Up4Real? wrote:Would more of you with implant experienced please comment on this post? As someone who is scheduled for an implant in less than a month, I really feel like this is by and large an issue that seems to be a gray area.
The one answer, above all else, that keeps me committed to getting the implant is the high percentage of patient satisfaction.
It would increase my level of confidence (and decrease my stress) if there are more voices confirming the status of their glans engorgement.
I thank you in advance for some additional enlightenment.
Please help me get "UP4Real"?
At almost 11 months post-implant here my experience has been that my glans just doesn't engorge anymore as it used to prior to implantation. It's not even remotely close. I lost an inch of length and an inch of girth (with extremely consistent, diligent measurement before and after) and I don't know how to properly characterize what I've lost in terms of glans heft and circumference- but it's significant.
My entire life, when I had organic erections and then when I was on pills and then TriMix, my glans was a really notable hard knob, like a firm small apple which significantly protruded beyond the girth of my shaft.
No more.
So I'm not sure how you may personally choose to tumble all the variables surrounding implantation and make your decision because there are a lot of variables. It's obviously different for everyone.
But to your point - in terms of
satisfaction with my implant - I am overwhelmingly satisfied.
Extremely happy. And again, I say that to you as a guy who really, really enjoyed the girth, length, and knobby glans I used to have, and as a guy whose wife really enjoyed all those things, too.
When I did the mental math pre-implant, the way I honestly approached it was I mostly assumed I was going to lose dimensions in some way. I assumed there would be a dimensional deficit vs pre-implant dick. I prepared myself for that and figured, ok, if I retain or gain size overall, great, woo hoo, icing on the cake. But I just kept myself focused on precisely
why I wanted the implant at all: it was because I wanted to be able to fuck on demand, with extremely long duration and capability, and with zero anxiety.
Mission overwhelmingly accomplished.
I put up an update to my post-implant experiences a few weeks ago if that may be of help. I know a lot of guys obviously have done the same and I know that while it's helpful to read everyone's accounts (it was for me, for sure) it's also sometimes difficult to draw consistent conclusions because experiences seem to vary fairly widely. And, normal human behavior seems to be that we work so hard to find and then to generalize the best of others' experiences and assume we'll have the same that sometimes there's a letdown coming down the road, not because our outcome is actually poor, but because of our expectation-setting going in. If that makes sense. I went into this process with no attachment to my future glans' size/engorging ability - so I had no particular letdown afterward.
Also, and this is just me, but I don't care about experimenting with vacuum devices or cock rings etc. I know there are guys who enjoy and feel they benefit from those approaches post-implant, and that's great, for sure, awesome - it's just not really me/us. There's a level of fine-tuning and sort of...I don't know...constant scrutinizing of how to perfect and enhance some discrete dick attribute that for me/us just doesn't rise to a level where we particularly care. Not at all judging those who do fine tune things like mad scientists, that's awesome if they find enjoyment in all that. We would find new anxiety vs enjoyment I think, and anxiety was a big fucking part of what we endeavored to lose. We mostly just wanted to very reliably fuck. When I'm inside her, a cascade of crazy good things always follows, so we just roll with it all. My win here, is that I can be iron-hard inside her mouth, pussy, ass with 100% certainty and reliability. Things will be different with your future robo-dick. You just have to define and re-define what "different" might mean for you and your partner.
I guess as you consider and contemplate implantation I just encourage you to:
1. Not assume the absolute perfect outcome (in fact, shed your concept of "perfect" or "ideal" and accept that your dick will be different, even though you at present cannot know
how it will be different).
2. Literally write down and list all the features and benefits of your dick / your current sex life/ and the sex life you want.[b] Be very specific and write simple words and phrases characterizing what you like, want, and enjoy about sex, and what your partner likes wants and enjoys. My wife and I literally flip-charted this like we were in a fucking breakout meeting at work.
3. Force rank those attributes and features; meaning...if you end up with ten criteria on your list, they cannot all carry the same importance and weight. They just can't. You and your partner will both have things that rise to the top and things which fall lower on your list and your lists, if honestly constructed, will be different. So go through that exercise yourself and I strongly encourage also with your partner. Force yourselves to rank dick-attributes from Most Important to Sort of Important down to Least Important. Then, go into implantation with the intention and confidence that you are pursuing and focused on what truly matters most to you both. My wife and I had 30+ different things we put on our lists and I feel like a critical part of my current satisfaction with my implant is that my expectations and emotions around the implant were aligned with what I (and she) agreed we value most; ie, as I said, to fuck when, where, and however we want with zero questions around functionality. In the big analysis, for us, that was our #1.
My little implant rant, for whatever it may be worth.