WhiteCane wrote:Here’s all that I have to say on the matter. Professor of mine told me that 75% of surgery is out of your hands. you can do multiple things to try to help to ensure success but, in the end, it’s about patient anatomy, follow up, and in cases like this, patient satisfaction. I was extremely disappointed at the results of my surgery but, I cannot say wholeheartedly that it was by fault of the surgeon. i’ve stated many times before that I walked in to his office with anything but typical anatomy. with that being said, I was very sure to disclose my previous medical history and lay out my expectations of the surgery. I left his office feeling that most of that had been considered. He was adamant on not giving me the implant that I wanted and fears of it being detrimental to my health. However, to this day, I wish that he would have ordered an MRI. Certain things do not heal or may not be as healthy in immunocompromised patients. I feel that an MRI would have been the safe bet on a patient like myself. so, conclusively, I cannot call him the top-of-the-line surgeon but rather an average surgeon with an incredible marketing team. he was certainly a gentleman and extremely straightforward about what to expect. He and I mutually agreed that it was beyond either of our comfort levels to forgo surgery because of these disagreements. Like me, he is only human… With a much nicer car. I will absolutely not badmouth him but, I will no longer recommend him to people traveling more than an hour to see him. my experience, I am now on the side of believing that there can be good surgeons within 30 miles of someone’s home who don’t market themselves like Coke. I think these surgeons should also be considered. There is absolutely nothing that stood out to me as any better Van the surgery I got by a surgeon at my own university Hospital. this is not meant to bash or challenge anyone here. I respect you and your opinions greatly but, this is mine. I hope this reaches everyone well!
You tell this site that Kramer fucked up. Everything went wrong except an infection.
And nobody reacts.
Still the best doc in the world? Still Mr. Can-do-no-wrong?"
This conversation took an interesting turn.
It's probably the natural contrarian in me reacting here, but I've always had some alarm bell start to go off in me when something...just about anything, really...is portrayed and marketed extremely slick. I don't know. An iPhone...big UltraHD TVs...computers, cameras...travel...a luxury car. Some slickly marketed things are just more easy to accept and sift through; they're transactional and fleeting and, in their way, commodities. Flesh and bone is another thing entirely.
Bravado is ok for me where it's applied to hard, durable goods I might choose to purchase at retail. But bravado as applied to my healthcare?...my surgeon?...the guy dissecting my dick? I don't know. It doesn't specifically disqualify him/her and people, surgeons included, should be judged as individuals. But it does raise my antenna.
For me there is just something particularly unsavory about self-glorification coming from any healthcare professional/provider. Just my sense. Not judging other guys' choices and directing none of this at any particular doc mentioned on FT. Just working through in my own mind why I have reacted so cautiously and skeptically to any doc who displays an open swagger. There's some point pretty quickly where, for me, the ultra-slick marketing begins to imply pomposity and pretense and a lack
of something else I can't quite put my finger on.
Or, actually, I guess I can. I think it's: humility.
I want the person with the knife in their hand to model some kind of tacit, steady, quiet humility. I want them to be, demonstrably, a verifiable absolute fucking pro. That's a given. But I just don't want the guy whose self-adoration and lack of humility fuels a kind of narcissism. Seems like bad shit is, more often than not, waiting at the end of that path. And I don't even need to particularly like my surgeon; it's unnecessary and misdirected. But I don't want him to adore and love himself too much, either.
54 yrs, remarried to highly sexual 52 yr old wife. Pills ran their course then 9 yrs Trimix. 28 cm Titan Touch XL implanted Nov 2019, Laurence Levine, Rush Univ Med Ctr Chicago. Implant so far a blessing and nonstop fun.