Day 50 of My Journey

[barrylandon]

Amen, Bionic Bro! Thanks for your congrats. Yeah, I rock her world whenever and wherever she wants!

[Gt1956]

Barrylandon. I'm a bit surprised that your wife didn't want you to get an implant. Her change of heart must feel good to you.
Women use different words to express their feelings from what men use. Seems that every couple of weeks a new member will express fears of what womens reaction to an implant might be. Do you think that you could post, in her words, what her fears were & what caused those fears to be relieved? Especially in only 100 days.
Going even farther with my thought. If some other members that are in your position would be willing to use their wife/girlfriends own words. Perhaps a new thread should be made to which we can direct these new members to. Remember, describe the feelings in words that women are prone to use. Not how men interpet those words.

[barrylandon]

That's quite a challenge you've thrown out there, Gt1956! I've been married to the same woman for 37 years and I'll be damned if I know what she's thinking, feeling or saying much of the time! I'm an intelligent, intuitive and attentive spouse so go figure.
Anyway, I'll try to contribute here what I can recall...in her own words:
"I don't want you to get it and I won't support you if you do"
"If you decide to do this (unspoken words, "against my wishes"!) it is for YOU, not for me"
"Things are fine the way they are"
"Do you not remember all of the surgeries you've had that left you worse off?" (Ah, she's right about that!)
"(You) having a hard cock is not important for me"

Once I made the decision to go forward with the implant surgery, she slowly become supportive and involved in the process...even going with me to my last two pre-surgical appointments. Although I had a rather difficult recovery period and I'm a bit of a wuss in the pain department, my wife was a real trooper through it all. As a registered nurse, she was especially helpful in managing my recovery from a medical perspective.

My wife remained non-committal toward the implant at the beginning of our using it but as I continued to heal and become more accustomed to my new bionic dick, it was almost like a switch had been thrown in her brain...she became enthusiastic and more turned on than I've seen her in years. In fact, after one of our recent lovemaking sessions, as we laid spent on the bed, she uttered these immortal words...THANK YOU, DR. MILLS!!! Then came the night last week when she had multiple orgasms while in the "woman on top" position...something that hadn't happened in the past 20 years. That night, basking in her glow, she turned to me, kissed my cheek and said into my ear, "I'm glad you had the surgery!!!!" My wife is a woman...enough said!!???

[Gt1956]

Thanks for the reply. I'm looking to document some womens feelings to point out to fearful members. Of course I think they'll point out that it is from a wife, not a hook up. Personally I suspect that both groups would feel very similar in the long run.
My wife has said pretty much the same thing as I'm pre implant. We've been a couple for 51 years. As you imply, some words don't need to be spoken in order to be understood. I can tell that she tries to keep hugging & kissing to a minimum in order to not get too aroused. I can understand the reaction.
Sadly life has gotten in our way. Just as I was making progress on finding a surgeon. This Covid thing hit. So it lets up a little, I get comfortable with a surgeon & now I need some cardiology testing. Looks like by the time this works out I'll be 65 & my surgeon implies that Medicare is easier to get approval from. I'll still have my employer health insurance that will become my secondary insurance.
I think that you & I are in similar positions. Just hoping that jumping in on this thread can show other members how to maneuver through this mess.

[AussieFarmer65]

My Urologist/IPP surgeon (Jesse Mills at UCLA) is an AMS Mentor. What this means is that he consults with other surgeons in the Los Angeles area who are considering Boston Scientific products for their own practice.
Ironically, today is Day 100 of My Journey and I had a follow-up appointment this afternoon with Dr. Mills. When I last saw him 6 weeks ago, my incision had not yet fully healed and the pump was stuck to the inner layer of my scrotal skin, which was keeping it from descending to the bottom of my sac. Both of these issues have since resolved and all post-op challenges I faced have been successfully overcome...and everything works as intended!!!
Dr. Mills said I could stop tugging down on the pump now and cease cycling when I can pump to max without pain. He assured me that my length would not regress if I stopped cycling at that point.
For many of us men who have suffered from ED for years, it can still take some time -- even with an implant -- to leap the mental "fear of failure" belief system that's so ingrained in our psyches. I remind myself before every lovemaking session with my wife that I WON'T FAIL...I CAN'T FAIL!!! She has rewarded me by having multiple orgasms in the "woman on top" position for the first time in more years than I care to recount.
As a "grower" my entire adult life, I'm also delighted with an unexpected surgical outcome...my flaccid penis now hangs 3 times longer than it did pre-surgery. I'm a very happy camper with a wife who didn't want me to have the surgery but is now very glad that I did!!

Thanks for the information about what an AMS Mentor is. I'm booked for the implant in mid October. I'm glad you've had a happy outcome all round.

[barrylandon]

Good luck!

[notaes]

I can’t imagine why a spouse would not want her husband to go ahead with an implant. Everything is so much better. My wife was on board with my from the beginning. It meant the world to me. She sees now every time we fuck how right this decision was for us. She really does love my bionic cock and so do I. I would highly recommend an implant.

[barrylandon]

As I listed, my wife had a number of valid reasons for not wanting me to go through implant surgery. The fact that she's glad now that I did it is a wonderful feeling for me. You're a lucky man indeed that your wife was on board from the beginning.

[LookingUp]

"I don't want you to get it and I won't support you if you do"
"If you decide to do this (unspoken words, "against my wishes"!) it is for YOU, not for me"
"Things are fine the way they are"
"Do you not remember all of the surgeries you've had that left you worse off?" (Ah, she's right about that!)
"(You) having a hard cock is not important for me"

How can we be married to the same woman? My wife's a Nurse also. The Less than perfect surgeries comment has been the most damning. "We'll have sex as long as we are able." Seems more like a BS reason to retire to POS status. (Pussy out of Service)

As been told here many times, do this for yourself.

Glad your story turn out well.

LUp

[barrylandon]

Thanks, LUp. It's just a guess on my part but I suspect that the majority of older women in long-term relationships are not enthusiastically in favor of their men having penile implantation surgery for many different reasons. Because I value my wife and our strong bond, I would not have had the surgery if she didn't eventually relent in her objection to it. Fortunately for both of us, as I wrote, she gradually became involved and supportive...and is now very glad that we both are rediscovering our lovemaking potential.