Decided against implant - well wife did

[dirtman1993]

I go on the side of getting the implant and would do it no matter what she said. The physical is great of doing it but the MENTAL part is the best. This will allow you to have sex whenever and the knowing is the best part. God forbid should she ever have breast cancer or anything else and need reconstruction. Makes me wonder if she would so no to that as it would also be a Mental boost for her. Selfish, sure sounds like and I am truly sorry for you.

[Robert66]

Must be related to mine some how. Everything i want is a waste of money. And so often they take the high road. (ITS NOT THE MONEY ITS YOUR HEALTH I AM WORRIED ABOUT ) ok dear of course the 4.000 you spent on your eye bag surgery was different and you teeth of course who can put a price on that ... Oh and hey that personal trainer is really something you doing for us .... Yep related

[FMLFML85]

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[rufuswd]

IMHO, Run. Get out now. Get your implant and build a life with someone who loves and supports you. I was purely blessed. I was married once. 11 November 1966. One of the few really good things I've done in my life. Still married to the same wonderful, smart, sexy, beautiful, supportive, loving girl with the dynamite ass. When I got ED , she said " We'll work it out". Pills, shots, VED didn't work. Read about implants. Her first reaction was "Is it safe for you?" Not "What does it cost?" I'm not happy with it and her reaction is "We'll work it out." God I love that girl! Just my opinion. I could be wrong. Good luck.

[thereishope]

I am your age and divorced (no kids) and I want to chime in to say something. Sexual health is important for your mental well being. Make sure it’s not something you end up resenting her for. I am from Pakistan, a developing country so I didn’t have money too. What did I do? I sold one of my property land so I can have money to get implanted by the best surgeon in the world, Dr Kramer, around $24K total for everything. I realized what’s the point of earning money and having assets when my own life is miserable. My point is, life is short, delay it for now but talk to your wife so she can come around to this idea. Tell her how important this is to you. In the meantime, work hard and save up some money but definitely get an implant if you’re impotent and nothing else is working.

I commend your atittude imenselly. It is not everyday you see somebody doing everything they can to achieve their goals. Good luck with going forward with the procedure. I imagine how hard it was for you this decision!

[FMLFML85]

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[Biker60]

I go with doing it for you and maybe your next wife. I was married to
A lady like this for 11 years. She is on her 4th husband. I did for her and neglected myself for all those years. Once I unloaded her, I found what real relationships where like. Just like the guy who posted on FT that his wife can’t get off with his implant. She does not like and does not think ever will. Again, there is life after marriages of imprisonment.

[MK1965]

I am wondering if your wife has any idea how is that important for you and your wellbeing. I am much older then you, but I felt terrible after prostate removal when I was 100% impotent and nothing worked to give me usable erection. To me, it does not matter if I have sex once a month or once a week or every day, but it matters when I want sex I know it won’t let me down, it is usable to full satisfaction of both parties.
I got implant 16 months ago and from my experience I can tell that implant improved my mental and physical state. I know it will work when needed and it makes me feel good.
I know implant cost lots of money but I feel that would be money well spent.
I would wait for insurance to change or would look to change job to get better coverage and do it.
MK

[notaes]

I could not imagine my wife trying to make a decision like this for me! Any woman who knows the make up of a man should know his sexuality is what makes him a man. This drives everything there is about a man. I have told my wife at least a thousand times that every time we have sex it makes me want to be a better man. It makes me want to be a better husband to her. It effects me mentality, physically and spirituality. I watched my father die last year at the age of 86 and he told me one day while we were alone that he really missed sex! I have never forgotten what he said about this and how he said it! He was communicating more than the words he said. I could tell that he missed the intimacy of loving a woman. I could not ever imagine not being able to physically love my wife. That is another reason I wanted to do everything in my power to preserve that part of our life for as long as I was physically able an get an implant. The intimacy between a man and a woman is one of the most powerful things in this world. I cannot imagine if you really loved your mate that you would not want them to be able to experience that part of your love for as long as humanly possible. Men want to be men as long as they live!

[DaveKell]

After weeks away from regular participation here many comments in this thread show a degradation of the purpose of Franktalk. I was, frankly speaking, shocked. This isn’t a barroom gathering for good ol’ boys to bash a man’s wife. I can’t find one sentence where the op asked for opinions of his mate. He would be within his rights to deck a couple participants!

On the topic of waiting for new treatments on the horizon, I spent a few years following the development of Brazilian wandering spider venom. When ER doctors get a man brought in unconscious with a throbbing erection they know he was likely bitten by a wandering spider and will soon die without immediate treatment. Researchers have isolated and synthesized a protein in the venom responsible for the immediate erection and have eliminated the usually fatal toxins. Testing was done on aged, obese and impotent male rats who promptly began breeding generations of offspring. As far as I recall human trials are a few years off. The important thing was erections were nearly immediate for the rats and wore off after a few hours. Obviously a medication such as this would obsolete every current ed med in existence. So there would be an immediate push back from big pharma intent on protecting their revenue stream of billions yearly. Might be something to start following though?