Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

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NYSee123
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Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby NYSee123 » Tue May 19, 2020 5:53 pm

Hey guys,

So I just confirmed my surgery date with Dr. Eid for the end of June. It's bittersweet because a part of me is super nervous.
I am constantly going back and forth with the what ifs and hoping that I am making the right decision. Has anyone else been in this spot before?

I mean, I am 33...been dealing with this shit for a long while, but the thought of this being irreversible is what leaves me concerned. In addition to that, I am still young and want to be sure that it comes off and feels as "natural" as possible. I don't want to have to explain myself to anyone I am sexual involved with....at least not until I am settled down. I've read different posts where guys have expressed frustration with the way the cylinders feel and there being discomfort. Is this so?

I've been fortunate enough to sit in on an appointment with a patient with Dr. Eid and was shown how it works, but I didn't touch it. That would've been a bit awkward in that moment, but from you all that have been implanted, how "natural" does the implant feel under the penis skin on a scale from 1-10 with 10 being super natural??

I just got on edEx and that has worked for now, but I have to use the entire tube In order to have a semi-okay erection that is good enough to shove in. I am able to get turned on and stiff, but I am unable to maintain it for very long. Also, sometimes nothing happens at all.

I thank you for reading my ramblings. I am just super nervous and feel comfortable speaking with someone with experience.

Thanks.
32; Suffering from ED since 21. Been on all pills and injections. Considering implant in 2020.

Charlie2019
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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby Charlie2019 » Tue May 19, 2020 6:15 pm

NYSee123 wrote:Hey guys,

So I just confirmed my surgery date with Dr. Eid for the end of June. It's bittersweet because a part of me is super nervous.
I am constantly going back and forth with the what ifs and hoping that I am making the right decision. Has anyone else been in this spot before?

I mean, I am 33...been dealing with this shit for a long while, but the thought of this being irreversible is what leaves me concerned. In addition to that, I am still young and want to be sure that it comes off and feels as "natural" as possible. I don't want to have to explain myself to anyone I am sexual involved with....at least not until I am settled down. I've read different posts where guys have expressed frustration with the way the cylinders feel and there being discomfort. Is this so?

I've been fortunate enough to sit in on an appointment with a patient with Dr. Eid and was shown how it works, but I didn't touch it. That would've been a bit awkward in that moment, but from you all that have been implanted, how "natural" does the implant feel under the penis skin on a scale from 1-10 with 10 being super natural??

I just got on edEx and that has worked for now, but I have to use the entire tube In order to have a semi-okay erection that is good enough to shove in. I am able to get turned on and stiff, but I am unable to maintain it for very long. Also, sometimes nothing happens at all.

I thank you for reading my ramblings. I am just super nervous and feel comfortable speaking with someone with experience.

Thanks.



Don't be nervous... Dr. Eid is one of the best in the world (not my surgeon)... Git er done. :)
53 years old. 3 botched circumcisions starting at 3 years old. 2 botched reconstructive attempts, finally got the AMS LGX on Dec 14, 2017 in London Ontario by Dr. Gerry Brock. Great Dr. Love my implant

68CatFan
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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby 68CatFan » Tue May 19, 2020 6:52 pm

If you have exhausted all other avenues then you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Nervousness is all a part of it. I bet most of the other men were anxious to some degree. Keep us updated after the surgery and good luck.
Fifty-one years old. ED started at age forty. I took Cialis for eight years and used Trimix for almost three. Implanted 12/6/22 by Dr. Jonathan Clavell. AMS 700CX 21cm.

mikestap
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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby mikestap » Tue May 19, 2020 7:10 pm

I mean, I am 33...been dealing with this shit for a long while, but the thought of this being irreversible is what leaves me concerned. In addition to that, I am still young and want to be sure that it comes off and feels as "natural" as possible. I don't want to have to explain myself to anyone I am sexual involved with....at least not until I am settled down. I've read different posts where guys have expressed frustration with the way the cylinders feel and there being discomfort. Is this so?

I've been fortunate enough to sit in on an appointment with a patient with Dr. Eid and was shown how it works, but I didn't touch it. That would've been a bit awkward in that moment, but from you all that have been implanted, how "natural" does the implant feel under the penis skin on a scale from 1-10 with 10 being super natural??


Your question is almost like comparing apples and oranges. And I’m sure each man’s experience and outcome will be different.

For me, I can definitely discern the cylinders in my shaft. I can feel the tips in my glans. My erection length is different if I sit, or assume any position where I bend at the hip.

But my wife enjoys the hardness, when what she wants is hardness. And she likes the control; we can dial back on the hardness (# of pumps) for a different feel.

A lot of guys talk about the ability to feel the pump. Yes, if she likes to play with your balls, she’ll feel the pump.

In summary, sex (and life) with an implant is different. But it’s still amazingly better than the alternative.
64 Years. RALP 2013. Received 22cm Titan Dec 20, 2017 by Dr Hakky. See results at download/file.php?id=5320 and download/file.php?id=4754
Revision 3-25-21 24 cm XL No RTE

erik821
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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby erik821 » Tue May 19, 2020 7:14 pm

He's not questioning his choice of doctor he is asking how natural his penis will feel to himself and to other women after his surgery.

On a scale of 1-10.

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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby rdnkbiker » Tue May 19, 2020 9:22 pm

Heres my @ cents lots of guys in NY find one that would show you let you feel it show you how it works like above we are all different but should give you some idea how it feels ect… lots of guys on here are more than happy to help with that I think on the discussion boad there a thread where we live or something like that most will say there location and if they will do a show and tell good luck
Jim
HBP since my 20s Full ED i was 55 when i received my implant January 17th 2017 sever scare tissue through corpora cavernosa clear to the glands (no blood flow) complete revision new equipment july 10th 2023 AMS CX 21cm by DR.William Brant very happy

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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby Waynetho » Tue May 19, 2020 10:01 pm

NYSee123 wrote:I mean, I am 33...been dealing with this shit for a long while, but the thought of this being irreversible is what leaves me concerned.


From one respect, it isn't "irreversible". You can be explanted and have the device removed. What doesn't typically happen is return to rigid erections after being explanted (or any erection at all).

That being said though, how does that compare to what you have now? I went with my surgery with no reservations, no apprehension and not even one worry or bad thought. I had lived with a declining erectile ability for the past 5 years or so and what to me was severe Peyronie's disease, or large hard plaques at the base of my penis and in the shaft, for about 25 years which caused deformities.

I actually knew I was going to get three piece inflatable penile implant before I even sought the counsel of a urologist. I had watched all of the surgery videos on Youtube, looked at still photos, read all of the medical papers on the subject and had already decided I was doing it. Only obstacle was to convince the insurance and to complete the necessary testing and other treatments required by insurance before going for the implant.

I knew that if it didn't work, the results wouldn't be any worse than what I had had for the past 20+ years with a bent and mangled member that for the past few years didn't even get an erection for masturbation.

The bottom line:
The only one who can make this call is you. No one should pressure you or encourage you either way. It has to be right for you in your mind, but the one thing you need to ask yourself - If you do it and then later decide to remove it, will you be any worse off than you are now?
62yo, married 41 yrs. Urolift (x4) 8/12/19. AMS 700CX 15cm (no RTE) penoscrotal 10/28/19, Frisco, TX. PD 1995/ED 2011. Cialis helped but hinged. (1995)L:6/G:5.5+, (2019)Pre-op L:5/G:4.5, (2/2020)L:6.0/G:5.0

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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby WhiteCane » Thu May 21, 2020 2:12 pm

OK, my girlfriend agreed to feel it out and let me know honestly in her perspective… starting in the scrotum… She feels the bulge of the cylinder that is not normal in most peoples implants but is going to get fixed in mind… She personally would notice the pump which is very common but, again, extremely noticeable in mine just for the fact that I have a tighter scrotum “even when I’m warm, it only drops about a half an inch further from my body“… moving onto the shaft… I let her touch it soft first… She said in that state, she could feel it but cannot see it or anything different about it… The noticeable thing in that position was the tips “They are solid not inflatable“… in the hard position, she said it felt like a natural penis… she wanted me to let you know personally, From a woman’s perspective, That with most women, the penis has very little to do with sexual satisfaction… anytime I bring up peoples concerns, she tells me that a good woman is going to accept you for your heart. If you really want to amaze a girl in the bedroom, get good at your tongue game and your listening game… I think this is an amazing option as a last resort… she said that there was no beating around the bush “no pun intended“ but, it is not a 100% natural erection… It does feel different but, it is extremely similar and if she didn’t know me and my history so well, she probably wouldn’t even question anything… All of our penises are different… she said every penis she’s ever had in her has been different… no one’s gonna question it unless they feel the pump or touch it flaccid in her opinion… that’s an in-depth review from an early 30s something woman to an early 30s something man…
Implanted October 2019 Dr. Kramer lgx 18 cm +2 rear tips. Preop at 6.75 post op 5.25... awaiting revision… Implanted for possibility of having our first child.

erik821
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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby erik821 » Thu May 21, 2020 3:22 pm

WhiteCane wrote:From a woman’s perspective, That with most women, the penis has very little to do with sexual satisfaction…


Every time I hear a woman say that I just think bullshit. It's just not true. At least in my experience.

Yes they say that because what are they supposed to say in the face of a less than ideal dick attached to someone they care about emotionally? "I would love a 9 inch BBC to be honest but what choice do I have honey?"

Yes oral and toys are fine but at the end of the day and given the choice women want a hard dick. I'm sorry but it's true. They need it and if they say otherwise it's just to not hurt anyone's feelings.

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Re: Just Confirmed My Surgery Date But...I am Scared

Postby Lost Sheep » Thu May 21, 2020 4:50 pm

WhiteCane wrote: If you really want to amaze a girl in the bedroom, get good at your tongue game and your listening game

Recalled from a 1960's Playboy continuing column, "Unabashed Dictionary":

That would be a "Cunning Linguist" :lol:
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