Marriage vs Implant a great concern in India

[Lost Sheep]

Thanks for posing this question, penitreatment. It is a tricky one. Reaching deeply into the core of the marriage relationship.

So, as I understand your post, in your society, having erectile dysfunction (E.D.) is socially stigmatizing and will lose the respect of a wife. Having treatment for erectile dysfunction is socially stigmatizing and will lose the respect of a wife.

Social stigma can affect a man's standing in his community and even affect his employment or career. The respect of a wife can affect a man in even deeper ways.

I know that in some societies, sex in the marriage does not carry the weight it does in the society with which I am most familiar (USA). Even so, in America for a man to be seen by his wife as strong is very importannt to the man's self esteem. But the strength of a man in my society is enhanced if he is willing to admit to a weakness AND IS WILLING to do what it takes to fix the problem.

There is an old joke about a man and wife in a car. The man is driving and is clearly lost. Yet he refuses to stop and ask directions because he would have to admit to being lost. To a stranger and to his wife (never mind that she already knows). To deny a true fact makes one look foolish. It is funny because it is so often true.

A wife's respect for her husband might be independent of his sexual ability even if impaired by ED (A). Or her respect for her husband might be increased if he admits to (and fixes) his ED (B). Or her respect might be reduced if he admits to his ED, even if he fixes it,no matter how good he is in bed (C).

I suspect you believe (A) and (C). My experience (‌in the people surrounding me) is most emphatically is (B). My belief is supported by the feedback I got from a dating site I posted to. I posted that I was seeking someone to have sex with (kind of like a lab partner) because I was functionally impotent and intending to fix it, probably with an implant. I got no negative responses and many responses congratulating me on my courage and honesty. But these were American women of an older age range than you are thinking of. But I would hope that any woman you would take as a wife would also be your life partner and fully embrace you, your strengths along with your weaknesses and your efforts to tix them.

I know that sexual inadequacy is different than other inadequacies (for example, if you had poor hearing, she would accept getting a cochlear implant more readily than a penile implant for ED). As for me, I would not want to be married to such a woman. You may feel differently and that is OK with me. You must live your own life and decide how important your own sexual satisfaction is. But consider this: Your wife's sexual satisfaction might be important to her and outweigh any reservations she has about sleeping with an implanted man.

You might find this thread interesting to read
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=7738&p=55332

[TheCanalGuy]

Or maybe, a malleable implant, cheaper, no pump felt in the scrotum, and by the way no risk being seen inflating...

Well, remember that a malleable is stiff ALL THE TIME. Whether it is bent down, over to the side, wherever it points, it stays pointed there and does not "dangle" like a natural penis or even an uninflated implanted penis.
What I am suggesting is that any person who has seen a flaccid penis (which most women have, changing diapers of babies if notwhere else) will know something is different with a malleable.

I'm with LS. I can't understand anyway a woman that has changed a male childs diaper or talked with a married woman can miss a malleable implant. There isn't anything natural about it.

...and it is no where close to a 3 pieces inflatable in term of patient's satisfaction.

[advaita]

For Lost Sheep , Gt1956 and TheCanalGuy,

About the malleable implant I thought I was understood.
I know your arguments and they are correct. Comfort, erection, etc, etc... No need to make a comparison.
I do not plead for the malleable, which I do not have and which I could have chosen. I argue for possibly a malleable IN THE SPECIFIC CASE of our friend in India.
And in this very particular social and cultural context, a malleable can perfectly suit him!
That's all my post meant, nothing more.

[vajim1]

ED is a medical problem just like a broken bone that needs a doctors help but a lot more complicated. Should your wife not love you if you break your arm?

[strongagain]

Most of the young guys are suffering from ED in India like me.

I‘m quite puzzled and can‘t believe what you are saying. "Most Indian men are suffering from ED"? Then I wonder about the countles rapes plus the incredible overpopulation... Some young guys suffer from Ed but surely not most.

[penitreatment]

Most of the young guys are suffering from ED in India like me.

I‘m quite puzzled and can‘t believe what you are saying. "Most Indian men are suffering from ED"? Then I wonder about the countles rapes plus the incredible overpopulation... Some young guys suffer from Ed but surely not most.

Your point of view is factual, my English is weak so this was written.

[Agfa13]

Malleable would have my vote BEFORE marriage. Healing is a lot faster. You don't have to hide like the 3-piece.
With the Malleable, all you do is lift up to have sex, put down to put away, but it will *always* stay the same length. Your wife will not know, but she will be curious as to the hardness when you shower, have foreplay, and so on.
If she is a Dr., she will understand, as being a Dr. you will have to have an open mind on what is possible in terms of saving a life.

[Delhi40ed]

Dear penitreatment. I would say that if you have ED and sure that pills are not working, then go for implant. Surely of your wife is new to sex, she may not notice the difference between flaccid and erect. And you don't need to explain anything I guess