Advice on relationships with implant

[deathstroke15]

Hey guys I should be getting my implant sometime around May or June next year! Should be going to Dr Eid definitely not going to just an average surgeon. I will be 23 when I get the surgery done. I don’t plan on telling hookups about my implant unless you guys think otherwise? My big question is how hard will it be to get in a relationship? I don’t plan on telling the girl until things are kind of getting serious. Any advice on relationships and hookups on how to tell the girl or if i should tell them would be appreciated. Any younger guys with implants that have any advice on this would be extremely helpful too.

[Lost Sheep]

Hey guys I should be getting my implant sometime around May or June next year! Should be going to Dr Eid definitely not going to just an average surgeon. I will be 23 when I get the surgery done. I don’t plan on telling hookups about my implant unless you guys think otherwise? My big question is how hard will it be to get in a relationship? I don’t plan on telling the girl until things are kind of getting serious. Any advice on relationships and hookups on how to tell the girl or if i should tell them would be appreciated. Any younger guys with implants that have any advice on this would be extremely helpful too.

Don't overthink.

In Cosmopolitan Heather Smothers wrote an article (May 2019) about the dating scene and men with E.D. You might want to go to you local library or online to read it. It is not a very deep article, though.

Women are INCREDIBLY supportive and accepting if they feel trusted, respected and SAFE. I would not LEAD with the fact I had an implant on the first date, but if the gal seems interested in adding sex to the relationship, I would definitely disclose before sex. Disclosing after the first encounter brings up questions of your trustworthiness. But I recognize that there are arguments for concealing the fact of your implant as well.

There are a multitude of threads in the forum that discuss how to disclose, when and whether. Read through old threads and you will find them. Search for "Woman's Perspective" (or "Women's Perspective" to find one of them.

Remember, women choose to make love to the MAN, not the penis.

Hookups are another issue. I don't have any experience (or much advice except, make sure you know who you are bedding).

How hard will it be to get into a relationship? Every woman I have slept (both of them) with knew about the implant even before we ever met. It was in my dating profile that I was impotent and intent of getting an implant. I had a few volunteers to to the "lab work" before and after surgery.

How hard will it be to get into a relationship? How hard will it be to STAY in a relationship? I lost a number of relationships because of my erectile dysfunction before I learned to please a woman sexually (and emotionally) without an operating penis. As far as I am concerned, a woman who would reject me for inability to get erect is not worth my time (of course, hookups are an exception).


Consider the thread here (the link below), and the number of ideas put forth by implanted men. It may be pipe dreams that a guy would wear any of these suggestions on a T-shirt in a bar hoping for a pick-up... Or they may be serious.

viewtopic.php?f=6&t=12167

[Lost Sheep]

I still advise you STRONGLY to take a couple days over the next couple weeks to read through discussions here. What you find will give you background to understand what you are getting into (and what will be getting put into YOU). Knowledge is power. But, what the heck, here is a sampling to get you started

What will she think? - a womans perspective
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=6513

Any offers for sex from intrigued girls?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=7166

How will young women respond to implants?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... 9&start=30

Getting discovered: How to tell a woman
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=9236

Pumping in front of her a mood killer?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... 6&start=10

Another Day, Another Research Question - Sponteneity
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=9501

What excuse did you use? (More about explaining the surgery than to your partner)
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=9787

She can't feel anything (a little bit off the subject)
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=9594

Afraid of sex
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... 3&start=10

Is this a common story?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... =6&t=10089

Does it feel different to her?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... =6&t=10103

[WhiteCane]

My man, I’m 32… I met my girlfriend when I was 25… I had just gone through congestive heart/kidney failure and went blind a month after that… We met two months later… I figured out the time that I had no sex drive because of dialysis and all of the systematic failure is going on in my body… we really loved each other on an intellectual and spiritual level she told me she was going to wait as long as she needed… We figured all kinds of fun things out “mouth, toys, Things like that“… two years ago, I got the phone call that I was receiving new organs from a young man who had died in a car accident… Since then, it’s been even more of a struggle because I can’t blame dialysis or any of the other medications on it anymore… last year on Thanksgiving, I woke up to my beautiful PhD recipient Vietnamese girlfriend laying next to me crying her eyes out… she read that another one of her friends was having children… We then started researching adoption, other forms of fertilization… Someone in an adoption forum told me about the implant… We decided that this was the best bet to preserve our relationship and also give having a kid a shot… I had my implant surgery about two weeks ago… We can’t wait to get this thing going! Anyway point of that ramble is that my dick has never worked with this girl… It’s what you’ve got in your head and your heart, not your pants… It is so true and I never believed it but it is! Women have issues to you and generally are more understanding of issues like this than men are…. Be confident, be upfront… Women love an honest man… It gives them a certain feeling of trust if you’re just straightforward with them… Pussyfooting around it helps no one and just causes confusion when things do get serious… You’re going to find your princess… this has all given me the opportunity to learn so much more about her than just what makes her tick sexually… Even that, I’ve got some bonus tracks now… really, go for it! The girl that judges you isn’t the girl you want, my friend… I’m always here and I can always ask her direct questions if you have any that you need to know what women’s opinion on… She’s the most and judge mental human being in this world. Put your nerves to the side, bro… Only about 5% of her mind is thinking about your dick… Best of luck in your research and moving forward on all of this!