Did you tell your kids about Implant?

[Gt1956]

I only have one comment. Since extensive bruising is common. How in the world are you going to hide that bruising from an intimate partner. Lets not even talk about walking gingerly & getting in & out of beds, chairs & cars. Hiding from your wife is about the most impossible thing to do that I can think of.

[Lost Sheep]

As for my 3 daughters, no I didn't tell them and have no reason to believe that they'd want to know.

I don't wish to second-guess how you raise your daughters, so I offer this only as food for thought, not advice.

If your Daughters ever marry a man who some day does have some form of erectile irregularity, knowing that their Father successfully dealt with a similar problem might give them the tools to deal with their Husband in a more compassionate and understanding manner than they would otherwise.

[Gt1956]

As for my 3 daughters, no I didn't tell them and have no reason to believe that they'd want to know.

I don't wish to second-guess how you raise your daughters, so I offer this only as food for thought, not advice.
If your Daughters ever marry a man who some day does have some form of erectile irregularity, knowing that their Father successfully dealt with a similar problem might give them the tools to deal with their Husband in a more compassionate and understanding manner than they would otherwise.

I agree. I think it should be accepted logic that if the man gets ED. They both have ED. If your daughter desires sex & he can't participate sufficiently. She shares in his ED.
I know that when I put a timeline on my ED. My wife adds some (several) years to it. Even though we were having fairly good sex before pills. She could tell that it was waning lots better than I could. Hindsight changes our perspective. Don't sentance your daughters to that hell for lack of knowledge.

[oldbeek]

My son who has been in the medical field took me to the hospital and stayed over night with me. It is great to have your personal nurse. I also told my teen age grandsons. As an advocate of more conversation about prostate cancer, I will tell anyone I meet. Many times it is just a part of PC recovery.

[Lost Sheep]

Amending my earlier post with a caveat:

It does take a healthily intimate relationship with one's children (whether they are the same gender as yourself or opposite) to have a conversation about sex. The Father-Son "talk" is tough enough. The Father-Daughter "talk" is even more weighty, but just as importannt. Daughters take a LOT of their expectations of a husband from the what they learned from their relationship with their Father and observing the relationship between their Mother and their Father.

If a good groundwork is established when a Daughter is 8 to 10 years of age (at least then, but earlier is better), cluing her in to how boys and eventually men thing about all the aspects of relationships comes naturally. Without that groundwork, opening the conversation is a bit more difficult but no less important to her future happiness. And I am no longer talking about ED, but all aspects of life that a Father owes to teach his children, male or female.

Every society has different expectations of how parents teach their children about life (all aspects) and every parent has different attitudes towards those expectations. It is not my place to judge those expectations or familial decisions. My posts are merely my attitudes. (And don't think for a minute that I have perfectly followed my ideals, either, as I am merely human as are we all.)

[Old Guy]

My kids think I had surgery to remove a growth on a testicle.
They don't need to know about our sex life, and it would probably gross them out to make them think about mom & dad making it. However if any of my sons ever mention that they have issues I would definitely direct them to FT and/or my urologist. I would even discuss it with my daughter if it had to be.
But at this point the only people who know I have an implant is my wife and my doctor(s). (OK and some of their staff. Had one nurse glancing at my crotch recently during a procedure, doc had to inform her because of my position on the table) (Funnier is how gently she slid my pants down once I was on my stomach on the table!)

[KenJ1947]

My wife knew about my plans. I had been working to resolve my ED for over a year. After nothing worked, I told her what I wanted to do. At first she we worried about the surgery. I have a blood condition so I take blood thinners. I'm also type 2 diabetic.

Eventually she can around and supported it. I told my son because I needed his help to get home from the hospital. He supported the decision and helped. I haven't told anyone else--not proud, not ashamed. Friends and my ministry group "know" I had a special hernia surgery. They provided a couple of meals, but we told them others need the help more than we do.

[Smetro]

No......it’s not necessary for them to know.
Would you tell them that you are different and that your right testicle hangs lower than your left? No you wouldn’t .... they simply don’t need to know.

[Lost Sheep]

No......it’s not necessary for them to know.
Would you tell them that you are different and that your right testicle hangs lower than your left? No you wouldn’t .... they simply don’t need to know.

You are absolutely right that gratuitous sharing of irrelevancies is pointless. But if you had a hernia repair and they cared about your health, would you tell them it was an appendectomy?

It all depends on the level of intimacy in one's family, I suppose. Some families share more of their lives than others.

[Smetro]

No......it’s not necessary for them to know.
Would you tell them that you are different and that your right testicle hangs lower than your left? No you wouldn’t .... they simply don’t need to know.

You are absolutely right that gratuitous sharing of irrelevancies is pointless. But if you had a hernia repair and they cared about your health, would you tell them it was an appendectomy?

It all depends on the level of intimacy in one's family, I suppose. Some families share more of their lives than others.

Fair comment Lost........I told a couple of friends....way back....reinforced in my mind that it’s not necessary to do so.