So scared to do implant surgery

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LBC2020
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So scared to do implant surgery

Postby LBC2020 » Wed Jul 29, 2020 6:13 pm

Seeing dr Eid

I’m so afraid but at the same
Time my life is terrible due to ED and non existent libido now
I still have some erectile capacity for 30seconds which stinks

I’m jist so afraid my god if something goes wrong

Or If it goes right ...what that would feel
Like

Happiness

MK1965
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby MK1965 » Wed Jul 29, 2020 9:17 pm

LBC,
Don’t be scared. You have nothing to loose but lots to gain.
Every procedure has lots of unknown and waiting is killer.
It is completely normal to be scared but don’t allow the scare to paralyze you.
I was also scared before my first implant but on the other hand I was looking forward to have functional penis.
Now, I am awaiting revision which is scheduled for 8.19.20. Second time is way easier because I know what to expect and I know how recovery will be.
Good luck on your upcoming procedure.
MK
IPP 9/5/18; TITAN OTR 18 +1cm RTE,Prostate Ca at 51 y/o; RARP 11/2/16, ED Post RP, Cialis, Viagra, VED no usable erection,TRIMIX painful, BIMIX tolerable but ineffective,lost 2+ inches of length after RP
Revision on 12/2 with Dr Clavell

LBC2020
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby LBC2020 » Wed Jul 29, 2020 10:23 pm

Thank you
I understand Eid is one
Of
The best

My penis is smaller but still grows to 7” when fully hard it just doesn’t last
And I can’t initiate sex anymore Bc
It’s just too mentally stressful
This has ruined my life

I have to do
It although I’m stricken w fear

Anyone in there 30s on here have one??

NagaSadow
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby NagaSadow » Wed Jul 29, 2020 11:11 pm

There’s no shame in it. Most guys who don’t have ED would cry like a baby at the thought of this. Just think when it’s all over that you survived it when many couldn’t. Also you’ll come to the realization that you now have better ability than a pornstar. I’m 34 and I’m seeing Dr.Eid soon. I’ve been through 10 years of ED and Peyronie’s Disease.

LBC2020
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby LBC2020 » Wed Jul 29, 2020 11:44 pm

You are young also!
Best of luck

I just want
To make love w my wife again it’s killing me
Literally killing me

notaes
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby notaes » Thu Jul 30, 2020 6:19 am

Never had a pain with my surgery. The surgery for me was not worth worrying about. So glad I did it! Best sex ever! Best of luck to you!
66 yr old male married 36 yrs use trimix four yrs, cilais and Viagra. trimix work well developed scarring on both sides had implant 1/9/2020 at UT Med Ctr, Knoxville, TN Dr. John Lacy.

Lost Sheep
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby Lost Sheep » Thu Jul 30, 2020 12:19 pm

LBC2020 wrote:Seeing dr Eid

I’m so afraid but at the same
Time my life is terrible due to ED and non existent libido now
I still have some erectile capacity for 30seconds which stinks

I’m jist so afraid my god if something goes wrong

Or If it goes right ...what that would feel
Like

Happiness

Even if the surgery is painful (as opposed to notaes' experience)
notaes wrote:Never had a pain with my surgery. The surgery for me was not worth worrying about. So glad I did it! Best sex ever! Best of luck to you!


I will paraphrase the admonition against suicide ("Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.")

"Implant surgery is temporary pain traded for permanent potency"

For me, it was Soooo worth it!
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017 Dr Shaw.
READ OLD THREADS to ask better questions and better understand answers.
Make yourself part of your medical team.
Document your current penile size: photos and written records.
Pre-op V.E.D. therapy helps.

Frederickdave
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby Frederickdave » Thu Jul 30, 2020 1:37 pm

I also told my urologist "I only want to make love to my wife again!" We did the implant and it's the best thing ever. Sex is great. Intimacy is back. Couldnt be happier. The first few weeks were no fun, but pain will be forgotten the first time you use it.

gene308
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby gene308 » Thu Jul 30, 2020 4:08 pm

Each of us facing this have our own individual fears and different ways of dealing with them. For me the most straight forward fear to deal with was the surgery. I handled that fear with data, studies, videos of the surgery, much reading here on franktalk. I was blessed with a wonderful wife and supportive PA and surgeon. Even so I was consumed with doubts and fears. I drove my wife crazy (much more than usual) I eventually was convinced it was the best option for me and my wife. It is the best option. I, like so many here on franktalk are happy with the result.

Women appreciate confident men in bed. One thing ED robs you of is confidence. The implant does one thing very well: It gives you ultimate confidence. You will perform anytime, every time for as long as she can stand it. That is the ultimate confidence

God bless you
Gene308 married 43 years AMS 700 CX 21cm+2cm Implanted 10/04/2018 Dr James Hotaling (surgeon) and Mariah McCafferty, (Surgical Nurse and AMS rep) , University of Utah

will1948
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Re: So scared to do implant surgery

Postby will1948 » Thu Jul 30, 2020 9:41 pm

Had my implant May 11 this year. My wife and I have had sex 5 or 6 times since then.Doc said no sex for 6 weeks so we just got started.Each time we have sex it gets better. My anxiety about getting an erection is completely gone and it’s a wonderful feeling.

I had the same butterflies before surgery but I can tell you that I’m extremely happy with my decision. A little short term discomfort will give way to long term happiness.

Relax it will be worth it.


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