What’s it like? Pumping up…

[defiant]

Simple question really.

I’m used to relationships in which I get hard in bed or wherever naturally. Standard. But obviously things are changing hence me asking this question.

What is it like, actually being in a relationship or marriage with your partner and pumping up to have sex?

What are the dynamics? Will she indicate she wants sex somehow? Will you go to bed semi pumped? Does your partner pump you up?

Does it ever ‘get to you’…pride-wise or any other way?

I’m just trying to imagine how sex is initiated when you’re implanted.

Thanks!

[dg_moore]

It's not much different than when using other aids like pills, injections or VED. You have to perform an additional task before you can get down to business. You have to figure out what works best for you. With pills you have to take one 30 minutes before sex, but, awkwardly, the only person who knows it's 30 minutes before sex is the woman.

[galactic]

I would like to know this also!

[Time2Change]

It's no big deal.

I either pump up before coming to bed or during foreplay.

It's much better than taking a pill, squeezing into a cock ring, and hoping I can get and stay hard.

[merrix]

Simple question really.

I’m used to relationships in which I get hard in bed or wherever naturally. Standard. But obviously things are changing hence me asking this question.

What is it like, actually being in a relationship or marriage with your partner and pumping up to have sex?

What are the dynamics? Will she indicate she wants sex somehow? Will you go to bed semi pumped? Does your partner pump you up?

Does it ever ‘get to you’…pride-wise or any other way?

I’m just trying to imagine how sex is initiated when you’re implanted.

Thanks!

Yep, that's a good question.
But it's also a question which doesn't really matter. Because if you need an implant, you need one.
And then you''ll have to deal with the pumping whether you like it or not, and you'll find your way of doing it.
But nevertheless, I'll give you my 2 cents on that topic.

Having kids in the house, old enough to understand and old enough to be embarrassed by hearing or catching parents having sex, the standard time and place for us is at night when we go to bed.
That makes the whole pumping issue pretty much a non issue.
Either she goes to the bathroom first and in that case I'll just pump up to oral hardness - a bit more than half, probably around 2/3 pumped - once it's my turn for my toothbrushing and showering.
Most of the time, I put on my underwear - just in case I would have a surprise encounter in the hallway by someone else in the family except my wife.
Then just walk into the bedroom, close the door, get in bed and off we go.
After the foreplay, I'll just add the remaining pumps and penetrate.
If I'm first in the bathroom, I'll just pump up to the foreplay level while she's in there. Takes about 45 seconds only, so plenty of time.

Even this procedure bothered me in the beginning. All men are different of course, but to me, just as ED was embarrassing before implant, having an implant - or being dependant on an implant - was a bit embarrassing as well.
All men just want a proper dick which gets hard when excited. How many guys dream of a piece of plastic you pump up before sex?
So I stuck to the same routine, with the exception that I went immediately to the super-hard level and then didn't have to do the final pumping while she was there.
Not as good oral, but no pumping in front of her.
Kind of silly, since she obviously knows very well about my implant and how it works, but still just felt better to not do it in front of her.

Another thing that comes to mind as I write this is that with a normal dick, you go to bed, and if we both feel like it, well then we go. If not, well then we don't. No planning needed. No pressure added.
With the implant another dimension is added.
If I want sex, I will inflate before going to bed. So what if I come into the bedroom with a hardon poking my underwear straight out, and she wasn't in the mood?
What does that mean for her? Never asked her actually, but could imagine there is some pressure to do it, and some pity feeling if she chooses not to. "I know you pumped your dick up, but sorry, I just don't feel like it so just deflate those plastic cylinders in your dick and go to sleep..."
OR what if she wants to, but I do not come in with my dick hard? "Oh, he doesn't feel like it tonight, well then I'll just kiss him goodnight and turn off the lights then..."
No big deal to me or to us, but could maybe be to some.
When it happens that I either didn't 100% feel like it - or thought she didn't - but it turns out she wants to, I'll just say "Sorry babe, just give me a minute" and I'll pump it up. It's 30-45 seconds till BJ level and another 15-30 to F level. No big deal. Well not now, but I thought it was some deal early on. At that time, I'd probably still have asked for my minute, but gone to the bathroom to do it.
Just saying that an implant adds total spontaneity is not really 100% true, even though much more so than with the alternatives (injections, vacuum pumps, etc).
Anyway, we're of course beyond that more or less after all these years, just saying that as you said in your questions, the dynamics change.

What I try to do, and as I always recommend in similar threads, is just to own the situation.
I still think that being straight and using the implant to its advantages is so much better than hiding around in the bushes.
Basically, what that means for this topic, is that If I want sex, I inflate before we get in bed together. That way it works as normal as it could, since I am hard when I feel for sex and not hard when I don't.
And just as I could have been (easily) convinced even if not in the mood with a natural dick, I can easily spend a minute inflating. Just telling her to wait a minute and she'll get exactly what she wants.

Letting her inflate? Absolutely no f-ing way. That would - to me - feel absolutely pathetic. But I know some guys here do it that way, and if it works for them, great. But it's not for me. And I am sure it is not for my wife either. She loves getting fucked by my implanted dick with its 100% orgasm guarantee, but would not want to inflate it. So we're on the very same planet there.
Besides, there is just absolutely no way in hell she could do it even if she wanted to and tried to. Her strength would get me halfway at best. And that's not what she wants, she wants it super hard.

I have described in the past our favorite way of using the implant to what we probably think is its best, but I'll do it again.
Starting at a low-level inflation, perhaps even less than the BJ level - let's call it jeans level, i.e. the hardest I can be and still wear jeans without breaking anything (the jeans or my dick).
Then do the fore-foreplay stuff, kissing, touching etc.
Going down on her for oral. Off with my underwear, rub my penis against her, inflate a few pumps, back to oral, rubbing it against her clit, pumping a few pumps, let her give me oral, giving her oral, rubbing it against her, giving it a few pumps, penetrate her just a little but for a few very shallow strokes (with basically a semi), oral again, a few pumps, a few more strokes, this time a little deeper and with a bit harder dick, oral again, a few pumps, penetrating again, this time for a bit longer and a bit harder, back to oral again, and... yes, you get the picture.
This way I will build up her desire to the point where all she wants is just for me to pump that dick till baseball bat level and fuck the shit out of her. Which I of course eventually do.
This is a way to make those 5-second long pumping breaks something she "looks forward to". Just teasing her with a gradually harder dick makes her want me to pump it. Those seconds she has to wait for those extra pumps is just adding a few seconds of anticipation and desire. Same for me in a way. The pumping is just a few short stops on a great journey to a great goal.
Plus, technically speaking, that is a great way for me to find the perfect level of inflation for the day. Most of the time that is maximum, but for some reason, sometimes holding off a few pumps feels better. And since I get in there every 3-4 pumps I can stop adding more when it feels just right.

When we do it in another setting, just anytime anywhere when there is no taking turns in the shower firstly, there is no way around it really. Just pump as quickly as possible while she undresses or just waits for me.

So you'll be fine. This is no big deal. Just always remember what the alternative is. A limp dick and shitty sex? A vacuum pump?
In the end, what overshadows everything is that you and your wife can have sex. And once the pumping is over and done with, you can have at least as good sex as with a natural dick, but arguably even better. There is no way - NO WAY - your erection will fail you. Both you and your wife know that you can go on for just as long as both of you need. No pressure, no risk of failure, awkwardness, disappointment. You can even take a break and go and get a glass of wine - hell you can even take a break to mow the lawn if you would like to. Your dick, well your erection, will last forever.
That beats the shit out of anything, and will be such a blessing to your sex life that the pumping is simply just a little non-perfect issue that you'll happily deal with in the way that suits you and your wife.

[merrix]

As I read through my own response below, I realized I didn't elaborate on one issue which was an integral part of the question.
When do I actually pump then before going to bed. I touched on it below, that it could, I say could, create some awkardness or whatever if you pump up and jumps into bed with your steel spike and she's not up for it. Or you slump into bed with limp piece of plastics and when you enter the bedroom she's standing on all 4 in her sexiest lingerie with a butt plug in her ass.
As I said, well in the latter case, just pump up. In the former case, just deflate and go to sleep.
For us, having been dependant on Viagra and Cialis to have sex for the last 15 years, the implant is a huge improvement in terms of this process and the spontaneity.
In the latter case above, the butt plug case, there is nothing I can do.
"Honey, just hold that pose while I go take my pill and watch the news for half an hour".
In the former case, ok, no disaster has taken place. I didn't give much of a shit about the wasted money those rare occasions, but those pills are damn expensive and a lot of people will care. I surely did 20 years ago. Then there is of course, which was more relevant in my case, the principle most of have that we don't want to take any medicine unless we don't really need to. So taking one Cialis an hour before bedtime and then a Viagra half an hour before, just to find out the wife had her period and wasn't in the mood, kind of sucks. In more than one way.
With the implant, all you do is deflate. Or if that's not done already, no impact whatsoever. Let her have her period. No money wasted, no medicine taken for no reason.

But, equally interesting is that because of our pill dependency over the last 15 years, we have learned how to send and interpret those signals on whether it is sex tonight or not.
That was quite important in the pills era, otherwise, as described above, worst case was the butt plug was in and no pill was taken.
So we had our "code". A glass of wine on a tuesday night was one of them. Not that we never did that without fucking, but still a signal.
Shall we put the kids to bed a bit earlier tonight?
How are you feeling tonight babe, are you in form? And that might sound like shit in english, but is enough multi-meaning in my native tounge.
Anyway, you get the point. We developed our way to substitute the question "Do you want to fuck tonight" with more subtle ways of telling each other.
Still the pill business was not as easy. What if the kids should be sent to bed earlier, the wine brought on and, yes she was in top form tonight, but then she never wants to stop chatting in that sofa with that wine. Sex is still definitely on, just delayed. In my case, a pill of Viagra was at its peak effect about 45 minutes after taking it. Waning off quickly after the hour mark. I often ended up taking one 30 minutes before and then facing a difficult choice. Take another one or abruptly tell my giggling wife to shut up, go to bed, its time to fuck before my pill wanes off?
That's why I moved over to the Cialis+Viagra combo. Cialis had longer effect, but not as strong. So I took a "base" of Cialis as the wine came out. Then often splitted my V i half. Took one 30 minutes before I thought it was time. If I was correct, the other half just immediately before. If I was wrong, just took the second half again 30 minutes before my revised ETA of fuck.

So if not being used to this, if I would have met her with my implant, no history of pills and its unavoidable developing of codes, how would it work with an implant?
Can't say of course since that's hypothetical in my case.
But I just think this issue is so much easier with an implant. As I said, just inflate when you want to have sex. If she doesn't feel like it, deflate. Simple.
If for some reason you don't feel like it, don't inflate and it turns out she's horny as a cat in march, well, then just let her wait 60 seconds and enjoy your implant.
No big deal.
Or who knows, you might develop similar codes as we have. Which will be correctly interpreted most of the time and when not, well then just adjust. Inflate or deflate as needed.

Simple question really.

I’m used to relationships in which I get hard in bed or wherever naturally. Standard. But obviously things are changing hence me asking this question.

What is it like, actually being in a relationship or marriage with your partner and pumping up to have sex?

What are the dynamics? Will she indicate she wants sex somehow? Will you go to bed semi pumped? Does your partner pump you up?

Does it ever ‘get to you’…pride-wise or any other way?

I’m just trying to imagine how sex is initiated when you’re implanted.

Thanks!

Yep, that's a good question.
But it's also a question which doesn't really matter. Because if you need an implant, you need one.
And then you''ll have to deal with the pumping whether you like it or not, and you'll find your way of doing it.
But nevertheless, I'll give you my 2 cents on that topic.

Having kids in the house, old enough to understand and old enough to be embarrassed by hearing or catching parents having sex, the standard time and place for us is at night when we go to bed.
That makes the whole pumping issue pretty much a non issue.
Either she goes to the bathroom first and in that case I'll just pump up to oral hardness - a bit more than half, probably around 2/3 pumped - once it's my turn for my toothbrushing and showering.
Most of the time, I put on my underwear - just in case I would have a surprise encounter in the hallway by someone else in the family except my wife.
Then just walk into the bedroom, close the door, get in bed and off we go.
After the foreplay, I'll just add the remaining pumps and penetrate.
If I'm first in the bathroom, I'll just pump up to the foreplay level while she's in there. Takes about 45 seconds only, so plenty of time.

Even this procedure bothered me in the beginning. All men are different of course, but to me, just as ED was embarrassing before implant, having an implant - or being dependant on an implant - was a bit embarrassing as well.
All men just want a proper dick which gets hard when excited. How many guys dream of a piece of plastic you pump up before sex?
So I stuck to the same routine, with the exception that I went immediately to the super-hard level and then didn't have to do the final pumping while she was there.
Not as good oral, but no pumping in front of her.
Kind of silly, since she obviously knows very well about my implant and how it works, but still just felt better to not do it in front of her.

Another thing that comes to mind as I write this is that with a normal dick, you go to bed, and if we both feel like it, well then we go. If not, well then we don't. No planning needed. No pressure added.
With the implant another dimension is added.
If I want sex, I will inflate before going to bed. So what if I come into the bedroom with a hardon poking my underwear straight out, and she wasn't in the mood?
What does that mean for her? Never asked her actually, but could imagine there is some pressure to do it, and some pity feeling if she chooses not to. "I know you pumped your dick up, but sorry, I just don't feel like it so just deflate those plastic cylinders in your dick and go to sleep..."
OR what if she wants to, but I do not come in with my dick hard? "Oh, he doesn't feel like it tonight, well then I'll just kiss him goodnight and turn off the lights then..."
No big deal to me or to us, but could maybe be to some.
When it happens that I either didn't 100% feel like it - or thought she didn't - but it turns out she wants to, I'll just say "Sorry babe, just give me a minute" and I'll pump it up. It's 30-45 seconds till BJ level and another 15-30 to F level. No big deal. Well not now, but I thought it was some deal early on. At that time, I'd probably still have asked for my minute, but gone to the bathroom to do it.
Just saying that an implant adds total spontaneity is not really 100% true, even though much more so than with the alternatives (injections, vacuum pumps, etc).
Anyway, we're of course beyond that more or less after all these years, just saying that as you said in your questions, the dynamics change.

What I try to do, and as I always recommend in similar threads, is just to own the situation.
I still think that being straight and using the implant to its advantages is so much better than hiding around in the bushes.
Basically, what that means for this topic, is that If I want sex, I inflate before we get in bed together. That way it works as normal as it could, since I am hard when I feel for sex and not hard when I don't.
And just as I could have been (easily) convinced even if not in the mood with a natural dick, I can easily spend a minute inflating. Just telling her to wait a minute and she'll get exactly what she wants.

Letting her inflate? Absolutely no f-ing way. That would - to me - feel absolutely pathetic. But I know some guys here do it that way, and if it works for them, great. But it's not for me. And I am sure it is not for my wife either. She loves getting fucked by my implanted dick with its 100% orgasm guarantee, but would not want to inflate it. So we're on the very same planet there.
Besides, there is just absolutely no way in hell she could do it even if she wanted to and tried to. Her strength would get me halfway at best. And that's not what she wants, she wants it super hard.

I have described in the past our favorite way of using the implant to what we probably think is its best, but I'll do it again.
Starting at a low-level inflation, perhaps even less than the BJ level - let's call it jeans level, i.e. the hardest I can be and still wear jeans without breaking anything (the jeans or my dick).
Then do the fore-foreplay stuff, kissing, touching etc.
Going down on her for oral. Off with my underwear, rub my penis against her, inflate a few pumps, back to oral, rubbing it against her clit, pumping a few pumps, let her give me oral, giving her oral, rubbing it against her, giving it a few pumps, penetrate her just a little but for a few very shallow strokes (with basically a semi), oral again, a few pumps, a few more strokes, this time a little deeper and with a bit harder dick, oral again, a few pumps, penetrating again, this time for a bit longer and a bit harder, back to oral again, and... yes, you get the picture.
This way I will build up her desire to the point where all she wants is just for me to pump that dick till baseball bat level and fuck the shit out of her. Which I of course eventually do.
This is a way to make those 5-second long pumping breaks something she "looks forward to". Just teasing her with a gradually harder dick makes her want me to pump it. Those seconds she has to wait for those extra pumps is just adding a few seconds of anticipation and desire. Same for me in a way. The pumping is just a few short stops on a great journey to a great goal.
Plus, technically speaking, that is a great way for me to find the perfect level of inflation for the day. Most of the time that is maximum, but for some reason, sometimes holding off a few pumps feels better. And since I get in there every 3-4 pumps I can stop adding more when it feels just right.

When we do it in another setting, just anytime anywhere when there is no taking turns in the shower firstly, there is no way around it really. Just pump as quickly as possible while she undresses or just waits for me.

So you'll be fine. This is no big deal. Just always remember what the alternative is. A limp dick and shitty sex? A vacuum pump?
In the end, what overshadows everything is that you and your wife can have sex. And once the pumping is over and done with, you can have at least as good sex as with a natural dick, but arguably even better. There is no way - NO WAY - your erection will fail you. Both you and your wife know that you can go on for just as long as both of you need. No pressure, no risk of failure, awkwardness, disappointment. You can even take a break and go and get a glass of wine - hell you can even take a break to mow the lawn if you would like to. Your dick, well your erection, will last forever.
That beats the shit out of anything, and will be such a blessing to your sex life that the pumping is simply just a little non-perfect issue that you'll happily deal with in the way that suits you and your wife.

[defiant]

Thanks for the input!

[Old Guy]

Short and simple- I pump up when I'm ready. Sometimes we've already been playing and she's ready for penetration. Short pause while I pump. Sometimes I pump up while she starts buzzing herself with a vibrator before we begin to play.
Bottom line- pumping up my implant is much easier, better and more reliable than pills or injections. The best part is now I'm not putting drugs into my body that who knows what effect they will have later in life.

[oldbeek]

If I was a young guy on the dating scene, I would go out 50% pumped. You can wear it that way for hours. It is just like a boner you would have flirting with a girl. If she touches it she will know she is getting you horny. If you are in a bar drinking you can excuse yourself and add a few more pumps. That is still wearable. If a woman wants to fuck at that stage see will not care if she sees you working on it. You are now just a few pumps from steel shaft hard. After she is worn out fucking and endless hard dick she will want you for life, if you are not a complete nerd.

[Gt1956]

If I was a young guy on the dating scene, I would go out 50% pumped. You can wear it that way for hours. It is just like a boner you would have flirting with a girl. If she touches it she will know she is getting you horny. If you are in a bar drinking you can excuse yourself and add a few more pumps. That is still wearable. If a woman wants to fuck at that stage see will not care if she sees you working on it. You are now just a few pumps from steel shaft hard. After she is worn out fucking and endless hard dick she will want you for life, if you are not a complete nerd

I beg to differ. Lots of tech millionaires have proven beyond a doubt that nerds can score & keep some awesome women.