drayan123 wrote:Hey guys hope you are well, is it really the case after getting the implant it drastically changes and improves confidence ? Like talking to women or sleeping with her, or even just confidence in general in real life . I run away when a female speaks to me cause of this bs ed
Absolutely. I had episodes of ED early on but tried to ignore it or blame it on other things. I never thought of it as physiological - always blamed nerves, or having had too many beers, or something else. I started using pills in my thirties and they worked most of the time but not all of the time so I was always anxious and worried about losing my erection. This took a lot of the joy out of sex and made me focus on cumming before I lost my erection. That made intimacy horrible. The last decade of my first marriage we never had intercourse - she would give me blow jobs once or twice a week and she would get laid during the week while I was working and the kids were in school. It was kind of like the don’t ask do tell policy. It was a hell of a way to live.
I got divorced and remarried in my forties and the pills continued to work most of the time. My second (current) wife and I had good intimacy even if we didn’t have lengthy intercourse. We used to joke that sex was like a Chinese dinner - it wasn’t over until you both got your cookies. I generally got her to orgasm before we had intercourse. But my check engine light came on n my late fifties and the pills began to fail me more often. Finally in my sixties I went to injections and I had great hopes that this would give me good, hard erections. But they never worked for me. It was deeply depressing. My urologist told me I most likely had leakage that had progressively gotten worse and I’d probably never have more than a brief stiffy - nothing suitable for intercourse. That’s when we talked about implants and in January of this year I got mine installed.
It took a couple of months to get use to but now I’m absolutely confident in my ability to get an erection anytime. I jokingly call my penis Eveready. And that confidence is broader than just being able to get an erection. ED gave me anxiety that spread into all aspects of my life and always made me feel less than. I’ve struggled with depression and part of that is probably also from chronic ED.
Things aren’t perfect and we have issues but things are far better than before I got the implant. My wife has been very good to me. We usually have intercourse twice a week or so even though she has very little to no sexual desire. She enjoys the intimacy and we spend a long time just touching and kissing before intercourse. I’ve become confident and have been able to relax and as a result intercourse has been going longer and longer. Ironically that is creating some problems. We’re both 67 and her hips and back bother her. Plus she says after ten minutes her vagina burns and is uncomfortable. We use a lubricant but I’m looking for something that might last longer or work better. We’ve experimented with some different positions to help with her back/hips (and my shoulder) and that’s ongoing. But we do have an underlying issue that’s creating some tension - she wants a quickie but I am loving my new found ability to go much longer. Hopefully we’ll find some common ground.
I probably drifted pretty far from your question but my self confidence or lack of was deeply rooted in my lifelong struggles with ED and sexual dysfunction.
