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Wow sad situation, sorry man. I guess it's too late now but did you discuss it with her before your surgery? Was she supportive then? When I discussed it with my wife I told her it's because I still needed/wanted to be intimate with her. We started dating for the sex 30+ years ago. (see my profile) Sex has been something in our years that has remained pretty consistent, and after ED began it just kept getting worse and worse. When it got to the point nothing worked anymore, an implant was the final step. She thinks it's OK, but I've lost some length. She says it feels real anyway.

I am in same situation. Got the implantband it works great. Used it for sex one time then wife closed up that shop. Rather frustrating. I would really like to give the equipment a workout.

Larryb8x8 wrote: she says it's okay if I want a girlfriend I'm a godly Man and never cheated

If she gives you permission to have a girlfriend.....it's not cheating.......

Gee time to move on. My wife dont want me to get implant waste of money. But she has her eye bags removed that was well spent she says. ...

Idk not sure about the implant because I havent needed it just yet. I only look and read these post to learn about the process for when I will need it. I am a godly man as well but One thing that I do know though is women. Contrary to my beliefs I have been with x amount of women. And I dont believe that this is a question of sex but rather a question of love and understanding. If it were me and I loved my wife I would romance her over and over. I'll take her on many trips. Get her away from her surroundings and treat her romantic things with no expectation of sex. I will let her know how I feel one time and just try to listen to how she feels as well. The love and communication is the marriage. The sex is just the icing on the cake in Gods plan. If God choose you two for each other you will be able to communicate and get through. If not then God must have a different plan.

I'm on Trimix but it's hit or miss lately. I have discussed getting an implant with her but she is dead set against it. She said, " it's too mechanical I might as well get fucked with a dildo!" So I have an uphill climb to convince her and after I get it I might be in the same situation as you.

Alanoc8 wrote:I'm on Trimix but it's hit or miss lately. I have discussed getting an implant with her but she is dead set against it. She said, " it's too mechanical I might as well get fucked with a dildo!" So I have an uphill climb to convince her and after I get it I might be in the same situation as you.

That is absolutely NOT TRUE... If she doesn't grab your balls, she would never know. As for mechanical, during foreplay, while you are keeping her busy, you could be pumping it up. When she realizes that you are like the Energizer Bunny and just keep going, she will change her tune.

Larryb8x8 wrote:I was implanted in the end of December. My wife and I have been together for 10 years and all of a sudden after surgery no more sex. You wanted yourself why the hell did I go through this surgery?
We have literally turned into a sexless marriage I don't know if it's because of my new implant she does complain about the girth she's not the cheating type of person. Has anybody gone to this situation. I'm not a fan of masturbation I need my wife this might not end out well...

You have my deepest sympathies. My wife and I have been married 31 years on July 22. When we first started living together we had sex every night. I was working on an army base in the kitchen and we didn't have a car yet so I would take a taxi when I was on early shift. I was getting picked up at 4:45 am so I had to be up at 4 am. Exhaustion finally set in and one night I told her that I was exhausted and I would make it up to her. From that point on, my sex life was in the toilet. That was the first year. Now 30 years later my sex life absolutely sucks. MAYBE once every 3 to 4 weeks. She says it has nothing to do with that night I told her I was too tired but offers no reason why it's so bad except to say that I have to be more affectionate outside the bedroom but I haven't changed since I met her. I can't and won't live without a sex life so if things don't change I will be stepping outside the marriage. I am bisexual but have bee 100% faithful since meeting my wife.. Maybe it's tome to change things up.

Your wives seem to be very selfish. Luckily there are so many other women around, I wouldn‘t waste my time with one denying me a sexual life.

Robert66 wrote:Gee time to move on. My wife dont want me to get implant waste of money. But she has her eye bags removed that was well spent she says. ...

This is infuriating. If someone wants to spend money to better themselves, or feel better ABOUT themselves, why the hell not? plenty of women get boob jobs and aren't shamed about it like it seems some are willing to do when you can't feel like a real man and have an erection. A very selfish position to have.