Better off without anyone in my life?

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lifelong
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Re: Better off without anyone in my life?

Postby lifelong » Tue Jan 08, 2019 5:03 pm

Hey Guys,

Thanks very much for the info and support. It's definitely a lot to think about. I'm in Canada and already met the top expert in the country here (Brock). He suggested the newest LGX model for me. He said the complete septum means its likely sooner or later I'll be in trouble anyway (if one vascular supply gets compromised I'm screwed as there is no communication between the two sides).I actually chickened out of the surgery a year ago. I do work in a high performance field and fear complications such as urinary issues such as leakage, etc. I can't work if that were to happen so that is quite frightening. I know it's uncommon and although I've had plenty of surgeries before (small injuries), this one obviously is just more scary.

As for injections, pretty sure I'm doing them correctly. I get the flashback and inject. I wonder if the pharmacy sometimes just didn't mix it right. I currently use bi-mix. Even with low doses it stay semi hard for 3-4 hrs. Trust me, my doc and I have tried all different combos and doses - unfortunately I'm too sensitive to that stuff. I can deal with the pain (and trust me it's painful at 4 hrs) but it's the inconsistent results that kill me. Of course I could guarantee it working if I injected way more but that's a no-go.

I'm currently 6 inch in length and a bit over 5 in girth. Not sure how these would be affected with an implant.

Lots to think about. I've made another appt to force myself not to ignore this.

Thanks again
41 years old, ED for 20 years, likely multifactorial (nerve & vascular etiology). Deciding on surgeon for implant. Canada

Larry10625

Re: Better off without anyone in my life?

Postby Larry10625 » Wed Jan 09, 2019 5:23 am

lifelong wrote:Hey Guys,

Thanks very much for the info and support. It's definitely a lot to think about. I'm in Canada and already met the top expert in the country here (Brock). He suggested the newest LGX model for me. He said the complete septum means its likely sooner or later I'll be in trouble anyway (if one vascular supply gets compromised I'm screwed as there is no communication between the two sides).I actually chickened out of the surgery a year ago. I do work in a high performance field and fear complications such as urinary issues such as leakage, etc. I can't work if that were to happen so that is quite frightening. I know it's uncommon and although I've had plenty of surgeries before (small injuries), this one obviously is just more scary.

As for injections, pretty sure I'm doing them correctly. I get the flashback and inject. I wonder if the pharmacy sometimes just didn't mix it right. I currently use bi-mix. Even with low doses it stay semi hard for 3-4 hrs. Trust me, my doc and I have tried all different combos and doses - unfortunately I'm too sensitive to that stuff. I can deal with the pain (and trust me it's painful at 4 hrs) but it's the inconsistent results that kill me. Of course I could guarantee it working if I injected way more but that's a no-go.

I'm currently 6 inch in length and a bit over 5 in girth. Not sure how these would be affected with an implant.

Lots to think about. I've made another appt to force myself not to ignore this.

Thanks again



I am 52 years old and I had zero complications, including length loss. Measure yourself before surgery. When Dr. Brock says it's ok, start cycling at least 3 times a day for 30 minutes each. Be creative... inflate as soon as you wake up in the morning, during your shower, shave, etc. The LGX expands both length and girth and I can tell you that it really does work. Trust Dr. Brock, he's the best. :)

Larry

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Re: Better off without anyone in my life?

Postby DaveKell » Wed Jan 09, 2019 12:12 pm

I'm not sure my experience gives me anything to contribute to this thread but I'm compelled to respond, so I guess here it goes. After reading the OP twice I have the impression a question is being implied about accepting a life without sex and staying in an isolated existence for the most part. The rational I'm perceiving being given is the extreme (in the OP own estimation) lack of experience, so what's the use of trying to change anything now? I'd like to say that my human compassion brain cells just went into hyperdrive, or warp drive, depending on whichever was supposed to be the fastest in science fiction. I mean, dude I feel for you and how you are sabotaging your future happiness with these affirmations. Stop it now. You have literally decades of fulfilling manhood escapades ahead of you by adopting a new outlook. Hugh Hefner was a virgin until he was 26 but man did he ever make up for it. It's like my uncle told me when I was a teenager, "once you get it wet the race is on!". Sex has never been anything approaching rocket science, the absolute dumbest of homo sapiens have been engaging in it since the dawn of time. You can go to Walmart any time of day and see proof in their descendants mindlessly propelling shopping carts at other shoppers. You can rack up suitable experience in one week with a reliable, fully functioning dick. The mental health turbo charging this will do for you will make your current outlook disappear in the rear view mirror at the speed of light. It appears you're trying to accept that you've already missed out on way too much. Try adopting a little perspective. I had a cousin born with cerebral palsy who wasn't supposed to live to the age of 12. He was horribly crippled and wheelchair bound his entire 36 years of life. His body was mostly useless but his mind was near genius level intelligence. He knew early on how new human beings were produced and also that he would never participate in the process. One thing David (yeah, they named him after me!) was remembered for the most was the radiant, happy smile he carried most of the time. He had no choice in the matter of a sex life, you absolutely have the opportunity. There comes a point where consideration of the risks and drawbacks should no longer be at play in the decision process. I hope you are getting to this point fast. An entirely new, fulfilling lifetime is available to you. You have only to reach out and take it. In fact, if I win the lottery tonight (already have 2 tickets), the tab for your implant surgery is on me with any doctor of your choice. Hang in there my friend and set your sights on a different existence than what you've proposed so far. I'm sure you'd prefer the existence most of us on this forum have attained for ourselves by resolving the ED brain fuck we used to have. My best to you. By the way, if anything I've said was in any way offensive, I apologize. I had zero intent for any of this to be other than encouragement.
Became DaveKell 2.0 on July 18th with Dr. Allen Morey in Dallas, TX. AMS 700 CX implant. 18cm with 5.5 RTE's.

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Re: Better off without anyone in my life?

Postby handfulWES » Tue Jan 15, 2019 3:05 pm

PLEASE DON'T FEEL THIS WAY! I don't promise to be short so that is out of the way.

As early as my 25th birthday I was having problems with ED. When I turned 27 life was over and I was married with 2 small children. My wife accused me of sleeping around since I could no longer perform in the bedroom or any other room. I was going to church where a young man who was studying to be a doctor and I talked to him. He recommended a doctor and I made an appointment and though he wasn't taking new patients he did take me because Dan had recommended him. The first thing he did was check my Testosterone level and it came back at an all time low of of 150mg. He ran some other test to see if there was a medical reason that I wasn't making sufficient "T". I was normal with no tumors so the next thing was to start "T" treatments and damn if they didn't work. Once my level reached about 850 I was flying and felt like a whole new man. I still had problems with ED as all men do and by the time I was 40 it was difficult to make the end without several tries. I then started looking for more answers and I tried everything including injections. I had a different doctor and he was great: my only problem with the injections was that I would maintained an erection for up to 9 hours and that was very painful. I then chose to go at 42 with an implant and I have used implants for over 26 years with 3 replacements.

I have condensed my story but I sough treatment. I went thru many doctors till I found the ones that offered solutions of substance rather than something mental. YOU CAN HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE. So few doctors check for your "T" level!!!! The TV is full of junk science and once in your mind you fail that is a hard one to erase. SEE a good Urologist. I have had 2 over the years. The first one did my first 2 implants as I wore them out and the pump broke (AMS units) My last was a coloplast and it has been far better than the AMS all because they make theirs to handle all sizes of penises and handle the girt as well. Those were 2 things I lost some on with my first 2 implants.

AGAIN DON'T GIVE UP! Seek some real help from a good doctor. I also recommend talking with a close friend who understands your problem. I do this in my area for free. My first doctor still sends me guys to talk with. I know I said a 3rd doctor did my last implant because the VA did it and the doctor I had was the fucking bomb. He was young, implants where is special thing and more so he was gay as my first doctor was Bi. I don't believe that matters but if you swing in 2 directions or just in one an open minded doctor is geat.

handfulWES
68, single, have had an implant since I was 42. Goals: to help men with ED; help men over come years of failure; to know their bodies; have a richer fuller sex life whether they or straight, Bi or gay. last I traveled this road starting in the late 60's

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Re: Better off without anyone in my life?

Postby ChosenOne619 » Thu Feb 28, 2019 8:29 pm

I am 22 years old and as far as I can remember I've had ED. But I'm being proactive about it and you should too. I believe maybe one day I'll get an implant and they will call me bionic man. But I'm on this journey with you. At 22 I feel like I've lost time so I can Imagine how you feel but don't be discouraged. One day you and me will experience successful sex. It's my dream to find a women to love. And I know it must be also for you too.
22 year old male with Ed since I could remember. Tried sildenafil 20mg per pill went up to 4 pills didn't work and side effect were getting to me. San Diego, California where I reside

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Re: Better off without anyone in my life?

Postby QuestionGuy » Sat May 25, 2019 6:04 pm

I was under the impression that:

- only the Titan could accommodate 5" in girth.

- only the LGX could give a softer flaccid penis.

Is that an oversimplification of the devices?
I'm 55. PostFinasterideSyndrome/Peyronies . Initially had good erections but numbness. Now erections are compromised, but good sensitivity. I see Dr. Irwin Goldstein and do : TRIMIX-Clomiphene-Arimidex –Cabergoline -Cialis -Traction-VED-Pshot-gainswave

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Re: Better off without anyone in my life?

Postby franglais » Sun May 26, 2019 8:44 am

I was glad to read that you have made another appointment... and I hope you will truly consider the implant. I had mine at age 59.... nine years ago.... and I wish I had done it sooner! I had zero problems. I think I missed about 10 work days.... but no problems with leakage at all. Actually, I think we are talking two different systems here. Prostate surgery can sometimes result in leakage as the urethra actually passes through the prostate.... and sometimes the bladder sphincter can lose its grip a bit... resulting in leakage issues. I had my prostate out at 52 and never had that issue at all. But with the implant, the doc is not touching your bladder.... and with surgical procedures these days, you should have minimal to NO chance of leakage from an implant. You won't "feel" the implant.... I was worried that I might feel like I had this "foreign object" inside my body afterwards.... but that is NOT the case. But... even psychologically.... it was a boost to be able to have an erection whenever I wanted.... and it can remain hard as long as I like. I hope you will eventually go through with the implant.... as so many others have said, there is a whole lot out there you have not experienced. You have the time to learn new things.... and perhaps the implant will give you more of a sense of confidence. But honestly..... EVEN if I were living alone.... and never had sex again... I would STILL enjoy having the implant and erection simply for my own pleasure. Best wishes to you. I hope you will keep us posted on what you ultimately decide to do!!


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