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I was sitting out here in my shop earlier today lettering a small sign and began to think of my journey to end up with an implant.

I was immediately struck with how my overall outlook on life has changed dramatically. I was defeated and vastly unmotivated most of the time before the implant. I spent years being withdrawn from life, to the point of closing down my business at age 58 and retiring. I tolerated being married to my wife but could find no joy with the woman who had been my champion through 18 major surgeries, a few that laid me up for months at a time. She did everything for me without complaint and just let me go through what I was going through. I spent years in an existence of laying on the couch all day watching mindless tv, not willing to participate in much else.

What a difference 7 months has made. My oldest son commented to me a few months ago that he couldn't help but notice how happy me and his mother seem to be. I'm all of my grandkids favorite by far of their two grampas, they have the most fun with me. I've played guitar for well over 50 years and since being implanted started attending a weekly jam session. I started writing songs I played there that well received. I've attracted the notice of a couple recording artists who are interested in recording a few of my songs. I started another small business doing small hand lettered interior decor signs I sell at craft fairs and have a blast meeting all the new people there. Plus, it's a way to continue with my nearly 40 year trade of being a master signpainter.

All of this because I can have sex with my wife again. I make no apologies for being someone whose self worth as a man was very much tied to my ability to have sex. I know many successfully find ways to live without it, I am not one who could. You guys at FrankTalk have been a big part of my transformation. Your stories are what led me to this life changing procedure. I hope all of you are experiencing as much and more of the benefits I am.

Dave,
I never dipped into any real depression because of my ED, but my wife has commented that she really likes this new guy she is married to. I asked her if she meant my dicta do she said,that too but she meant the new happier me. I said I didn't realize I was unhappy before and she said I really wasn't but I have more spring in my step and smile and laugh more now.

Greg

Thank you so much for this. I have recently made the decision to get an implant. Like many I have reservations. This was a wonderful. Reinforcement for me.

Before surgery, I was kind of depressed. However, due to my search for fixing the problem, I tried to leave it in the back burner. What really affected me immensely was the fact of experiencing three botched procedures before having it finally fixed. Along the way, I met incredible people whom support helped me a lot.

Sadly, I also encountered other people that I really want to fully erase from my life since they were supposed to be there to help, but their egos and ulterior motives did not allow them to be their best.

Now I feel that I am in the process of full recovery; physically is almost done, but emotionally is still dragging me down.

Nevertheless, I have this such great cyber brotherhood called FrankTalk that is just a few clicks away to look for and find the information and support needed.

ThePlumber

Hi Dave-

Great stuff you wrote. I am genuinely happy for you. I read your post at just the time. I just got done jerking off to a porn of a guy getting a blow job. And I thought wow at 49 I couldn't keep it up long enough to enjoy a blow job. When I say jerk off I mean with a very soft dick.

I don't think I will really understand just how chronic/bad my lack of zest for life really is until I am implanted April/May.

Thanks again Dave.

Dave
I am glad things are going good for you. I wish my wife was as supportive as yours and many others are.

Here’s the thing. I became very successful in business. Money no object. Every possible toy, the big house, the fantastic holidays - everything from the outside looking in would and did make Everyine think “lucky sod”. Not so. For years and years the constant drag of a non functioning cock weightless me down daily. So I worked harder. Made more money. Bought more toys. Got an even bigger house with 8 rooms alone we don’t use!! Looking back it was just a smoke screen and nothing but nothing made me happy because I was having to swallow stupid pills and then they didn’t work. Then injecting - bloody awful bit it worked despite how vile it was. But now the fog has cleared. Yes I still have the toys and the houses but believe me I now have a clear mind and a working dick. I’d have given up all the wealth in an instant.

good post. The ability to function sexually must be at the core of a man's identity I would think, at least for the vast majority. I am due to be implanted in Late march /early April, also with a Coloplast Titan, and if all goes well, then one of the things I am most looking forward to is that lifting of the cloud of anxiety that hovers around ED, and the associated depression.

JohnThomas wrote:good post. The ability to function sexually must be at the core of a man's identity I would think, at least for the vast majority. I am due to be implanted in Late march /early April, also with a Coloplast Titan, and if all goes well, then one of the things I am most looking forward to is that lifting of the cloud of anxiety that hovers around ED, and the associated depression.

Best wishes John and here’s to lifting the clouds. It’s a wonderful feeling.

Dave
I have to say I feel the same you do I was very depressed didn't really enjoy life anymore sat around doing nothing I got my implant and a whole new world was there and thanks to a lot of guys on franktalk helped with lots of support 3 days before my surgery the insurance denied my implant but life was looking so good on the other side of ED I decided to go ahead with the surgery and hopefully get it resolved I made a little head way but my surgery was complicated it was almost 5hrs long story short after all said and done I still owe the hospital over 50 thousand set up a payment plan it will take longer than the implant will last lol but I guess what I'm saying is I would do it again. if I had to...... the feeling of being a man there nothing better everyone around me notices I have worked hard all my life same job for 33 years and we will make it through thanks to all the support here on Franktalk

Thanks
Jim