Size issue with women I meet

[Pamen116]

Hello all- it’s been a year now with my implant and as much as I want to say I’m thankful (which I am) my engagements with women hasn’t been the most thrilling as anticipated. From experience now with 3-4 ladies I have not been able to make them orgasm and I can tell that they are unsatisfied with the sex. I’d like to blame possibly my motion/technique but before my implant and injury this was not ever an issue with women. I’ve asked 2-3 of them about my size possibly being the problem and was faced with hesitation and had redirected answers, but finally they shared that I was thin. My current size is right under 7 inches length and 5 inches girth at the base and 4.8 at the top below glans- the implant size is 18cm by 3rte with the AMS CX. I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this problem with the same size implant and size as me? Even if I don’t get no feedback just needed to vent today since it’s been a rough day thinking about my future love life and if I’ll be able to satisfy. I’m sure most of you will bring up foreplay etc, which I get but I guess I just miss when I could make a girl orgasm from sex alone and I feel inadequate now. Anyways hope everyone is having a great day. Cheers

[Tortão]

but finally they shared that I was thin. My current size is right under 7 inches length and 5 inches girth at the base and 4.8 at the top below glans

I can see just 3 possibilities:
1- They are lying;
2- You're lying;
3- You had sex with girls that are used to masturbate with an avocado.

The size you described is above average.

[Gt1956]

In my opinion there is nothing wrong with your girth. That leaves several things as possibilities. First I'd point out, don't expect all women, especially hook ups, to be honest. There is a chance that you're pumping up too hard. Men follow the too much is barely enough rule. Give it a try with a few pumps less. Many men post that they don't use max pumps for sex. I hope you aren't practicing porn movie style sex. It has its place in the bedroom. But not many women want the whole encounter to be with a jack hammer.
I'm guessing that if womens reactions are not what they were in the past. It is something you're doing wrong. Figuring it out is the trick. Quit thinking like a young man & try to learn what young women are after.

[TANGERINE]

I touch on my opinions regarding what I think women think about penis size in my implant wiki pamphlet from chapter 20 and chapter 21 (please go to that location to read more),but, here are some brief reactions that i have



Good news: yes, i think that your girth is normal, please see the attached article titled "am i normal: and it shows that your penis is fine. Also, I am told that there are more google searches for "my partners penis is too big" than there are for the opposite situation of smallness

personel testimony: For me, i also have been fixated on penis size--it is a neurotic behavior many of us insecure males share. You should try to get over it.

Because of my paranoia about wanting a big penis, I desire to get the titan, which has bigger girth. But, you should know that my 60 year old wife does NOT want it pumped to the max because it is too girthy for her.

Shown below is an excerpt from my implant pamphlet chapter 20:

There is a paper (Otero et al) that discussed partner satisfaction between Titan and AMS CX. It found that partners reported being equally pleased. However, the flaw with the study is that the partners only knew one of the implants (ie, there was no cross-over partner swapping !), so they had no ability to make a side by side comparison. This underscores an important concept that us men never really can understand. Many women have said regarding penis size:

"It is not the size of your penis that is key, rather, it is what you do with what you have."
In other words, a confident, relaxed man who can stay hard for half an hour can be a real joy for a woman. The other saying that I have heard from women is "it is not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean." In other words, skillful rhythmic rubbing with pressure on the clitoris is what brings women to orgasm PROVIDED they also are psychologically into the encounter. The emotions a woman has towards her partner are more important than the penis size, so if she is really into you, then she will like sex with you regardless whether you have Titan or AMS. It is paramount that she likes you and that you take control of the bedroom in a manner that shows you know what you are doing and that you do not have complexes or hang-ups about your body type or penis size.
Finally, there is a common saying that "a woman makes love to the man, not the penis." This underscores the idea that it is her brain that is a key sex organ to keeping her satisfied and aroused. Women welcome a man who is comfortable in his skin, and they relax and have fun around a man who can own his penis.
Reference: "Comparison of the patient and partner satisfaction with 700CX and Titan penile prostheses" Date of Web Publication 22-Jan-2016 Asian Journal of Andrology
Javier Romero Otero

[Pamen116]

In my opinion there is nothing wrong with your girth. That leaves several things as possibilities. First I'd point out, don't expect all women, especially hook ups, to be honest. There is a chance that you're pumping up too hard. Men follow the too much is barely enough rule. Give it a try with a few pumps less. Many men post that they don't use max pumps for sex. I hope you aren't practicing porn movie style sex. It has its place in the bedroom. But not many women want the whole encounter to be with a jack hammer.
I'm guessing that if womens reactions are not what they were in the past. It is something you're doing wrong. Figuring it out is the trick. Quit thinking like a young man & try to learn what young women are after.

So I’ve heard people say that the porn strategies don’t work and that is true but can someone share the alternative of this? Also can you explain why it’s feels better for the partner if the implant isn’t inflated completely?

[Pamen116]

I touch on my opinions regarding what I think women think about penis size in my implant wiki pamphlet from chapter 20 and chapter 21 (please go to that location to read more),but, here are some brief reactions that i have



Good news: yes, i think that your girth is normal, please see the attached article titled "am i normal: and it shows that your penis is fine. Also, I am told that there are more google searches for "my partners penis is too big" than there are for the opposite situation of smallness

personel testimony: For me, i also have been fixated on penis size--it is a neurotic behavior many of us insecure males share. You should try to get over it.

Because of my paranoia about wanting a big penis, I desire to get the titan, which has bigger girth. But, you should know that my 60 year old wife does NOT want it pumped to the max because it is too girthy for her.

Shown below is an excerpt from my implant pamphlet chapter 20:

There is a paper (Otero et al) that discussed partner satisfaction between Titan and AMS CX. It found that partners reported being equally pleased. However, the flaw with the study is that the partners only knew one of the implants (ie, there was no cross-over partner swapping !), so they had no ability to make a side by side comparison. This underscores an important concept that us men never really can understand. Many women have said regarding penis size:

"It is not the size of your penis that is key, rather, it is what you do with what you have."
In other words, a confident, relaxed man who can stay hard for half an hour can be a real joy for a woman. The other saying that I have heard from women is "it is not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean." In other words, skillful rhythmic rubbing with pressure on the clitoris is what brings women to orgasm PROVIDED they also are psychologically into the encounter. The emotions a woman has towards her partner are more important than the penis size, so if she is really into you, then she will like sex with you regardless whether you have Titan or AMS. It is paramount that she likes you and that you take control of the bedroom in a manner that shows you know what you are doing and that you do not have complexes or hang-ups about your body type or penis size.
Finally, there is a common saying that "a woman makes love to the man, not the penis." This underscores the idea that it is her brain that is a key sex organ to keeping her satisfied and aroused. Women welcome a man who is comfortable in his skin, and they relax and have fun around a man who can own his penis.
Reference: "Comparison of the patient and partner satisfaction with 700CX and Titan penile prostheses" Date of Web Publication 22-Jan-2016 Asian Journal of Andrology
Javier Romero Otero

Tangerine, thanks for your response

All this is good news theoretically, but practically it’s just been extremely hard on me not having women reach orgasm.

[Gt1956]

I think you're swinging out of context in the opposite direction. Jack hammer is not good but it does have its place. If she starts putting her hands or fingers on your mid section while hammering. This is NOT a sign she likes it. Shes trying to keep you from slamming into her so hard. Stop it. In the same theme, don't feel like you need to use a stroke that matches your length.
Not that my suggestions work for every woman. Try 1 inch strokes where you grind up against her pelvic bone/clitoris area works pretty good.
Watch real women (not porn stars) masturbate. Some like to grind on a pillow with no penetration. Many use toys that men would consider undersized.
There is a hilarious YouTube video from the Doctors series. They talk about the preferred length of time for intercourse. The women want intercourse to last longer that the median time it takes the average man to finish.
Prior to drugs & implants this took some practice to start, stop & slow down to keep your orgasm from happening too fast. You need to learn womans body language to be good at sex. Being a good lover seldom comes naturally.
I guess its like riding a horse, you have to fit your movements into the rhythm that the horse is using.
As for hardness. Go feel the jelly dildos that are so popular. Don't argue with what a woman likes. She'll win every time. Its your job to read her movements & respond appropriately or you're going to get a bad reputation of being a bad lover. I doubt that is what you want.

[Username1]

There are times when “rip-the-clothes-off” pounding sex is happens….and there’s a tendency to see that event as a complete cycle….without exploring the prelude…what occurred prior?

“Go with the Flow” Bruce Lee

Ok, he’s not speaking about sex, his context was martial arts and how to live.

Ultimately great sex is mind-body connection…getting into the flow with your parter

How you listen, focus on senses, prolong intense sensory arousal, unfold her like a flower…from foot to crown.

Ok ..you have a great tool, call it an implant, dick, Johnson…whatever you call it it’s just tool.

Reminded of a conversation I heard at a car dealership
Just because you own a Porsche, doesn’t make you a good or great driver.

It takes lessons, practice and learning from mistakes…how to hit a straightaway, downshift for “s” curves, pass on the inside or outside…feel the road..are the tires gripping? Gravel? Listen to the rpm..over rev or miss down or upshift? …going with the flow…intentionally to be a good Porsche driver.

It’s the same making love…the implant is just a tool..it’s how you play the game that makes the difference.

[Hunchback]

Every female i've met in my life, who has been close enough to freely discuss intercourse with and that i trust, have confirmed that penetration orgasm is a myth.
So don't worry about your penis, just help them finish otherwise.

[wunhunglo]

but finally they shared that I was thin.

Ok. Let’s start with one of my favorite quotes from Thomas Sowell, “there are no abstract people.” There are only individuals who have different experiences, preferences, and skills. And, if you think size doesn’t matter to women, that’s just NOT true (on average). Women LOVE girth, hardness, a big load (maybe not in their eye), and to a lesser degree length. How many flat chested, flat butted, large or scentless vagina woman lovers are on this forum? Exactly!

Now, if you fall in love with the women, the rest becomes less important. But that is love and not sexual satisfaction. Is there correlation? That’s for you to decide. Surveys? Totally full of shit. MANY people answer on either a) how they think about themselves: “I’m not the kind of shallow woman that penis size matters” or b) what they think the “right” answer is for the survey.

Now, what can you do about it? First off, no arousal, no orgams. Doesn’t matter whether that is oral or penetration. Rule #1, tease her to she begs for your cock. Rule #2, see rule 1. Rule 3, start off slow, build up arousal, and KEEP DOING what she responds to.

DONT:
1) Just stick it in before shes wet and aroused
2) Don’t go right for the clit or overstimulate it
3) Don’t change positions every two minutes
4) Do anything to break the mood (fart, check the score of the game etc.)

AND FINALLY, LEARN FROM WOMEN, ESPECIALLY LESBIANS
I’ve read numerous books on pleasing women, written by women for women. And I can tell you IT WORKS. When a women tells you “Damn, you eat pussy right” after creaming all over your face, you don’t need to ask “was it good for you”