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After 3 years since I started prostate cancer treatments (before that,I enjoyed frequent sex), I am telling everyone I’m getting an implant. Do you tell or no-tell?

I'm be open about it, not ashamed of having it. May not be tactful in mixed company but when I was 2-3 days after surgery a young female cashier saw me grab my package as I walked into a fast-food restaurant. I apologized and explained that I had just had surgery "down there" and sometimes I have to readjust myself a little. Didn't faze her.

When I had to ask for time off from work, I described it as "urological surgery" and no one wanted to know any details.

I tell everyone that is interested. Like Prostate cancer, everyone needs to know as much as they can before the the cancer strikes.

I am mostly open about it. It’s just a system to make us have a reg normal life again.

But HOW do you bring up having a 3rd ball? For us single guys, its not as easy as you make it out to be. "Oh, I have an implant, so I can fuck you all night if I don't cum" does not cut it. Esp. if you are talking to them in email. Male or female, talking to someone, then inviting them over...ahh, crap, I think you know what I mean...I am getting flustered here just writing this because it has happened several times.

For me, it would be on a "need to know" basis. Most social situations don't usually include commentary of my past/present medical conditions/surgeries. Reminds me of my Grandmother after her age 75. Within 5 mins she was telling all about her "troubles".

A one night stand (NSA sex), I wouldn't say a thing. Trial and error, fix and repeat. If I was feeling a serious relationship was possible, yes, somehow I would advise them of my condition. "I had an issue that was fixed". As Matter of Fact as I could be in the moment. You make something a Big Thing, then it is a Big Thing. If they have a problem with my current physical status or fix, Next! When/how would I know? Everyone is different. If the matter is important to you, it will come out.

Don't overthink things. Engage, Enjoy or Move On.

my 2 centavos.

LU

Agfa13 wrote:But HOW do you bring up having a 3rd ball? For us single guys, its not as easy as you make it out to be. "Oh, I have an implant, so I can fuck you all night if I don't cum" does not cut it. Esp. if you are talking to them in email. Male or female, talking to someone, then inviting them over...ahh, crap, I think you know what I mean...I am getting flustered here just writing this because it has happened several times.

Your experiences would be interesting, I think. Would you care to share a typical scenario/script with us?

I have met several women through the internet, but none were invited to share my (or their) bed sight unseen. The usual progression of events/intimacies are:

A-Exchange a few messages through the site through which we met (which were usually anonymized)
B-Exchange a few messages, texts and phone calls via regular email or phone. Discussion covers our personalities and expectations.
C-Meet in a public place and further discuss our nascent relationship and expectations. Relationship history might come up at this time, including my E.D. and implant (though, truth be told, my initial dating site profile mentions it-it seems actually to be an attractant. Not the implant, but the candor).
D-By now, we have both invested enough time to know if we are growing a no-strings-attached relationship (aside: I was not interested in one-night-stands or NSAs) or something longer-lasting or even substantial. Another opportunity to bring up my implant (if it were not already known) if she seems open to other-than-organic erections or mentally open to alternative practices or is medically sophisticated.
E-Having sex. At this point, if my implant has not come up before for any reason, I might hold off on telling her about it. I relish the idea of her not knowing until after she asks, how it is that I stay erect for so long (presumably after she has had a couple of orgasms or it is evident that I have ejaculated). Then, I could smile and say some quip. "I am bionic" or "I have a magic dick" or, my favorite brag, "I can do more tricks on 4 inches of dick than a monkey can on a mile rope". How we could get to that point without her noticing the inflation process is tricky.

Disclosure: I actually have more dick than 4", but letting her have another pleasant surprise is nice.

LS, that is all well and good, but if he or she goes down on you, what to you say at that time?
With my malleable right now, not a problem. But later on, with my 3-piece, I can imagine either of 3 scenarios. 1st being that when the person goes down on me, they find that 3rd ball, ignore it, and just continue with oral, and then ride it:)
2nd scenario, they find the bulb, ignore it, but end oral activity quickly and just move to fucking.
3rd scenario would be that finding 3rd ball just ends the session.

I guess the 2nd scenario would bring up questions later on in session, like after everyone has gotten their cookie:)!

Agfa13 wrote:LS, that is all well and good, but if he or she goes down on you, what to you say at that time?
With my malleable right now, not a problem. But later on, with my 3-piece, I can imagine either of 3 scenarios. 1st being that when the person goes down on me, they find that 3rd ball, ignore it, and just continue with oral, and then ride it:)
2nd scenario, they find the bulb, ignore it, but end oral activity quickly and just move to fucking.
3rd scenario would be that finding 3rd ball just ends the session.

I guess the 2nd scenario would bring up questions later on in session, like after everyone has gotten their cookie:)!

3rd scenario, I think, is unlikely. I seriously doubt that any woman prepared to have sex will pull the plug just because there is something odd-feeling inside your scrotum. If the penis is cosmetically similar to its natural state (and sufficiently erect for fucking), what woman, ready for sex and with her "engine" revved up is going to leave unsatisfied?

I know, if she feels disrespected or some precipitating cause makes her change her mind, she might. But a lump in your sack (I don't think) would not be sufficient to reverse her course.

2nd scenario, she might be curious about it. My pump bulb is quite prominent (especially in briefs, which "print" the bulb very obviously). It does not bother my girlfriend at all. But I imagine a scenario 2.1 (or maybe 1.1) where your partner might find the pump and just keep feeling around it while continuing oral (on your shaft or on your scrotum).