Helping Another Guy With ED
Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2017 2:40 pm
In 2014 I was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer. Soon after I got the news I had a dental appointment. When my dentist asked how I was, I told him about the Cancer. He said he had just started back to work following his leave after having his prostate removed due to Cancer. He let me know if I wanted to talk about it, or had any questions, to feel free to call him and he gave me his cell phone number.
The following week I called and we talked for quite awhile. It was helpful and reassuring to be able to hear from someone just going through what I was about to deal with. A couple months later I had recovered from my own surgery and had another dental appointment to get a crown. He asked how it all went and we talked a bit. As I was on the way out he asked me to step into his office. He asked if it was OK to ask me a personal question and I said sure. He said his Cancer had been intertwined around some nerves and in order to remove it the nerves had to be cut and he could no longer get an erection. He asked if my nerves were salvaged or if I had the same date. I told him my nerves were spared during the surgery, but told him about my Venous Leak and history with ED. He hadn’t duscusssd his options with his Urologist so I suggested he do that. It was before I started having the conversation with my doc about implants.
During the time since then we have asked each other how things are going, but haven’t talked details. I just got another crown a couple weeks ago so I asked if I could talk to him in private. I told him about my implant and asked if he had done anything about his erection problems. He had not. He had developed the attitude that his sex life was over and it was meant to be. He didn’t have time to talk but I told him to call me if he wanted to talk.
About a week later he called and we talked a long time and he asked a lot of questions. I told him I would be happy to show him in person how my implant works. He asked if I was comfortable showing his wife too. I said that was fine. So last night I went to their house and the three of us talked and I could tell they were hesitant to ask to see how my implant works so I got up and said let me show you how it functions.
I had both of them touching my penis while it was flaccid and then they each pumped it up, felt how firm my erection is, and then deflated it. They had been reading about implants and saw some references to guys losing penis length and asked if that was my case. I told them my size history and how I am back at pre-Prostatectomy length, but not at my original length I had prior to long term ED. He wondered what size his penis would be if he had an implant. I told him about the stretch test as a way to get a pretty decent estimate. He asked his wife to get a tape measure and when she returned he dropped his pants and boxers and exposed a huge dick. It was about 6” in its soft state and he stretched it out and had his wife measure it. It was almost 9”. I told him his soft size would likely increase and his erect size should remain pretty much the same as it had been.
It is unusual to get so personal with my dentist, but it felt very comfortable and natural. He was very grateful and moved from believing his fate was sex as he had known it was over and now he’s making an appointment with his doctor to discuss getting an implant. I have no doubt when he gets his I will be hearing all about it and it wouldn't surprise me to get a viewing, too.
There are so many men who are afraid to even talk to their own doctor about their penis and any problems they have sexually. I don’t get it. Why live in silence and frustration when you can be open and get help? His willingness to tell me about his erection problems lead me to be open with him about my implant and now he is comfortable getting his own problems fixed. It feels great to see another guy brighten up when he sees help is on the way.
The following week I called and we talked for quite awhile. It was helpful and reassuring to be able to hear from someone just going through what I was about to deal with. A couple months later I had recovered from my own surgery and had another dental appointment to get a crown. He asked how it all went and we talked a bit. As I was on the way out he asked me to step into his office. He asked if it was OK to ask me a personal question and I said sure. He said his Cancer had been intertwined around some nerves and in order to remove it the nerves had to be cut and he could no longer get an erection. He asked if my nerves were salvaged or if I had the same date. I told him my nerves were spared during the surgery, but told him about my Venous Leak and history with ED. He hadn’t duscusssd his options with his Urologist so I suggested he do that. It was before I started having the conversation with my doc about implants.
During the time since then we have asked each other how things are going, but haven’t talked details. I just got another crown a couple weeks ago so I asked if I could talk to him in private. I told him about my implant and asked if he had done anything about his erection problems. He had not. He had developed the attitude that his sex life was over and it was meant to be. He didn’t have time to talk but I told him to call me if he wanted to talk.
About a week later he called and we talked a long time and he asked a lot of questions. I told him I would be happy to show him in person how my implant works. He asked if I was comfortable showing his wife too. I said that was fine. So last night I went to their house and the three of us talked and I could tell they were hesitant to ask to see how my implant works so I got up and said let me show you how it functions.
I had both of them touching my penis while it was flaccid and then they each pumped it up, felt how firm my erection is, and then deflated it. They had been reading about implants and saw some references to guys losing penis length and asked if that was my case. I told them my size history and how I am back at pre-Prostatectomy length, but not at my original length I had prior to long term ED. He wondered what size his penis would be if he had an implant. I told him about the stretch test as a way to get a pretty decent estimate. He asked his wife to get a tape measure and when she returned he dropped his pants and boxers and exposed a huge dick. It was about 6” in its soft state and he stretched it out and had his wife measure it. It was almost 9”. I told him his soft size would likely increase and his erect size should remain pretty much the same as it had been.
It is unusual to get so personal with my dentist, but it felt very comfortable and natural. He was very grateful and moved from believing his fate was sex as he had known it was over and now he’s making an appointment with his doctor to discuss getting an implant. I have no doubt when he gets his I will be hearing all about it and it wouldn't surprise me to get a viewing, too.
There are so many men who are afraid to even talk to their own doctor about their penis and any problems they have sexually. I don’t get it. Why live in silence and frustration when you can be open and get help? His willingness to tell me about his erection problems lead me to be open with him about my implant and now he is comfortable getting his own problems fixed. It feels great to see another guy brighten up when he sees help is on the way.
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