Confidence after implant

[Happy Toy]

Question for those of you who could get an erection before implant but couldn't keep it long enough for intercourse. That has been my problem for over 6 mo. now, been using injections for 12+ yrs. now, and I'm to the point that I don't try now because I have it in my head that I will fail. My wife is very understanding but I feel like a failure. Question; after your implant and recovery, how confident were you that you would be able to perform? Did it take a number of "tries"? I know we are all different but would like some idea what some of you went through. I'm 74 years young, have a wonderful wife of 51 years, and am looking forward to fully satisfying her, and myself. Thanks for your input.
P.S. Should be having surgery in June sometime, waiting for date, everything has been approved, (Kaiser).

[Greg1956]

I was immediately confident. I knew my bionic penis wouldn’t let me down the way my natural penis had. Perhaps I was too confident and exuberant because I went in fully pumped and it was to hard for my wife and not all that great for me either. Once I deflated to about 75-80% we hit our stride and it has been great.

Greg

[radioradio]

I was immediately confident. I knew my bionic penis wouldn’t let me down the way my natural penis had. Perhaps I was too confident and exuberant because I went in fully pumped and it was to hard for my wife and not all that great for me either. Once I deflated to about 75-80% we hit our stride and it has been great.

Greg

Ditto on all counts.

And the confidence isn’t just pre-intercourse. For me it has changed my confidence in myself across the board.

Best wishes. I’m sure you will love your new life.

Bob

[Happy Toy]

I was immediately confident. I knew my bionic penis wouldn’t let me down the way my natural penis had. Perhaps I was too confident and exuberant because I went in fully pumped and it was to hard for my wife and not all that great for me either. Once I deflated to about 75-80% we hit our stride and it has been great.

Greg

Ditto on all counts.

And the confidence isn’t just pre-intercourse. For me it has changed my confidence in myself across the board.

Best wishes. I’m sure you will love your new life.

Bob

Thanks guys, I am looking forward to it, tiered of the injections. Will let you know when I become a "brother", and how it went.
Andy

[David_R]

I was immediately confident. I knew my bionic penis wouldn’t let me down the way my natural penis had. Perhaps I was too confident and exuberant because I went in fully pumped and it was to hard for my wife and not all that great for me either. Once I deflated to about 75-80% we hit our stride and it has been great.

Greg

Ditto on all counts.

And the confidence isn’t just pre-intercourse. For me it has changed my confidence in myself across the board.

Best wishes. I’m sure you will love your new life.

Bob

Same here. A dick that can always get hard and stay hard as long as I want it to -- oh yeah, baby!

[Lost Sheep]

Question for those of you who could get an erection before implant but couldn't keep it long enough for intercourse. That has been my problem for over 6 mo. now, been using injections for 12+ yrs. now, and I'm to the point that I don't try now because I have it in my head that I will fail. My wife is very understanding but I feel like a failure. Question; after your implant and recovery, how confident were you that you would be able to perform? Did it take a number of "tries"? I know we are all different but would like some idea what some of you went through. I'm 74 years young, have a wonderful wife of 51 years, and am looking forward to fully satisfying her, and myself. Thanks for your input.
P.S. Should be having surgery in June sometime, waiting for date, everything has been approved, (Kaiser).

Here's my prescription:

Pump up to just barely enough that your dick does not buckle when you press on the tip with the pressure (from your hand) approximating the pressure from you wife's vagina during penetration. (Your wife does not have to be present for this).

If your erection is of such a size that you can conceal it in everyday activities, do this during the day. If not, do this at night.

The purpose is to show/reassure/convince your unconscious mind that your dick will stay erect, no matter what.

That SHOULD give you the confidence that your erection will not cooapse at inopportune times.

This is what I do to boost my confidence that I can rely on the implant to maintain an erection usable for sex.\

Having said that, my and my partner's problem is no longer MY ability to maintain an erection. But her ability to move with the flow. (She has bad knees and other problems).. An ironic twist. Before, I had difficulty. Now SHE has the difficulty.

But I have found that my confidence that we can try this position, that position, another position, position after position until we find one that works. And I can try repeatedly without a single shred of doubt that my erection will BE THERE for her to try whatever position will work for her.

Second prescruption:

Level with her. She WILL understand. Women are chromosomaly wired to be supportive (I know, that SOUNDS sexist, but trust me, it is not. It is no more sexist than recognizing that women produce eggs and men produce sperm.) And, aftera all, it is in her best interest for the two of you to succeed.

Third prescription:
Remember that it is not the destination that is the goal. It is the JOURNEY. Even if you don't have orgasms (either of you), coupling is the journey.

[rancher]

It has been about two years since I've had intercourse with my wife. At that point nothing kept me hard enough to have penetration. I'm currently at 32 days post op. I have my 6 week followup appointment with my doc next Wednesday. He'll "officially" start me cycling and probably give me the "go ahead" for having sex. I've been cycling on my own for a week. Though I'm not back to my full pre-op size, I am extremely excited about how hard I get when I pump up. I cycle twice a day and try for an hour and a half hour session. Having my dick this hard for an hour at a time is building my confidence tremendously. For years prior to no longer being able to have intercourse, I was always worried that , "will I be able to stay hard enough long enough ." Now, that won't be a problem. My wife and I have been talking "frankly" and we are both excited and nervous about our first sex post-op. Not having to worry whether Mr. Dick will be able to hold up his end of the deal, I can concentrate completely on my wife and making her happy. And you better believe that makes me extremely happy.

And that gives me confidence that I have not had for a long time.

[Happy Toy]

It has been about two years since I've had intercourse with my wife. At that point nothing kept me hard enough to have penetration. I'm currently at 32 days post op. I have my 6 week followup appointment with my doc next Wednesday. He'll "officially" start me cycling and probably give me the "go ahead" for having sex. I've been cycling on my own for a week. Though I'm not back to my full pre-op size, I am extremely excited about how hard I get when I pump up. I cycle twice a day and try for an hour and a half hour session. Having my dick this hard for an hour at a time is building my confidence tremendously. For years prior to no longer being able to have intercourse, I was always worried that , "will I be able to stay hard enough long enough ." Now, that won't be a problem. My wife and I have been talking "frankly" and we are both excited and nervous about our first sex post-op. Not having to worry whether Mr. Dick will be able to hold up his end of the deal, I can concentrate completely on my wife and making her happy. And you better believe that makes me extremely happy.

And that gives me confidence that I have not had for a long time.

Thanks again! Can't wait, it's going to be a loonngg 2+ months before I can try out my NEW "equipment". We have always had a good sex life, although she just won't do oral, which I would like, but otherwise, really tries to please me, especially lately with "my" problem. I really want to please her with something other then a vibrator, she deserves it!
Andy

[wolfcreek]

I am not confident that mine won't blow out while pumping it up (like my first one did after just 4.5 years....). Can't afford another one when this one blows out. Hopefully it will last longer than the first one...

[Larry10625]

It has been about two years since I've had intercourse with my wife. At that point nothing kept me hard enough to have penetration. I'm currently at 32 days post op. I have my 6 week followup appointment with my doc next Wednesday. He'll "officially" start me cycling and probably give me the "go ahead" for having sex. I've been cycling on my own for a week. Though I'm not back to my full pre-op size, I am extremely excited about how hard I get when I pump up. I cycle twice a day and try for an hour and a half hour session. Having my dick this hard for an hour at a time is building my confidence tremendously. For years prior to no longer being able to have intercourse, I was always worried that , "will I be able to stay hard enough long enough ." Now, that won't be a problem. My wife and I have been talking "frankly" and we are both excited and nervous about our first sex post-op. Not having to worry whether Mr. Dick will be able to hold up his end of the deal, I can concentrate completely on my wife and making her happy. And you better believe that makes me extremely happy.

And that gives me confidence that I have not had for a long time.

Thanks again! Can't wait, it's going to be a loonngg 2+ months before I can try out my NEW "equipment". We have always had a good sex life, although she just won't do oral, which I would like, but otherwise, really tries to please me, especially lately with "my" problem. I really want to please her with something other then a vibrator, she deserves it!
Andy

I am quite certain if you really wanted a BJ, there are some very discreet ladies that would be willing to accommodate you for a fee. They would be really good at it too, maybe even swallow. That may improve your love life with your wife because you wouldn't be resenting the fact that she won't blow you.

As for vibrators, my wife had one called it the Air Touch, and she goes just nuts for this thing. We use it during foreplay and I usually control, although she usually takes it and finishes herself off. This is a great little toy and I highly recommend it.

Larry