New girlfriend killing me, not funny

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Manonfire
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New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby Manonfire » Sun Jul 02, 2023 3:08 pm

Hi fellas. So I'm a fit 55yo that was implanted in 2018 after postop prostate cancer. I was married then to a lady that was a year older than me. She was entering menopause so sex was rare.

Today, I have a new girlfriend who's aged 28yo and she is killing me. We have had sex nearly every day, sometimes up to 3x a day for the last month. She is on her period so I'm getting a small break as I write this.

She's fit and built small with a shallow vagina. When she rides me I get the most intense pain afterwards I've ever felt. It's like my urethra is irritated, and the glans beat to hell. Sometimes I can feel the implant moving at the base as it's hitting my pelvis. It's not funny.

She loves my cock and knows I have the implant (AMS LGX). I think I have had more sex in the last 30days than in the last 25yrs, maybe 35. I love her and she does me so I plan on keeping her.

Questions: Have any of you had a similar experience with implant pain from frequent or hard pounding sex? Will it "toughen" up as I heal between episodes?

We've tried skipping days but it fails when we start hugging or kissing then it's off to the races. I really hope I can adjust physically and be able to accommodate her and enjoy the ride. Any advice or comments?
Age 51, had prostate cancer. Surgery to remove prostate 12/17. Implanted 3/18, at VA Medical center in Cincinnati. AMS, LGX 15cm, 3cm RTEs.

Mark1974
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby Mark1974 » Sun Jul 02, 2023 3:15 pm

This is one reason among many I would avoid young women like the plague :lol:
I was born in 1974. I've had venous leak ED since early 30's, but managed with pde5 inhibitors until mid 40's. I have fairly severe hour-glassing, but no hard plaques. My urologist is worldwide acknowledged expert Dr. Laurence Levine

Lost Sheep
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby Lost Sheep » Sun Jul 02, 2023 3:27 pm

I recall one gentleman who had a longer penis than his wife could accommodate (her pain, not his). They solved the problem by a couple of stiff foam rubber rings he would put on his penis to limit penetration.

I don't know if this would lessen your girlfriend's pleasure or not, but it should lessen your discomfort. If she LIKES to have her cervix pounded hard, you may have to adjust.
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017
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Old Guy
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby Old Guy » Sun Jul 02, 2023 3:43 pm

Yup I remember the post Lost Sheep mentioned and have seen that issue solved before the same way.
Other than that, lucky man!
Nov. 8, 2019
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Gt1956
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby Gt1956 » Sun Jul 02, 2023 3:55 pm

Sounds like to me that this girl has an IUD. The "string" that hangs out of the cervix is too short. The string is similar to monofilament fishing line. It is used to detect if the IUD has moved by gently fingering it monthly. Contrary to popular thoughts, the string is frequently actually trimmed a bit too short. So it is easy to poke you in your urethra opening. If its short it won't flex out of the way. Think of how coarse your facial hair feels just before shaving vs how soft a beard feels.
I've had this happen to me after our last child was born & the dr didn't want to put my wife back on birth control pills.
I suggest that if indeed she has an IUD? You try wearing a condom a few times to see if you can have painfree sex. If the sex is painfree, your girlfriend needs to have her IUD replaced & have the string left longer.
Actually, giving this a little more thought. If she doesn't have an IUD. The condon idea might give your urethra time to toughen up.
68yo, HBP at 40, high triglycerides at 45. Phimosis at 57. Type 2 at 60. Dr. William Brant May 1, 2023 CX 21cm w/no rte's penoscrotal 6" girth @ 6 months

FinallyBionic
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby FinallyBionic » Sun Jul 02, 2023 5:24 pm

Manonfire,
This is serious. You have an implant, a mechanical part that can break at any time. Your glans can suffer erosion and cylinders may dislocate. Pain is a signal from your body that something isn't right.
You need to be careful with it. You love each other, and your relation is ignited by sex. If anything happens to your implant, the down time will be very hard for both of you, and mostly you will breakup.
My suggestion is to talk to your girlfriend and try to avoid positions that cause you pain.
Finally Bionic
1969. RP Oct. 2017. Pills and Trimix didn't work. Inguinal hernia repair on both sides. AMS CX 21 cm+1 RTE, by Dr. Kai Li at Kaiser, VA, Jan. 2021. FT member since July 2020 as AST2123. See my previous 457 posts.

Captain1117
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby Captain1117 » Sun Jul 02, 2023 6:42 pm

Have you looked at the sex chairs they sell at amazon.
There is an image on a post started by Tangerine "Advanced sex technique..."
If she likes to pound the gap created by the small seat might help.
" The greatest benefit of an implant is that a man stops thinking about ED."-Dr.Eid

48, healthy, straight, single.ED after turning 40. AMS LGX implanted by Dr.Yonah Krakowski in June 2023.

wolfpacker
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby wolfpacker » Sun Jul 02, 2023 7:02 pm

You do NOT want to have a distal perforation which is where the tips start to stab through the glans area. I recently had to tell my girlfriend we need to have less sex with her on top as I was having a similar problem.
Early 30s with ED for years from penis enlargement stretching and jelqing. Implant by Dr Eid on 24 June 2021 with a Titan 24cm with +1cm RTE on one side and -1cm cut off on the other side

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2435tjklAS
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby 2435tjklAS » Sun Jul 02, 2023 7:05 pm

You mentioned when she rides you and it made me first check which device you got and then find this study (Poster #111) about how woman on top seems to be a particular weak spot for AMS devices:

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Parylene coating has been proven to increase the durability of AMS 700 series penile prosthesis cylinders. However, aneurysmal failures in parylene-coated AMS 700 cylinders during "woman on top" intercourse have been reported. It is surmised that buckling of the cylinder results in this particular mode of failure.


I don't really know how any of this helps you. One way of thinking about this is finding fit attractive women obsessed with fucking you is a good problem to have, so I wish you the best of luck.
39. AMS 700 LGX, 21+3. Nov. 2, 2021. Idiot who abused alcohol for brain injury, abused viagra for implant.

Goal to prove implants increase dick size

Pre-op dick size: 8.75" x 5.7"

Current: 9-9.5" x 5.5"

Goal: 10+" x 6+"

cobylinks
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Re: New girlfriend killing me, not funny

Postby cobylinks » Sun Jul 02, 2023 7:34 pm

Easy fix. Don't inflate 100%,
by leaving a little play in your hardness you can still enjoy hard sex without being hurt
By having your rock hard penis abused
Received implants 10/4/19 Coloplast 24cm + 1cm RTE
Dr. Brady, Orlando, Fl


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