duke_cicero wrote:Hey everyone. I just wanted to follow up on my original implant journal from December and subsequently. You can read my original journal at this link.
As of today, it’s been 200 days with my malleable implant. The time has flown by — and mostly I’ve been happy throughout the entire stretch of that time — but I’ve also tried to be as thoughtful of the changes over my journey so far. I’ve documented a lot of notes over the last 200 days. What follows below is my (hopefully) useful distillation of my thoughts, feelings, and experiences over the last 200 days with my malleable implant.
The positives of my experience:
No infection. Let me get the big one out of the way, first. I am very fortunate not to have had an infection after surgery. I picked the Genesis malleable for a few different reasons, one of the biggest being that malleables, being simpler than the IPPs and having less overall surface area, are far less susceptible to infection. What’s more, the Genesis is still the only malleable implant with a hydrophilic coating, which makes it even easier to ensure that the antibacterial coating will be really soaked into the implant. I don’t honestly know the finer details of how that works, but my surgeon and others have explained this better than I ever could.
Relatively brief recovery period. The first few days were the toughest, especially because I live alone. I had to make a lot of adjustments to ensure that the first few days were successful. To anyone who’s considering having implant surgery, please do a lot of preparation — but especially if you live alone. Future you will thank you for your efforts. But after the first full week, it was pretty smooth sailing. I went out for dinner with friends a day before the 2-week mark. Looking back, I’m sort of surprised at this. But looking over my notes, it’s clear that I felt pretty well. I had a few other low-key social outings in the days following. I had my surgery in mid-December 2024. Five weeks later, I was fully cleared for sex and was feeling pretty good, overall.
The sex has been amazing. Yes, amazing, in the sense that I am amazed. I have tears in my eyes as I type this. I have wanted to have normal sexual function for more than 14 years. I admit that I have it pretty good, overall. But at times, it’s what I’ve wanted more than anything in life. There were moments of deep depression and humiliation where I would have traded my excellent education, my career trajectory, my friendships, my entire life situation … all for a functioning penis. And I finally have it. Actually, I have that and more. More than a functioning penis, I’ve had an on-demand (actually, permanent) erection for the past 200 days. Since the start of 2025, I’ve given a number of women sexual experiences that they, in their own words, have deemed quite memorable — and really, I’ve given myself an enormous amount of sexual fulfillment in doing so. I’m not here to brag or to give lurid details, only to remark on how different my life has been.
I am feeling very fulfilled. I’ve wasted no time. In fact, I’ve at times done everything I could to fill my weeknights and weekends with dates. I’ve done a bit of online dating, as well, even during business trips when time is a little tight. I’m doing things that I would never have dreamed of doing in the time before my implant. I have (by comparison to my former self) supreme confidence when I’m sharing coffee, a drink, or a meal with a woman I’m interested in. If things get more serious, I never have any doubts. I’m not looking for a way to gently turn her down. Instead, I’m looking for a way to continue charming her, to continue learning about her. Life feels so much more charged with opportunity and excitement. And, manifestly, it really is.
I love myself more. This is something I’ve struggled with all my life, even before the bicycle accident that would ultimately give me ED. My family’s curse (really the curse of my father’s side) is depression. I take Wellbutrin for it every day, and it’s been an enormous help. But since the implant, my life has really taken a turn for the better. I’m looking after myself more. My wardrobe is getting some upgrades. I look forward to new experiences, even ones that aren’t romantic or sexual. I’m just more excited about things in general. I floss regularly — and this is something I’ve always really struggled with. My condo is cleaner and more tidy than it has ever been. This evening I was remarking to myself that I can’t believe I’m doing all this. It helps to have something to look forward to.
The negatives of my experience:
These almost don’t really count as negatives, but more as things for which I’ve had to make adjustments. I’ve said in the past that I’m 80% satisfied with my implant, and that claim remains as true as it’s ever been. But here are some adjustments I’ve had to make:
I’ve had to adjust how I exercise. But this is mainly because I am extremely cautious, and not because my doctor has told me to act a certain way. I no longer ride a bicycle because I want to be as cautious as possible about potentially hurting myself or being too uncomfortable while riding. There are some seats that don’t have a middle, and I’ve been looking into those. But I’m also paranoid about falling on my bicycle and having some kind of other accident that damages the implant. I’ve also been pretty careful about not lifting too heavy. I’ve been going pretty slow in that regard. But I don’t regret it. I meet my doctor in a couple of weeks to talk about this, and I’ll update everyone here with his thoughts and recommendations.
For a time, I had to avoid wearing stiff pants. For the first few months, most jeans were simply out of the equation for me. I wore a number of different kinds of jogger pants, stretch chinos, and other similar pants — the Lululemon “ABC” pants (which I’ve come to love) and the “kinetic pants” from the Ministry of Supply have become new staples of my wardrobe. But this month especially I’ve gone back to wearing jeans, and I’ve not had any problems at all, even when my daily step count exceeded 15,000 steps.
Occasional subcoronal incision site tenderness. This is mainly after a longer sex session or when the temperature in a room is fairly cold. Occasionally, my subcoronal area gets a little tender. Not pain, and not quite irritation, just mild tenderness. This seems to have been solved by using a water-based lube, which I can also just recommend for basically any kind of sexual activity anyway, even masturbating. It just makes everything feel way better. And I think if you’ve had a subcoronal incision, it makes everything much more comfortable, too.
This has already turned out to be a fairly long update, so I’ll leave things here. I’m happy to answer any questions anyone has. I just didn’t want to let the 200-day mark go by without giving everyone an update.
Finally, I’d like to take a moment to thank all of you for your support over these past 200 days. There’s a lot that can be said about this rather interesting forum, but one of the things I’m most grateful for is how so many of you showed genuine interest and care for my journey, and how frequently you checked in with me and shared your own insights and practical advice. I’m forever grateful to my FrankTalk brothers!
Duke
Thank you man for this thorough update..alot of us are desperate and in dire need to see examples...this means alot to us.
