5 month update and relationship issues

[Spanishxb]

Hey y'all,

Haven't been on here in a bit.
About 5 months in, length is back to normal and I could see if I pumped daily that I bet it would increase in size. Pump is softening up and can get more pumps in and bigger and harder than previous months.

Issue is I'm ripping my gf apart, it hurts her pretty bad that we have nearly stopped having sex. She says it just has no flex in it and is so Rock hard that it's basically stabbing her insides versus morphing to the shape of her vagina. Doggy style (my favorite) is no longer possible, deep missionary not possible...her on top is now possible which wasn't before but does no good as she can't grind on it without pain of me hitting the sidewalls.

She gave me one blowjob with it and hasn't touched it since. She used to demand she gave me head before sex, it was something she loved to do and needed to do...now I can't even get it if I ask and she keeps just making excuses but I'm sure it's cause it feels weird or something idk...

Anyways, bummed a little bit....she does cum more than ever now when we have gentle slow sex and says she loves it more than before...but sometimes I don't get how....

Really need to try it on some girl who doesn't know I have it and see what the reaction is. That's game plan.

Anyways just venting. I'm still more than happy with it....

[Jage64]

I don't have one yet, but I've read on here that many man don't pump it up all the way so it's more comfortable for their partner. You know you don't have to go 'blue steel' every time you use it, right?

Tone it down a bit and see if she'll give you another chance. Heck, let her control the pumps and see if she can find the Goldilocks setting. Either of those options are better than finding some unsuspecting lass to cheat on her with.

[Lost Sheep]

Hey y'all,

Haven't been on here in a bit.
About 5 months in, length is back to normal and I could see if I pumped daily that I bet it would increase in size. Pump is softening up and can get more pumps in and bigger and harder than previous months.

Issue is I'm ripping my gf apart, it hurts her pretty bad that we have nearly stopped having sex. She says it just has no flex in it and is so Rock hard that it's basically stabbing her insides versus morphing to the shape of her vagina. Doggy style (my favorite) is no longer possible, deep missionary not possible...her on top is now possible which wasn't before but does no good as she can't grind on it without pain of me hitting the sidewalls.

She gave me one blowjob with it and hasn't touched it since. She used to demand she gave me head before sex, it was something she loved to do and needed to do...now I can't even get it if I ask and she keeps just making excuses but I'm sure it's cause it feels weird or something idk...

Anyways, bummed a little bit....she does cum more than ever now when we have gentle slow sex and says she loves it more than before...but sometimes I don't get how....

Really need to try it on some girl who doesn't know I have it and see what the reaction is. That's game plan.

Anyways just venting. I'm still more than happy with it....

Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth!

She orgasms regularly and more than ever before and complains that your erection is too much?

You are increasing size and can choose any position you want and you want to bring in a pinch hitter?

Sounds like you both need a reality check.

OK, let me take off my harsh hat and reflect back to you what I got from your post.

You girlfriend is backing off from a previously good sexual relationship because your erection is taxing on her. Painful, not pleasing and possibly injurious to her. I gather that you enjoy being fully pumped up, though. I hope you do not enjoy giving her pain (the reasons can range all the say from sadism, validation of your manhood or simply that an orgasm when your penis is fully pumped is better than when it is 90% or 80%)

Have you TALKED to her about what she and you WANT from sex? Now that you are implanted, the subject of ability to have sex is pretty much taken care of. Now it is a question of how to have sex. When you were unable to perform, did she accomdate you? Now that SHE is the one with performance limitations, are you willing to accomodate HER?

For example: I know of one guy who was sizable and had a petite wife. In order not to injure her, he put on two rubber donuts on his penis to prevent over-penetration.

I may be wrong on this point but I will speculate that she practically demanded to fellate you because she knew that pleased you and likely got you erect enough to please her. Now that you are implanted, that is not necessary.

My girlfriend likes me to be fully pumped, but has mentioned that I have caused her bleeding on a couple of energetic occasions. But she has declined to have me inflate to a lesser degree than fully 100%. Except for fellatio. My penis does not fit in her mouth well if inflated more than about 80%. So, we accomdate each other's needs.

Which brings me to my suggestion. Talk to her (away from the conjugal scene) about her and your needs. Open up to her about your desire to please her in the best ways possible and your desire to be pleased in ways that were not possible for you while you (and she) suffered from your ED.

Sex is a cooperative activity. Cooperating with her is essential for the best outcome. Less than that dooms your relationship.

As far as another woman to experiment with. I hear you. When I got my implant, my plan was to take my rebuilt "sports car" on as many "racetracks" and park in as many carports as I could. Make up for lost time and repay womanhood for all the good sex I was unable to provide in the past. But there is a LOT to be said for staying with one woman if she is on board with your experimentations with her and her alone. Monogamy is important to most women and I know of no woman who will TRULY open up her pleasure palace to a man without that. She will always withhold a bit if she knows you are sharing yourself with another. (Of course there are exceptions...for example the woman who wants to share you with her girlfriends - maybe just for bragging rights - how happy for you that would be?)

[aussiePeyronies]

Hey y'all,

Haven't been on here in a bit.
About 5 months in, length is back to normal and I could see if I pumped daily that I bet it would increase in size. Pump is softening up and can get more pumps in and bigger and harder than previous months.

Issue is I'm ripping my gf apart, it hurts her pretty bad that we have nearly stopped having sex. She says it just has no flex in it and is so Rock hard that it's basically stabbing her insides versus morphing to the shape of her vagina. Doggy style (my favorite) is no longer possible, deep missionary not possible...her on top is now possible which wasn't before but does no good as she can't grind on it without pain of me hitting the sidewalls.

She gave me one blowjob with it and hasn't touched it since. She used to demand she gave me head before sex, it was something she loved to do and needed to do...now I can't even get it if I ask and she keeps just making excuses but I'm sure it's cause it feels weird or something idk...

Anyways, bummed a little bit....she does cum more than ever now when we have gentle slow sex and says she loves it more than before...but sometimes I don't get how....

Really need to try it on some girl who doesn't know I have it and see what the reaction is. That's game plan.

Anyways just venting. I'm still more than happy with it....

Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth!

She orgasms regularly and more than ever before and complains that your erection is too much?

You are increasing size and can choose any position you want and you want to bring in a pinch hitter?

Sounds like you both need a reality check.

OK, let me take off my harsh hat and reflect back to you what I got from your post.

You girlfriend is backing off from a previously good sexual relationship because your erection is taxing on her. Painful, not pleasing and possibly injurious to her. I gather that you enjoy being fully pumped up, though. I hope you do not enjoy giving her pain (the reasons can range all the say from sadism, validation of your manhood or simply that an orgasm when your penis is fully pumped is better than when it is 90% or 80%)

Have you TALKED to her about what she and you WANT from sex? Now that you are implanted, the subject of ability to have sex is pretty much taken care of. Now it is a question of how to have sex. When you were unable to perform, did she accomdate you? Now that SHE is the one with performance limitations, are you willing to accomodate HER?

For example: I know of one guy who was sizable and had a petite wife. In order not to injure her, he put on two rubber donuts on his penis to prevent over-penetration.

I may be wrong on this point but I will speculate that she practically demanded to fellate you because she knew that pleased you and likely got you erect enough to please her. Now that you are implanted, that is not necessary.

My girlfriend likes me to be fully pumped, but has mentioned that I have caused her bleeding on a couple of energetic occasions. But she has declined to have me inflate to a lesser degree than fully 100%. Except for fellatio. My penis does not fit in her mouth well if inflated more than about 80%. So, we accomdate each other's needs.

Which brings me to my suggestion. Talk to her (away from the conjugal scene) about her and your needs. Open up to her about your desire to please her in the best ways possible and your desire to be pleased in ways that were not possible for you while you (and she) suffered from your ED.

Sex is a cooperative activity. Cooperating with her is essential for the best outcome. Less than that dooms your relationship.

As far as another woman to experiment with. I hear you. When I got my implant, my plan was to take my rebuilt "sports car" on as many "racetracks" and park in as many carports as I could. Make up for lost time and repay womanhood for all the good sex I was unable to provide in the past. But there is a LOT to be said for staying with one woman if she is on board with your experimentations with her and her alone. Monogamy is important to most women and I know of no woman who will TRULY open up her pleasure palace to a man without that. She will always withhold a bit if she knows you are sharing yourself with another. (Of course there are exceptions...for example the woman who wants to share you with her girlfriends - maybe just for bragging rights - how happy for you that would be?)

Great advice here from Lost Sheep.... Try pump to 90% or 80% and see how she feels, be open and communicate.... I am interested in your journey as I am about to get implanted with a titan which is known to be very rigid!

Keep us updated!

[wolfpacker]

Definitely a very odd reaction from her. Maybe she has some insecurities of her own that she's trying to hide by blaming it on the implant?

Can you inflate a little less so it's not quite so hard? Mine feels most natural around 70-80% inflated

[Gt1956]

I'd suggest to start with as few pumps as will allow penetration. Maybe even 50%. After a month at that level, try it with a few more pumps. Eventually you'll get to a level where she say thats too much. It seems obvious that she is not accustomed to sex right now. You need to get her used to it slowly. This is a problem that even a different girl might have. No sense chancing ruining this relationship when you have not tried sex at lower levels for a few months.
Btw, my wife had endometriosis & it caused painful sex. Orgasms are still possible even if there is some pain involved. She is probably is telling you the truth. Listen to her.

[AmansinCali]

Spanish,

I agree with the others. My wife and I both find it more pleasurable and more natural when I don't pump to max, it just seems to give us both more pleasant sensations. Save the max inflate for your solo endeavors, the whole idea with intercourse is to please your partner. Lost Sheep is right, you need to talk it out more.

[Musson]

I can only add anecdotal feedback. In my experience with using sex toys inserted into partners vaginas I can say that firmness is the most individual preference of any of the other attributes. More important than size or shape. Too soft for one is perfect for another and vice versa. It just depends on preference. Yet I’ve never had a complaint about my non implanted penis being too hard even when fully jacked on pills.

[Spanishxb]

Hey y'all,

Haven't been on here in a bit.
About 5 months in, length is back to normal and I could see if I pumped daily that I bet it would increase in size. Pump is softening up and can get more pumps in and bigger and harder than previous months.

Issue is I'm ripping my gf apart, it hurts her pretty bad that we have nearly stopped having sex. She says it just has no flex in it and is so Rock hard that it's basically stabbing her insides versus morphing to the shape of her vagina. Doggy style (my favorite) is no longer possible, deep missionary not possible...her on top is now possible which wasn't before but does no good as she can't grind on it without pain of me hitting the sidewalls.

She gave me one blowjob with it and hasn't touched it since. She used to demand she gave me head before sex, it was something she loved to do and needed to do...now I can't even get it if I ask and she keeps just making excuses but I'm sure it's cause it feels weird or something idk...

Anyways, bummed a little bit....she does cum more than ever now when we have gentle slow sex and says she loves it more than before...but sometimes I don't get how....

Really need to try it on some girl who doesn't know I have it and see what the reaction is. That's game plan.

Anyways just venting. I'm still more than happy with it....

Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth!

She orgasms regularly and more than ever before and complains that your erection is too much?

You are increasing size and can choose any position you want and you want to bring in a pinch hitter?

Sounds like you both need a reality check.

OK, let me take off my harsh hat and reflect back to you what I got from your post.

You girlfriend is backing off from a previously good sexual relationship because your erection is taxing on her. Painful, not pleasing and possibly injurious to her. I gather that you enjoy being fully pumped up, though. I hope you do not enjoy giving her pain (the reasons can range all the say from sadism, validation of your manhood or simply that an orgasm when your penis is fully pumped is better than when it is 90% or 80%)

Have you TALKED to her about what she and you WANT from sex? Now that you are implanted, the subject of ability to have sex is pretty much taken care of. Now it is a question of how to have sex. When you were unable to perform, did she accomdate you? Now that SHE is the one with performance limitations, are you willing to accomodate HER?

For example: I know of one guy who was sizable and had a petite wife. In order not to injure her, he put on two rubber donuts on his penis to prevent over-penetration.

I may be wrong on this point but I will speculate that she practically demanded to fellate you because she knew that pleased you and likely got you erect enough to please her. Now that you are implanted, that is not necessary.

My girlfriend likes me to be fully pumped, but has mentioned that I have caused her bleeding on a couple of energetic occasions. But she has declined to have me inflate to a lesser degree than fully 100%. Except for fellatio. My penis does not fit in her mouth well if inflated more than about 80%. So, we accomdate each other's needs.

Which brings me to my suggestion. Talk to her (away from the conjugal scene) about her and your needs. Open up to her about your desire to please her in the best ways possible and your desire to be pleased in ways that were not possible for you while you (and she) suffered from your ED.

Sex is a cooperative activity. Cooperating with her is essential for the best outcome. Less than that dooms your relationship.

As far as another woman to experiment with. I hear you. When I got my implant, my plan was to take my rebuilt "sports car" on as many "racetracks" and park in as many carports as I could. Make up for lost time and repay womanhood for all the good sex I was unable to provide in the past. But there is a LOT to be said for staying with one woman if she is on board with your experimentations with her and her alone. Monogamy is important to most women and I know of no woman who will TRULY open up her pleasure palace to a man without that. She will always withhold a bit if she knows you are sharing yourself with another. (Of course there are exceptions...for example the woman who wants to share you with her girlfriends - maybe just for bragging rights - how happy for you that would be?)

Thanks everyone for your responses, replying on this thread as I liked it the best. Sometimes I definitely do need a reality check! Thank you!!

We did try me at about 80% pumped which brings me to my previously implanted size. She definitely likes the girth at 100% but doesn't quite care for how it doesn't flex/bend when it needs too when it's rock hard. After experimenting at 80% she told me to go full pumped and you could tell the difference in her moans. We have experimented in the past and she loves HUGE toys (like 18" and triple thickness of my cock) so I know it's not a matter of being too big. It's just a matter of not bending/flexing when going inside of her, I must be just ramming into one of the walls...I'll have to work on that.

And yes I think now that she knows she can't really "get me hard" her desire for giving head or foreplay are gone as she doesn't need to do anything to get or maintain my erection. I will have to accommodate for her needs.