What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

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personfromon
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What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby personfromon » Tue Jun 29, 2021 10:44 pm

Bit of a light hearted thread, but I'm curious because I feel when I finally do pull the trigger to get an implant I'll have to come up with a bit of a story! Especially considering I'm fairly young and the fact that I live in Canada & will most likely go to the states to get it done. I have roommates, coworkers, friends & family who will undoubtedly ask where I've been, and if I just tell them "oh I flew to the states to get surgery" I'll definitely be getting "surgery for what?!"

So, are there any surgeries that could pass for a) not having a physical scar to show them anywhere on your body and b) being out of commission for a few weeks?

Did you have a story you told people or did you spill the beans? :D

Any input on this is appreciated, thanks!

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby Gt1956 » Tue Jun 29, 2021 11:23 pm

Bladder or kidney stones might fit your requirements. Think about a 2-3 week USA vacation. Maybe a vacation where stones showed up unexpectedly & "delayed" your return.
There is a long list of things to say. I'm sure that others will give you some ideas also.
Oh, USA vacation, met an exchange student from Europe & stayed longer for a good fling. Hey, the list is endless. Nice thing about a lie. You're in control of the story. Dream away.
68yo, HBP at 40, high triglycerides at 45. Phimosis at 57. Type 2 at 60. Dr. William Brant May 1, 2023 CX 21cm w/no rte's penoscrotal 6" girth @ 6 months

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby K4OffRoad » Tue Jun 29, 2021 11:38 pm

I think this is where the truth will set you free. However it is ok to tell people that are only associates of yours that "you don't want to know" or "its just a long story" as to why you were gone, no need to broadcast it on the local morning radio show. That being said, I would own it to those that are very close to you, tell them how you want all of your life back. Perhaps even tell them how much you have suffered because of this condition. I am curious as to how you do handle it, in part because everyone always likes an update; in part because I'm a younger guy that just started injections. So this could be my reality soon, anyway that's my 2 cents.

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby ED2013 » Wed Jun 30, 2021 5:35 am

You went to US on vacay and had to have emergency surgery to remove appendix.

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby cbinspok » Wed Jun 30, 2021 9:38 am

There is a difference between implanted and about to be implanted so if you have made your choice and don’t care to Debate with loved ones… for me it was a complex hernia, because it’s continuing the nosey ones are suspecting and I eventually will tell them the truth ones im released and its said and done. For now its all mine
67years,fighting ed for over twenty years. A sever break, vit E, pataba, Viagra, massage Ved cilas, and I'm tired- throwing in the towel, Op for implant Mar 18, 2021 AMS LGX 18 x12 + 1 3cm RTE, gained girth and length, very glad I took the hard step.

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby newbie443 » Wed Jun 30, 2021 10:22 am

I just came clean as I was traveling for this and I do have others in my house. With the recovery and being left inflated after surgery and needing to be mostly naked for a period of time it is almost impossible to keep this from others in the house hold. And once you tell one person it will soon get out to others. The truth is easier to remember than a story and what you told others. I told my family members and some close friends. I just look at it as something was broken and I had it fixed. So anyone who was old enough and close enough I just told the truth to. Ones who were not I just did not tell unless they asked. This was a big turn around for me as I was one who just kept this a secret for years and could not even talk to my doctor about. Co workers are another thing though. And I would not discuss this in a work place.
Injections failed. Implanted 3-21-18 AMS 700 LGX 21 + 1 RTE 100 cc reservoir 6.5" L 5" G Dr. Kramer.

Proximal Perforation Sling Repair 4/13/21 Dr. Broghammer

66 years young.

Will show and tell and talk with others.

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby Jimmy1 » Wed Jun 30, 2021 10:56 am

I told a couple family members. Work folks don’t need to know. ED shouldn’t be stigmatized yet I understand why we don’t shout this off roofs. Maybe if men just told those men in our lives of our situation we may even unbeknownst help them.
61yr old GWM. AMS 700 CX 18+3 on 6/24/21

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby LMCatman » Wed Jun 30, 2021 1:28 pm

"A follow up to my prostate cancer surgery"..... Actually, most know anyway....
73 Years old. RP Oct 2010, No erections after, Botched Titan implant April, 2013, Successful Titan revision, April , 2014 by Dr. Paul Perito, Miami. Titan failure Feb 2017. Rev. by Dr Perito March 1st, 2017. Titan failure Nov 2020. New Titan January 2021

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby WillyWonka22 » Wed Jun 30, 2021 1:59 pm

My family knew of my heart issues, having had two heart attacks, so I told them it was a procedure for circulation. Indirect lie lol, erections need circulation, I needed an erection... :lol:
36yo, ED caused by unknown heart condition - two heart attacks - two stents - Finally taking the plunge after trying nearly everything available on the market. AMS 700 CX - 24cm - implanted on April 15, 2021

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Re: What did you tell family/friends you were going into surgery for when you were being implanted?

Postby Lost Sheep » Wed Jun 30, 2021 2:58 pm

Jimmy1 wrote:I told a couple family members. Work folks don’t need to know. ED shouldn’t be stigmatized yet I understand why we don’t shout this off roofs. Maybe if men just told those men in our lives of our situation we may even unbeknownst help them.

Yes, keeping ED in the "closet" does a disservice to every man who suffers (and every man's partner, who also suffer). Of course, there is another side to that question as well. Sexual functionality is a factor in a man's image. Personally and even professionally. In some circles, revelation of this sort of condition would diminish a man's reputation.

Alas, societies abound in unfair stereotypes and prejudices. Some have some degree of validity and some don't have any validity at all.
Lost Sheep
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