Should I have implant? Frustrated 43 year old.
Posted: Tue Mar 24, 2020 12:04 pm
I'm sure this comes up a lot, I've read forums, just so confused and frustrated...
About me, 43 years old, married 21 years, healthy cept for high blood pressure, family issues are high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, and peripheral artery disease which I believe is the root of my problem. Started having mild ED issues around 37-38. Started testosterone replacement and over the counter meds. This worked fine for about 4 years then it was like a light switch, I just couldn't keep an erection, hard as ever at the start but then would go to 70% erect, as long as stayed in missionary position it was manageable but others I'd just slip out. I hide this from my wife, tried Viagra and daily cialis, neither helped at all. I then went to a medical grade pump and cock rings, this worked, then one night I slipped out, due to the "floppiness" from the ring ended up hurting my penis and now have a slight, 10-15% bend to the left. Started tri-mix but never felt like I was getting a 100% erection. Then started double strength tri-mix, same issues, still never 100%. Maybe I have unreal expectations but I wanted things to be like there were, doctor's statement was if I was getting hard enough to penetrate it was a win and I should be happy...
Ended up driving to a doctor that was advertising the P-shot and gainswave and is a certified urologist. He examined me (no formal tests to say though) and stated I had a venous leak and that's why nothing was helping, that a cock ring was my best bet. He went on the say that doing the p-shot or gainswave was a waste of money and that the only thing he would do for me was to install the titan penis implant. He showed me the implant, said he did around 3 a week, and it was my only option. He did suggest the "giddy" cock ring which I have been using. While it is the best option I've used so far, I still don't stay 100% hard and it limits the positions we can use and I don't ejaculate often (obviously my concern is keeping the wife happy more so than me). But no pain from shots and easier to keep by the bed and more spontaneous than running to the fridge and taking a shot.
So I started researching which led me here. It seems surgery is in my future, my concern now is losing size as most have said. With the ring in place I measure 6.1" girth and 7.5" long. I'm a grower, if I stretch my flaccid penis I can only get to 6", I don't know if it matter but when
I use to get erections I was straight up at 1:00, seems my penis is "tough".
I would rather deal with the problems I have now and have 7.5" than lose 1.5" or more but stay hard forever if that makes sense. My wife is supportive, she walked in on me pumping one night before bed which obviously let the cat out of the bag, she stated she had noticed but thought it was stress/medications/etc. She didn't know I had seen 3 different doctors, she knows all now. If the ring didn't work there would be no question but, my concern is her expectations and while I know she says she's happy with me, I don't want to be smaller for all the reasons guys want to be bigger (no psychoanalysis please). Reading the site, it's amazing to hear 70-80 year old guys getting implants to stay active, it's just one of those things that's hard to wrap your mind around, I never thought I'd have this problem, but if I have 40 years of sex still ahead of me I need to get a handle on this. It seems "shrinkage" occurs the longer you have the implant so what will I be left with. I read about the penuma implant that helps with this but it seems most here have had a negative experience with it.
It seems Dr Eid and Dr Kramer and the go to guys. I live in NC, my insurance will pay wherever and I don't mind traveling to get the best doctor I can. Just concerned that I'm making the right decision, being permeant, and that nothing better will come out in a few years that I will regret waiting for.
Sorry for the wall of text and thanks for any advise/personal experience.
About me, 43 years old, married 21 years, healthy cept for high blood pressure, family issues are high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, and peripheral artery disease which I believe is the root of my problem. Started having mild ED issues around 37-38. Started testosterone replacement and over the counter meds. This worked fine for about 4 years then it was like a light switch, I just couldn't keep an erection, hard as ever at the start but then would go to 70% erect, as long as stayed in missionary position it was manageable but others I'd just slip out. I hide this from my wife, tried Viagra and daily cialis, neither helped at all. I then went to a medical grade pump and cock rings, this worked, then one night I slipped out, due to the "floppiness" from the ring ended up hurting my penis and now have a slight, 10-15% bend to the left. Started tri-mix but never felt like I was getting a 100% erection. Then started double strength tri-mix, same issues, still never 100%. Maybe I have unreal expectations but I wanted things to be like there were, doctor's statement was if I was getting hard enough to penetrate it was a win and I should be happy...
Ended up driving to a doctor that was advertising the P-shot and gainswave and is a certified urologist. He examined me (no formal tests to say though) and stated I had a venous leak and that's why nothing was helping, that a cock ring was my best bet. He went on the say that doing the p-shot or gainswave was a waste of money and that the only thing he would do for me was to install the titan penis implant. He showed me the implant, said he did around 3 a week, and it was my only option. He did suggest the "giddy" cock ring which I have been using. While it is the best option I've used so far, I still don't stay 100% hard and it limits the positions we can use and I don't ejaculate often (obviously my concern is keeping the wife happy more so than me). But no pain from shots and easier to keep by the bed and more spontaneous than running to the fridge and taking a shot.
So I started researching which led me here. It seems surgery is in my future, my concern now is losing size as most have said. With the ring in place I measure 6.1" girth and 7.5" long. I'm a grower, if I stretch my flaccid penis I can only get to 6", I don't know if it matter but when
I use to get erections I was straight up at 1:00, seems my penis is "tough".
I would rather deal with the problems I have now and have 7.5" than lose 1.5" or more but stay hard forever if that makes sense. My wife is supportive, she walked in on me pumping one night before bed which obviously let the cat out of the bag, she stated she had noticed but thought it was stress/medications/etc. She didn't know I had seen 3 different doctors, she knows all now. If the ring didn't work there would be no question but, my concern is her expectations and while I know she says she's happy with me, I don't want to be smaller for all the reasons guys want to be bigger (no psychoanalysis please). Reading the site, it's amazing to hear 70-80 year old guys getting implants to stay active, it's just one of those things that's hard to wrap your mind around, I never thought I'd have this problem, but if I have 40 years of sex still ahead of me I need to get a handle on this. It seems "shrinkage" occurs the longer you have the implant so what will I be left with. I read about the penuma implant that helps with this but it seems most here have had a negative experience with it.
It seems Dr Eid and Dr Kramer and the go to guys. I live in NC, my insurance will pay wherever and I don't mind traveling to get the best doctor I can. Just concerned that I'm making the right decision, being permeant, and that nothing better will come out in a few years that I will regret waiting for.
Sorry for the wall of text and thanks for any advise/personal experience.