The Following Concerns:

[trapped2021]

Helo all,

English is not my primary langue so please kindly understand.

I am 40, single and have venous leak. My penis will not stay hard long. I very much want penile implant because I feel like it will let me free, in many ways. I have some fears:

- What women will think if this

- How many replacement I need

- Inflating to get erection in front of womans

- Whether I will be able to find a wife This way

Pills no work so well anymore, injections not too bad but annoying. Any help or advice you can give would be so great!

[Lost Sheep]

Welcome to the site, trapped2021. Thank you for trusting us with your questions.

English is not my primary langue so please kindly understand.

I am 40, single and have venous leak. My penis will not stay hard long. I very much want penile implant because I feel like it will let me free, in many ways. I have some fears:

Your condition and fears are familiar with most of the men here.

- What women will think if this

If a woman thinks less of you for having an implant, you very likely are better without her.

- How many replacement I need

This should not be a concern. If you need an implant, you need an implant. Full stop. If the need for an implant is NOT absolute, better to wait (in most circumstances). If you are unable to get a replacement some time in the future you will lose only later years. Earlier years will have better sex than later ones, so there is no need to delay for fear of too many replacements (which we here call "revisions" as well as "replacements")

- Inflating to get erection in front of womans

If she wants to have sex with you, pumping up in front of her is not likely to dissuade her. I will concede that some women do get reassurance of their desirability by inducing a natural erection in their lover(s). It will be up to you to provide that reassurance by other means. Be attentive. Touch her, help her with tasks that men do not usually do. Rub her feet at the end of the day (almost all women wear unconfortable shoes where I am from). Tell you her how pretty she is. Things like that.

- Whether I will be able to find a wife This way

Finding a wife (or girlfriend, or any kind of friend) is a matter of your personality, not your physique or your implant. Any woman so shallow of personality to reject you from consideration as a husband is a woman you do not want for a wife. A wife is a life partner-in all things. You rwo become one entity. A matched pair. Inseperable. (This is an ideal philosophical definition of marriage, but something to which you should aspire and EXPECT your wife to aspire to, also).

Pills no work so well anymore, injections not too bad but annoying. Any help or advice you can give would be so great!

Try everything you can before you have surgery. An implant renders you completely dependent on the implant for an erection. Completely impotent. If you could runn 100 meters in three minutes with a crippled foot, would you cut it off for a prosthetic foor that enabled you to run 100 meters in 10 seconds, but if the prosthetic failed, would leave you in a wheelchair until you got another prosthetic? But do not worry about replacement/revisions. If you need one, they are available and not that difficult to do.

Educate yourself. Make yourself a part or your medical care team and get accepted by the professionals as an equal partner in your treatment. (Some patients take the opposite view and prefer to let the professionals make all the decisions and put themselves in theiir hands, and I do not fault them for that decision, but I am a participatory patient.) Knowledge is power and dispels fear and doubt.

[trapped2021]

Thank you LS,

I think it is my big concern, how sex and relationship as a single man will be with the implantation; how she might feel nervous to start sex because I am different and have to get erect another way or how my penis will feel in her hand. It is causing me a lot of scared

[AST2123]

Thank you LS,

I think it is my big concern, how sex and relationship as a single man will be with the implantation; how she might feel nervous to start sex because I am different and have to get erect another way or how my penis will feel in her hand. It is causing me a lot of scared

Well. It is not a good idea to inflate in front of a woman that you are having sex for the first time, even if she knows that you have an implant. There are many posts here about this. Suggestions like putting in some pumps before getting to bed, excuse yourself to bathroom and add extra pumps, and finally give her some oral while pumping to the max.
For long-term relationships, some women would love to help pumping you up, others may not, but still aren't worried about seeing you pumping.

[abhishek26]

Helo all,

English is not my primary langue so please kindly understand.

I am 40, single and have venous leak. My penis will not stay hard long. I very much want penile implant because I feel like it will let me free, in many ways. I have some fears:

- What women will think if this

- How many replacement I need

- Inflating to get erection in front of womans

- Whether I will be able to find a wife This way

Pills no work so well anymore, injections not too bad but annoying. Any help or advice you can give would be so great!

please add a signature so that others can have visibility into your status/situation for help/advice

[Lost Sheep]

Thank you LS,

I think it is my big concern, how sex and relationship as a single man will be with the implantation; how she might feel nervous to start sex because I am different and have to get erect another way or how my penis will feel in her hand. It is causing me a lot of scared

If you make her your partner in sex (sex is, after all, a cooperative activity where you both are to be HELPING each other in pleasuring each other) before getting into the actual sex, she will be a lot more accepting of your differences and less nervous (and you will be less nervous as well). The other approach is to keep her completely unaware of your implant (which is easier than you might think if you have some practice). Unfortunately, this approach is likely to make YOU more nervous.

In her hand, she might feel a difference, especially if she has a lot of sexual experience with other penises in her hands. Feeling of your scrotum is more likely to feel different to her. If you tell her at the beginning of sex that you have an implant, she may be curious and feel you more, but the difference will not put her off.

It is worthwhile to note that if she has very little experience with sex, she has no basis for comparison, so is unlikely to notice you are different from other men. If she has a lot of experience with sex, she has enough experience to know that different men have different shapes, sizes, responses, etc so is likely to accept that you, also, are different. If she has only a moderate amount of experience, she might have questions.

Whether she has little, moderate or a lot of experience, if you have told her about your implant, you have no need to worry about her reaction.

HOW YOU TELL HER about your implant (if you choose to tell her) is VERY important. Be matter-of-fact and don't make a big deal of it. Casually mentioning to her as your exchange sexual histories, expectations, birth control, etc "Oh, by the way, I am not like many other men. My penis works just fine, but is different..." (Adding that it can stay erect as long as she can stay wet might be bragging, but if you are diplomatic about it, you will be fine.)