Implant 3rd Anniversary: Happy with Implant? Yes. Happier Marriage? No.

[FinallyBionic]

Folks, today I am celebrating my 3rd anniversary of being bionic.
After spending more than 3 years trying to get erections just enough for penetration using pills and injections soon after, I got my implant. During this period my marriage turned into a nightmare and we were close to divorce many times. My belief was that we will have a happy life with the implant. I thought that we will be having sex at least 3 or 4 times a week. My wife wasn't on board when I did it. She was against the idea, but I went ahead and did it without her support. It took a couple of months till she accepted it, and we started enjoying it. But the heated conversations, arguments, and frequent fights kept us apart. We lost intimacy. We could hardly be in one bed.
I am glad that I have the implant, and it is really a game changer for me. I do not have that stress of not being able to get an erection or maintain it anymore.
However, the fact is if you and your partner have such an unhappy life when you suffer from ED, and your partner kept on complaining, the implant won't fix your life. The complaints are shifted towards other things. This is what I realized after 3 years being implanted. A loving a partner will always support and help you and understands that you are suffering more.

[ThailandBound]

I do understand. My wife and i were already seperated when i got my implant. Among other complaints about me (many, it seems), ED and my sexual performance were an issue for her. Our final year together was one of neglect, and i spent many nights alone.

We finalized our divorce late last year, but that two year separation prepared me mentally and emotionally for the divorce to come. During that time i met my girlfriend who was totally supportive and understanding as i navigated my healing journey.

My heart goes out to you and i hope you two are able to find a better place in your relationship.

I guess an implant will only help an already solid relationship, but it doesn’t have the magic power to fix a bad one.

[Mark1974]

Does your wife denigrate you for having an implant?

[FinallyBionic]

I do understand. My wife and i were already seperated when i got my implant. Among other complaints about me (many, it seems), ED and my sexual performance were an issue for her. Our final year together was one of neglect, and i spent many nights alone.

We finalized our divorce late last year, but that two year separation prepared me mentally and emotionally for the divorce to come. During that time i met my girlfriend who was totally supportive and understanding as i navigated my healing journey.

My heart goes out to you and i hope you two are able to find a better place in your relationship.

I guess an implant will only help an already solid relationship, but it doesn’t have the magic power to fix a bad one.

Well-said ThailandBound. Really, the implant doesn't have that power to fix such relationships.

[FinallyBionic]

Does your wife denigrate you for having an implant?

It is kind of like saying when angry that now you because you got your new toy you are totally changed, and baseless accusations of cheating with women that I don't even know. It is like always trying to proof that I she is a victim of something that I am doing or being unfair to her.

[Old Guy]

Sorry about the relationship troubles. Sounds like things started going south before the implant. And that didn't fix anything.
The only advice I can offer is be nice. I know, not much help.

[FinallyBionic]

Thanks OG!

[ThailandBound]

Does your wife denigrate you for having an implant?

It is kind of like saying when angry that now you because you got your new toy you are totally changed, and baseless accusations of cheating with women that I don't even know. It is like always trying to proof that I she is a victim of something that I am doing or being unfair to her.

Oh man. I dealt with that numerous times. Accusations of cheating. I’m an airline pilot who travels constantly. I’d frequently come home to another accusation of cheating. I’ll admit that in marriage #1, I did precisely that. I never did with wife #2. After an all night flight, i’d come home exhausted then have to deal with that shit yet again.

“Proof?” i’d ask. “”texts? emails? calls, etc?”. Never proof, just the assertion she “knew” i was cheating. I was guilty. In her mind. How does one deal with another’s ingrained belief when they can’t be rational?

I guess because her previous partners and husband cheated, and she’s a jealous Brazilian, she was hard wired for that.

Eventually i had enough.

[Rider1400]

My marriage was having a LOT of issues the last several years of my ED journey. Mostly due to her thinking I had ED because she didn’t turn me on!! Or that I wasn’t attracted to her anymore. It went on endlessly even though I proved thru test that I had a severe VL. Either way she supported me thru the implant and over the first 6 months It seemed to get thru her head that it really was a physical issue. Our marriage is now stronger than it’s been in 20 years and we will celebrate our 38th anniversary this summer.

[mbambo]

Nearly same issue here
But am still trying holding my marriage after 9 years and 8 years daughter

Am implanted about a year and half ... I think that all well grown ladies having mental issues dealing with ideal sex with their partners (us)

But unfortunately i love her and want to keep trying not to let it down