Implant and loyalty

[rocco84]

A short question to all implantees...

After having an implant and you know your able to be normal again.
Is there a special wish to make what you couldnt do the last years... for example the urge or wish to have sex with many woman or maybe to cheat in a long term relationship.

I know if you hadnt it before it might be the same... but maybe after the long time (in my case now 4years of ed) maybe there is something in me what is different to before.

Whats about your experience?

[C_lab34]

I had ED my whole life and got my first implant when I was 29. At the time I was in a relationship that was a little rocky for a number of reasons. And I will admit that when I got my implant, I did think about my new potency and I wanted more experience with different women. Well, I got it. My girlfriend at the time and I broke up and I went on something of a spree for about a year. By the end of that year, it had become clear to me that sex outside the context of a good relationship is just not that important, nor is it even really that enjoyable when the novelty wears off. I got back with the ex and we were together another three years. We broke up, I believe for the last time, this last summer, and it had nothing to do with me wanting to sow any oats.

I just had a revision surgery a week ago and I'm recovering well. I'm looking forward to dating at a slow pace and getting to know someone and developing a relationship, but I'm not going to fire up the dating apps or be desperate to fling myself into the arms of random women just so I can have steady sex.

It's perfectly understandable that, after years of struggling with ED, a man might want to go a little crazy when he finally fixes the problem. I'd say, maybe a short period of casual dating is just what such a man needs to cement his confidence in himself, to learn the value of sex and relationships and to figure out exactly what he wants out of life without the cloud of ED obscuring the picture.

[MK1965]

I had implant since September 2018.
Only women who experienced my implant is my wife.
No one else know nor I ever told anyone about my implant.
Going out of relationship/ marriage never ends good. It is easier for single guys to start new relationships then with long time married guys like me who is married for almost 33 years.
Until death uparrt us.........
MK

[rocco84]

I had ED my whole life and got my first implant when I was 29. At the time I was in a relationship that was a little rocky for a number of reasons. And I will admit that when I got my implant, I did think about my new potency and I wanted more experience with different women. Well, I got it. My girlfriend at the time and I broke up and I went on something of a spree for about a year. By the end of that year, it had become clear to me that sex outside the context of a good relationship is just not that important, nor is it even really that enjoyable when the novelty wears off. I got back with the ex and we were together another three years. We broke up, I believe for the last time, this last summer, and it had nothing to do with me wanting to sow any oats.

I just had a revision surgery a week ago and I'm recovering well. I'm looking forward to dating at a slow pace and getting to know someone and developing a relationship, but I'm not going to fire up the dating apps or be desperate to fling myself into the arms of random women just so I can have steady sex.

It's perfectly understandable that, after years of struggling with ED, a man might want to go a little crazy when he finally fixes the problem. I'd say, maybe a short period of casual dating is just what such a man needs to cement his confidence in himself, to learn the value of sex and relationships and to figure out exactly what he wants out of life without the cloud of ED obscuring the picture.

Thank you very much for that detailed answer!!! Exactly what I wanted to know. Just a short question left… does one of your girls ever mentioned your implant in a negative way? or are you upfront with her telling her that you have an implant or do you hide it... I guess I would tell it from the beginning cause everything else wouldnt be fair to her I guess.
But I could imagine that some of the girls are afraid or it s maybe akward for them. I will have it very soon and I am just wondering how my future will be… for sure much better then in my actual situation!

I think the only akward thing is that you must pump it... if she will see it, I think it s maybe not very sexy for her but after it s hard she will enjoy for sure

[rocco84]

I had implant since September 2018.
Only women who experienced my implant is my wife.
No one else know nor I ever told anyone about my implant.
Going out of relationship/ marriage never ends good. It is easier for single guys to start new relationships then with long time married guys like me who is married for almost 33 years.
Until death uparrt us.........
MK

Thanks a lot for your info, hope she love s it! Ive just thought that when your going from absolute impotence (in my case 4 years) to implant your self esteem will raise very strong and that this will lead to new female oportunities…

[Lost Sheep]

A short question to all implantees...

After having an implant and you know your able to be normal again.
Is there a special wish to make what you couldnt do the last years... for example the urge or wish to have sex with many woman or maybe to cheat in a long term relationship.

I know if you hadnt it before it might be the same... but maybe after the long time (in my case now 4years of ed) maybe there is something in me what is different to before.

Whats about your experience?

My opinion is that a leopard does not change his spots easily. Becoming implanted does not change who you are at your core easily.

I had the same question before implant and asked it in a thread I started
viewtopic.php?f=3&t=7002&p=46591

and these threads might be of interest also
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=14432&p=126926
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=12804&p=111439

[Lost Sheep]

Thank you very much for that detailed answer!!! Exactly what I wanted to know. Just a short question left… does one of your girls ever mentioned your implant in a negative way? or are you upfront with her telling her that you have an implant or do you hide it... I guess I would tell it from the beginning cause everything else wouldnt be fair to her I guess.
But I could imagine that some of the girls are afraid or it s maybe akward for them. I will have it very soon and I am just wondering how my future will be… for sure much better then in my actual situation!

I think the only akward thing is that you must pump it... if she will see it, I think it s maybe not very sexy for her but after it s hard she will enjoy for sure

A few women are put off by the fact that your erection is not spontaneous (she has no "pride of authorship"), which, to many women seems to be reassuring of your desire for her. Very few have expressed that pride of authorship. But the assurance that you truly desire her is a strong need, I have been told very emphatically.

I suggest you might want to read through these threads to get a feel for how women feel about a man who needs help in the erection process. Most are not put off by it when the man's desire to pleasure HER is a higher priority than his desire to pleasure himself.


What will she think? - a womans perspective
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=6513

Any offers for sex from intrigued girls?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=7166

How will young women respond to implants?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... 9&start=30

Getting discovered: How to tell a woman
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=9236

Pumping in front of her a mood killer?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... 6&start=10

Another Day, Another Research Question - Sponteneity
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=9501

What excuse did you use? (More about explaining the surgery than to your partner)
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=9787

She can't feel anything (a little bit off the subject)
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... f=6&t=9594

Afraid of sex
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... 3&start=10

Is this a common story?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... =6&t=10089

Does it feel different to her?
http://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtop ... =6&t=10103[/quote]

Partners Views of Implant
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=12966


Young man's biggest concern about implant
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=7269

Erection: Organic or Mechanical?
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=7738&p=55332

A Good Spouse or Partner
viewtopic.php?f=3&t=15956

[GoodWood]

If the ONLY thing keeping you from cheating is not being able to get it up, then ED is not the issue.

[C_lab34]

I have never gotten a negative comment or reaction from a woman who knew I had an implant. They were either interested/impressed, or indifferent. With some they didn't even know. If they don't see you pump it up, and if they don't feel your balls, then they're not going to know. There are a few different ways to be covert about pumping up without ruining the flow of the experience. If you want more tips on that then I would be happy to provide them.

Here is my policy, which I highly recommend, which you should adjust according to your own preferences and the circumstances.

When in doubt, for a short term fling or a one night stand: she doesn't need to know. By this I mean just try to use your implant discretely, but within the bounds of reason. I'm not saying you should do anything necessary, whatever it takes, including going to absurd lengths, to hide the implant. Just don't bring it up, don't call attention to it, don't make a deal out of it. If she discovers it, notices it, asks abou it, that's not a problem, you can tell her if you want, you can just say you had a surgery when you were younger, it's just scar tissue or something like that if she feels the pump. Keep the moment going, keep that fire burning, you'll be fine. It's just not that serious.

Now, if you start seeing a woman more seriously, then at some point you will want to disclose the fact that you have an implant, if it hasn't come out already. But the same principle applies: don't be dramatic, just be matter of fact. Answer her questions if she has any, but she might not care enough to think about it much. What I've noticed with women is that they tend to mirror men, or maybe it would be more accurate to say they absorb our energy and act accordingly, so if you're anxious about it, she'll be anxious, if you act like you don't care, she won't care either. You don't want to give her things to worry about in relation to you, as that will weaken the attraction.

[Waynetho]

A few women are put off by the fact that your erection is not spontaneous (she has no "pride of authorship"), which, to many women seems to be reassuring of your desire for her. Very few have expressed that pride of authorship. But the assurance that you truly desire her is a strong need, I have been told very emphatically.

Some men may be lucky enough that even if they don't get full spontaneous erections with their implant (almost never gonna happen), they get some degree of semi-erection that can show their arousal level to the woman, as well as other things such as pre-cum - which I dribble significantly when aroused. If there's any indication of arousal, even if it's not a full erection, the woman can know she was responsible.