That *&$%#@!! Deflation Button

[Jasonsa]

Makes sense Stephan, really sucks. And yes, post implant it seems as though all is different. Follow the doctor’s orders. My cylinders crinkle like crazy when I squeeze out the fluid. Interesting the blood in your urine showed up following the 5 hour hard-on situation. That was extreme and only 4 weeks post op. No infection is what matters most! Wishing you well. Keep us posted.

[stephen54]

Makes sense Stephan, really sucks. And yes, post implant it seems as though all is different. Follow the doctor’s orders. My cylinders crinkle like crazy when I squeeze out the fluid. Interesting the blood in your urine showed up following the 5 hour hard-on situation. That was extreme and only 4 weeks post op. No infection is what matters most! Wishing you well. Keep us posted.

Thanks Jason. Yep, every day is something entirely new here!

[Waynetho]

@Stephen54,

And brown blood in you're urine would most likely be old blood.

When I had my UroLift procedure done, that night while still catheterized I felt bladder cramps and stood at the toilet for a minute just in case I would leak pee from around the catheter. Instead, I shot several ounces of fresh blood out from around it. It was really red. I've had blood in my urine after catheter removal and the urine wasn't brown but pink.That's why to me it it does sound like old blood, perhaps from the edema, that somehow managed to get into your bladder.

[544kenmatt]

Hi Stephen
Just wondering how you are doing. Is the deflation thing getting any better for you?

[stephen54]

Hi Stephen
Just wondering how you are doing. Is the deflation thing getting any better for you?

Hey there, thanks for checking in. I've been a bit sloppy getting back to discussion threads and realizing there was a comment or question.

I went to Dr Levine's office yesterday and, with the help of his PA, managed to inflate/deflate 3x. In the world of victories, this was a big one for my confidence level, for sure.

It was not easy at all. I spent the better part of 30 minutes trying to get 3 cycles accomplished. 27 of those minutes was spent on the still-sort-of-maddening location of those deflate buttons, and finding a way to firmly press them together without liquifying my left testicle under the pressure of my fingers and knuckles. I think...I think...the valve body is moving slightly more freely in my sac. It's the orientation of it, still, which is making this difficult (the "button" side of the valve is hanging pointing exactly forward, toward my dick). They still feel that, with time, it will continue to loosen and hang more freely in that space and that, even if it continues to point forward, that I should over time be more able and more comfortable to rotate it 90 degrees to make for a more comfortable button grab. Right now I am contorting myself into the most comical positions you can imagine to get at that valve without crushing my nut...right leg up on the countertop, left hand approaching from behind, leaning forward, leaning back...crazy!

So I'm behind on my cycling protocol now and need to get at it. They want it cycled every day and they want me as soon as possible to start holding the erections for as long as I can, up to one hour, daily.

I feel behind. It hurt like a sonofabitch to get fully inflated yesterday in their office. Mostly the tips area under the glans and around its border. Pretty intense. They were not surprised. Said I am a little behind and definitely need to get the tissues moving in both directions. The pain subsided over a couple hours. I'm a little shocked by my very very obvious change in size...smaller in every direction. But again, I've effectively done zero cycling, and my doc and pretty much 95% of the guys here with implants keep assuring me that the lions share of length will return with patience, with cycling, and with time.

Time to get my shit together and get to work here!

And...our boys head back to college next Friday. Meaning sweet empty nester status returns. Meaning privacy.

Meaning....

(whether this dick hurts or not, and regardless of how long it takes me to deflate, it's headed the hell back where it belongs and enjoys life the most)

[544kenmatt]

yeah, the size thing was a bit of a shocker for me too, even though I expected it. To actually see it makes it a little too real. But I have seen improvement even over the last three weeks.
My deflate button also faces forward. I manage to put my thumb behind the block to stabilize and depress the button with my index finger, while squeezing my dick with my left hand. I have an AMS, so my flaccid state is probably double what it was.
My inflated state is still not ready for penetration. I have soreness and pain with any pushing pressure and the penile skin is still very sensitive/irritated. I just passed the nine week mark, so I feel a little behind as well but we need to take a breath and chill.

[Waynetho]

My inflated state is still not ready for penetration. I have soreness and pain with any pushing pressure and the penile skin is still very sensitive/irritated. I just passed the nine week mark, so I feel a little behind as well but we need to take a breath and chill.

Dude, I feel for you being so far past your surgery and still not being able to penetrate. I took my new toy on a short maiden voyage on my 6th week post surgery (to the date, Monday 12/9 after my Monday 10/28 surgery). Unfortunately due to logistical issues (wife's obesity and mobility issues, my fat pad), I could only barely get 1-1.5" of penetration but still it was better than "Getting a grip" these past 20 some odd years. Also unfortunately, It's almost a month since that time and I see no signs of my wife wanting a reprise of the attempt. We just had a discussion where I went from previously saying "I *WANT* to use my new toy" to me saying "I *WILL* be using my new toy, by whatever means necessary!" Her response, "whatever!" (Wonder if women know when a guy hears "Whatever", in their mind they hear "I GIVE YOU PERMISSION".

[stephen54]

My inflated state is still not ready for penetration. I have soreness and pain with any pushing pressure and the penile skin is still very sensitive/irritated. I just passed the nine week mark, so I feel a little behind as well but we need to take a breath and chill.

Dude, I feel for you being so far past your surgery and still not being able to penetrate. I took my new toy on a short maiden voyage on my 6th week post surgery (to the date, Monday 12/9 after my Monday 10/28 surgery). Unfortunately due to logistical issues (wife's obesity and mobility issues, my fat pad), I could only barely get 1-1.5" of penetration but still it was better than "Getting a grip" these past 20 some odd years. Also unfortunately, It's almost a month since that time and I see no signs of my wife wanting a reprise of the attempt. We just had a discussion where I went from previously saying "I *WANT* to use my new toy" to me saying "I *WILL* be using my new toy, by whatever means necessary!" Her response, "whatever!" (Wonder if women know when a guy hears "Whatever", in their mind they hear "I GIVE YOU PERMISSION".

First, man, that's actually funny as hell. About made me spit up my coffee here (ie, "whatever" = consent) hahahahah…

Second...if you don't mind my asking...what is that thing for you two, though, her "whatever" attitude ? Her indifference to lovemaking? I'm assuming there may not be a linear, simple, straightforward answer. Just curious.

What's the "win" for your wife here? Turning the equation around from what you want (and need)...what does a win look like for her? What is that thing where some trust and interest to exploring a middle ground...to exploring...something...could be triggered?

[Waynetho]

First, man, that's actually funny as hell. About made me spit up my coffee here (ie, "whatever" = consent) hahahahah…

Second...if you don't mind my asking...what is that thing for you two, though, her "whatever" attitude ? Her indifference to lovemaking? I'm assuming there may not be a linear, simple, straightforward answer. Just curious.

What's the "win" for your wife here? Turning the equation around from what you want (and need)...what does a win look like for her? What is that thing where some trust and interest to exploring a middle ground...to exploring...something...could be triggered?

Well yesterday afternoon I was still voluntarily self-catheterized (a challenge, not medical) so penetrative sex wasn't on the table but I played a 30 minute MMF porno and let my wife watch it which got things working a bit (she has very specific on and off buttons with erotic imagery so choosing the subject matter can be very tricky).

Anyway, once the video was over, I got out the 5" silicone and some lube and manually stimulated her for about 10-15 minutes, including giving her clitoris a good going over. I got her off three times, the last including an all over body spasm.

Later yesterday evening after I had de-cathed, she gave my some oral stimulation, although as of yet I haven't been able to get off without my own control.

She is on Premarin cream every 72 hrs and is taking Estroven tablets as well. Her libido is very low but can be triggered, and she's worried about dryness and pain (neither occurred yesterday).

[stephen54]

First, man, that's actually funny as hell. About made me spit up my coffee here (ie, "whatever" = consent) hahahahah…

Second...if you don't mind my asking...what is that thing for you two, though, her "whatever" attitude ? Her indifference to lovemaking? I'm assuming there may not be a linear, simple, straightforward answer. Just curious.

What's the "win" for your wife here? Turning the equation around from what you want (and need)...what does a win look like for her? What is that thing where some trust and interest to exploring a middle ground...to exploring...something...could be triggered?

Well yesterday afternoon I was still voluntarily self-catheterized (a challenge, not medical) so penetrative sex wasn't on the table but I played a 30 minute MMF porno and let my wife watch it which got things working a bit (she has very specific on and off buttons with erotic imagery so choosing the subject matter can be very tricky).

Anyway, once the video was over, I got out the 5" silicone and some lube and manually stimulated her for about 10-15 minutes, including giving her clitoris a good going over. I got her off three times, the last including an all over body spasm.

Later yesterday evening after I had de-cathed, she gave my some oral stimulation, although as of yet I haven't been able to get off without my own control.

She is on Premarin cream every 72 hrs and is taking Estroven tablets as well. Her libido is very low but can be triggered, and she's worried about dryness and pain (neither occurred yesterday).

I'd call that a WIN, man....I see positives galore
Keep triggering that libido of hers!