Non-penetrative Sex

[steveg19]

I am thinking about an implant. I've been using a strong does Trimix for something like 5 years and it never got me all the way erect.

About 10 years ago my wife had a hysterectomy. Afterwards she doesn't want to be penetrated. I know this may sound weird and there are medications etc. I love her and respect her decision. There are things we do to pleasure each other.

I know that erection is different from orgasm but it sure does feel better with an erection.

So under these conditions is it waste of time and money to get an implant. This would be for me to feel better about myself.
I plan on seeing a doctor in the next month or so and telling him everything. My wife understands my feelings and is OK about it.
What do you all think?

Thanks

[Old Guy]

Go for it if you ask me. Just the feeling of an erection increases my libido and desire sex. An orgasm does feel better with an erection vs a soft penis.

[Secondchance!]

How do you think having an implant would make you feel better about yourself if you’re not going to be using it for penetrative sex? I got my implant less than a year ago because I had exhausted all of the options. I am at peace with my decision, but I also feel that it is oversold by the ‘bionic brotherhood’ on this site. It does not feel the same as a natural penis, and there was quite a bit of loss of sensation for me, resulting in making it difficult for me to have an orgasm, even while masturbating.

Have you tried using a cock ring in conjunction with the injections? I was able to get very hard using a cock ring even without injections, but unfortunately, that only was for masturbating and never for penetrative sex, I don’t know why.

I suspect that if you see a doctor who does implants, he will suggest you get one after listening to your story because that will be his bias, it is thus for all specialists.

Give it a lot of thought, but good luck to you whatever you decide!

[Mark1974]

Don't do it. You may love it or it may complicate your life and make you feel like you are burning in a self created hell.

[LastHope]

I am thinking about an implant. I've been using a strong does Trimix for something like 5 years and it never got me all the way erect.

About 10 years ago my wife had a hysterectomy. Afterwards she doesn't want to be penetrated. I know this may sound weird and there are medications etc. I love her and respect her decision. There are things we do to pleasure each other.

I know that erection is different from orgasm but it sure does feel better with an erection.

So under these conditions is it waste of time and money to get an implant. This would be for me to feel better about myself.
I plan on seeing a doctor in the next month or so and telling him everything. My wife understands my feelings and is OK about it.
What do you all think?

Thanks

If I were in your situation, I would still consider getting an implant to enjoy vibratory and penetrative masturbatory pleasures using sex toys, some of which can provide really incredible sensations that mortal humans cannot offer from a purely sensory aspect. I also agree with the 'feel better' aspect.

[Bandit]

Steve
U didnt mention anything personal about yourself. How old are you and what is your general health. Also same questions regarding your wife. The implant can surely add another dimension to your life and sex. Maybe the addition of an erection would stimulate your wife into trying some hormone replacement. Definitely some conversations to have with your doctors. There is a wealth of info on this site. Some nay sayers but much more support from those who are very satisfied with their decision to move forward. Best to you whatever you decide.
Bandit

[Ephi82]

I’m about 3 months post surgery and it has been an amazingly positive thing for my ability to enjoy orgasms on a regular basis.

Quite simply, nothing has more sensual sensation, and brings me quickly to orgasm, as the feeling of my outer penis tissue sliding along a hard erect shaft. After years of trying to make the Tri mix work, I now reliably have orgasms.

The sensation of a hand job is fantastic and when she takes me in her mouth while doing it, I come like I never did when I was 25.

If Tri mix is no longer working, and you really want to keep having sex ( of any kind) do it!

[Mark1974]

There are a lot of cheerleaders here, but there are a lot of downsides to the implant. You will lose the sensation of blood flow, you may damage some nerves, the IPP's will break and then you will be mechanically impotent and have to fight with insurance to cover new devices or go broke trying to fix your "bionic" penis.

I so, so , so regret this and I hope you think very carefully about it.

[duke_cicero]

There are a lot of cheerleaders here, but there are a lot of downsides to the implant. You will lose the sensation of blood flow, you may damage some nerves, the IPP's will break and then you will be mechanically impotent and have to fight with insurance to cover new devices or go broke trying to fix your "bionic" penis.

I so, so , so regret this and I hope you think very carefully about it.

With full respect to Mark's experience, which I am very sorry to hear about, it is nevertheless worth noting for the sake of balance that every medical intervention — whether penile implants, routine dental surgery, or even taking a dose of ibuprofen — carries non-zero risk. How many of us here have taken a single dose of ibuprofen without issue? Probably all of us. And yet, there are cases of people taking ibuprofen and experiencing Stevens-Johnson Syndrome, which can be deadly.

Getting a penile implant is a serious procedure. I agree that there are too many thoughtless cheerleaders on this forum. For me, it has been a positive life change. It is not a 100% perfect intervention in my case. As LastHope has noted for himself, it's roughly 80%. But I'll take 80%, and I'm quite happy with it. I weighed the possibility of the negatives and took a calculated risk.

Worth thinking about the next time you reach for ibuprofen. Not everyone has the same experience.

[LastHope]

Nicely said, Duke, about the nature of medical interventions. Wow, there’s so much wisdom tucked inside a pill bottle. Thanks again for reminding about our 80% good discussion. Time’s ticking and “good” shouldn't become the enemy of the “best".

Full respect to Mark's views during his rough journey. Mark my words (no pun intended) it's only going to get better with each passing day.