LetoMan wrote:Before we all jump to reporting this doc to the medical board:
I think it’s reasonable for a doc to say that if a man is in a committed relationship, their partner should be part of the discussions. Why? Because that is the best way to make sure that it is a good outcome for the patient. If macoza is having sex with his fiancée, she is absolutely going to know something is different after he gets implanted. It’s not good for him, her, anyone to spring this on her as a surprise. He’s not saying that her consent is required or that she will be informed if he goes ahead with it, he’s saying that the best course of treatment is for both parties in the relationship to understand what is going on and what the implications are prior to getting implanted.
It’s not medical malpractice to say that the course of treatment involves discussion with the partner. If he refuses to bring her in, that’s fine, but the doc using their judgement might refuse to implant as a result if they see that as a red flag for a positive outcome. Whether the doc can do that or not is a technical question in the jurisdiction where the doc is located, but generally speaking docs are not obligated to provide elective treatments particularly if they feel that has the potential to affect the patient in negative ways.
Macoza, if your fiancée has had sex with you previously, it is virtually impossible that she won’t notice afterwards that something has changed dramatically. That is different than the idea that women who have sex with a man for the first time after implantation will largely just assume he is just super hard all the time. That may be the source of your confusion.
My advice is that you discuss implantation with your fiancée and help her get comfortable with the issue, including discussion with the doc.
Be well,
Leto
If by good outcome you mean positive reaction from your partner, then I agree that he probably shouldn't spring this on her.
But if you mean the quality of the physical results of the surgery, I'm going to disagree.
My marriage was so bad at the point when I got my implant that I had almost no support from my wife. She was skeptical of the surgery to begin with, offered no help as I struggled to get approval from the insurance company, had no positive reaction when I told her it was approved, and just dropped me off outside the hospital the morning of the surgery and picked me up the next day outside the hospital.
But I am still very happy with my implant. I didn't have any real problems during my recovery. My doctor has been satisfied with my implant during every yearly follow up appointment we've had.
Overall, I'm going to say that this surgeon is mistaken to refuse to provide the surgical service unless the patient brings in his fiancee.
