and currently have a great, exclusive relationship with a woman 14 years younger than me.

Others will disagree, but my advice is: try not to be self-conscious of the implant, most women don’t care too much and many will be intrigued and eventually thrilled with the performance you’ll be able to exhibit. I have been up front about the implant with any woman it looked like I might be about to have sex with, and all the responses have been positive.

There’s nothing to hide or be ashamed of, any more than if you had a curve to your dick or a birthmark on it. It’s just something a little different about you and it’s in no way a failing.

You might want to be discreet if you are just sport fucking, but even then if they ask you what that noise was or why something seems different, just explain it in a matter-of-fact way like you would a surgical scar.

This is much less of a big deal than many men with implants make it out to be, in my opinion. Most women don’t really care as long as you can satisfy them and aren’t an asshole.

Elbow….. I can’t even imagine the mental strength you must have possessed to be able to do that. Leave your wife and get the implant solo. Now dating someone you like and happy. What more could you ask for. I will say that there is no doubt that alot of my troubles have stemmed from the fact that the woman I lived with every once of my being got scared and left me when I was struggling with stopping injections and looking into this. So going into surgery and coming out I was doing so under the duress of sheer heart break. It’s something I’m still dealing with. I don’t have bad feelings towards my ex, she was younger and had her own shit and my situation was not ideal so I understand. Still I wish she could have stayed and that I could share this with her now. Will always bumb me that I can’t. Just going to focus on cycling and rehabbing this thing untill I’m at least confident enough I can survive attempting to use it.