Scared but pushing forward

The final frontier. Deciding when, if and how.

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craig45nj
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Scared but pushing forward

Postby craig45nj » Tue May 14, 2019 6:24 pm

Hi all

Brand new here - I am a 45 year old married male with a VL as diagnosed by Dr. Eid. I am scheduled for surgery in a few weeks and scared. I want to cancel and fast forward a month at the same time. I go back and forth on this about 100 times a day.

Really would like a friend around my age in same boat and situation. Someone who has done it already would be helpful too.

I may be rambling and seem all over the place, cause I am.

I am afraid of the pain, not being happy with what I did, and the finality of it all.

Any advice ?

philly444
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Location: Philadelphia, PA

Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby philly444 » Tue May 14, 2019 6:30 pm

I just sent you an PM
AMS 700 LGX 18cm, implanted December 16, 2016, University of Pennsylvania, Dr. Wm. Jaffe Married to a Man

warrenw
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Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby warrenw » Tue May 14, 2019 6:35 pm

Craig, I'm sending you a PM.
Implant - Dr Eid 12/2017, Titan Touch 20/21cm no RTE, 125cc reservoir

TANGERINE
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Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby TANGERINE » Tue May 14, 2019 6:49 pm

here are my thoughts:

If you really like sex, then you should go through with the operation (assuming pills and injections do not work).

Shown below are some thoughts that I gave to a franktalk member named jackhammerdreamz:

Hey jackhammer: your note which describes the frustrations you have with "another sex attempt, another sex failure" illustrates exactly the place that you should be mentally before getting the implant. I felt exactly as you did; and just as you allude to, the alpha male approach to this is :

"fuck this shit, I am talking things into my hands and will opt for the nuclear option of fixing this problem once and for all"

You are ready brother. Just remember my mantra when you are feeling scared:
"do not be a pussy, stand up tall and fight this beast called erectile dysfunction like a gladiator"
"Strive hard to find the best implant surgeon -- surgical experience really matters"
(55 yo with Titan 22cm implant Feb 2017 by Dr Eid) Great experience -- I'm super pleased with my length and girth and implant performance.

Lost Sheep
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Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby Lost Sheep » Tue May 14, 2019 6:59 pm

Knowledge is power.

Knowing what you are in for has the effect is dispelling fear. If you are still afraid, you need more knowledge.

This is my opinion, but firmly believed.

I researched for two years. Once I decided, I never had a moment's doubt, misgiving or a single second of the "WTF did I do" feeling that many men have mentioned here. And this is coming from a guy who has a history of second-guessing every decision I ever make.
Lost Sheep
Born 1948 AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT; no second chance with one's first.
Anchorage AK, USA

Smetro
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Location: Australia

Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby Smetro » Wed May 15, 2019 2:36 am

Researched almost zero, watched no videos of operations, did see one showing inflation/deflation.
Found a fantastic surgeon, trusted him......followed his instructions post op and I have fantastic cock....possibly better than the original in some ways
65, Titan Touch 22cm+1.5cm rte's op done in Melbourne, Australia Feb 2017 Venous leakage over a previous 2 year period, did pills and Caverject. Length 2 years+ post-op is 7.5” erect, 6.5” flaccid and almost 6” girth

Dave52
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Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby Dave52 » Wed May 15, 2019 5:34 am

You have picked the best of the best to do your surgery. I'M 6 months out and glad that I chose the implant and the surgeon. The pain is tolerable and the healing is quiker than you think. My wife and I both are happy with the decision.You will look back a month after and say what was the reason for all the stress.
All the Best
Dave
Born 52
Prostatectomy 6/1/18
Viagra worked before RRP
Trimix painful Bimix both Ineffective
Titan 20CM 1CM RTE
10/26/18 Dr.Eid

gautengrob
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Joined: Tue Dec 02, 2014 9:32 pm

Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby gautengrob » Wed May 15, 2019 8:45 am

I had been waffling for years I just got to the point the tire is flat well what do you do with a flat tire ? You fix it ... I had no hesitation I worried about this worried about that came d day it was ok I had no second thoughts. I’m five days in to the implant. I can’t feel the pipes I have a semi hard on . Left hand pipe is seated beautifully right popped out I put it back in place stress stress stress called surgeon he’s not worried at all. Everything is moving forward I have support from Doug through this in text and voice I really suggest you find someone to walk you through the process the board is great but that personal touch helos
Progressive ED since 2005 Heart Attack at 38 Heart Valve replacement 2014 Viagra works 5% of the time implant May 10 2019 Dr Licht lgx 18 plus 2

Larry10625

Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby Larry10625 » Wed May 15, 2019 10:41 am

craig45nj wrote:Hi all

Brand new here - I am a 45 year old married male with a VL as diagnosed by Dr. Eid. I am scheduled for surgery in a few weeks and scared. I want to cancel and fast forward a month at the same time. I go back and forth on this about 100 times a day.

Really would like a friend around my age in same boat and situation. Someone who has done it already would be helpful too.

I may be rambling and seem all over the place, cause I am.

I am afraid of the pain, not being happy with what I did, and the finality of it all.

Any advice ?



I sent you a private message. :)

Larry
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SW0110
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Location: Central Kentucky

Re: Scared but pushing forward

Postby SW0110 » Fri May 17, 2019 3:34 pm

Got my titan on March 7. My wife and I are enjoying. Wish I had gotten it sooner. Like 2 years ago. Took me that long to find a urologist to tell me I had venous leak. If I had been told that at first visit I would have gotten it the next week.

Lots of stories on here about good and bad experience. Have faith and hope for the good one. I had almost no swelling. Bruising only on one side of my scrotum and stopped pain pills after a couple days. Still adjusting to it but better every week. Sex and orgasm for me is the same as it ever was.

Having a hard erection beats not having one every minute of every day. Something happened to this thing today I would be back in a surgeon office tomorrow wanting to know when and what I need to do to get it fixed.

Oh. Every week getting straighter and a little longer. I had a 30 or so degree curve and hard plaque which shortened me over past 3 years.

So happy here. I would definitely advise anyone with ed to go for it period. A lot of opinions on pills, injections, etc. If you do not have a venous leak maybe those work . I firmly believe trying to have sex on viagra with a semi hard erection with blood going out as fast as in caused my peyronies.

Good luck.
Central KY. Fell around 2.5 yrs ago on the boys. ED, venous leak, and Peyronies developed since. Implanted March 7, 2018, Dr. Kevin Campbell, Cincinnati, OH. Titan was used due to 30 to 35 degree curve. 18 plus 1. Excellent experience so far. Happy so far


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