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Hi,

I’m 34, London-based, have been living with ED since late teens. Pills work a bit but are not adequate. This condition has pretty much ruined my life and I feel I need to address it or face a monkish and lonely existence.

In deciding to take the plunge I have a few questions:

1) what’s a typical post-op recovery time to status quo (ie normal function)

2) what is the risk of floppy glans? Can it be addressed?

3) overall would you recommend the procedure or should I carry on in this frustrating situation in which I can perform to some extent, but below optimum?

Many thanks in advance.

1) It depends on different person and what you understand as normal function. Complete normal function, i.e, as if you would not have been implanted, I would say one year or so. Being able to have good sex, varies. I am 10 weeks after implant and I can't still have any sex because of pain. There are people able to do in just 4 weeks. I would say that in 3 months, almost everybody can have sex. And in one year, without any limitation.

2) Again, depends on how deep the surgeon place the cylinders. There are people that address it with viagra.

3) It depends on you. If that some extent is enough for your happiness, you should not go with implant. If that some exent is ruining your life, you should definetively go with it.

Thanks - all useful input. I think I’m inclined to go for it because relationship after relationship has ended...it’s caused me quite serious depression at times. Even when it works, it’s sub-optimal, and there’s the constant anxiety about whether the pills will work. Usually they don’t. This year I met someone who broke it off after five months - partly or wholly because of then ED - and it has been very tough coming to terms with the fact it might have worked out if I had normal function.

The thought of losing “natural” engorgement for life, with the accompanying risks of botched procedure and the painful recovery, has put me off up to now. But increasingly I do think the implant is my only shot at normality.

As I have said before, nobody can take the decission for you. You are the only one able to decide if all the setbacks are worth.

Botched procedure can easyly be avoided by choosing an experienced surgeon. If you can afford go with one of the top in the world (Kramer, Eid, Perito), better. If not, as is my case, search for the best in your country, and be sure he/she makes the procedure at least 1 time a week and has more than 10 years of experience. I think anybody that is over those numbers can do the procedure with guaranties.

Pain? In my case, yes, very much. Indeed I am 10 weeks after the surgery and pain still doesn't allow me have sex. But I know it is a matter of time, and the reward will be great when it comes.

'Natural' engorgment lose for life? I had no engorgment at all. The most important thing to have god sex is engorgment. Natural or not, is completely secondary. If as in my case there is no natural, I prefer to go ahead with 'not so natural'.

Good responses from OnePerson, and EJF your situation is currently like mine was.

The tipping point for me came at a golf tournament and I overheard one of the other golfers there,in a bit of sit deprecating humor, mention that his 'penis was nothing more than a hose'...at that point having been dealing with this issue for a long time (again sounds similar to your current state) I was determined to find an alternative rather than live my life like this. No looking back on my decision, I'm 1000% happier. My confidence is back. Yes you'll have to deal with recovery, but now nearly 3 months since my implant I don't have any negative repercussions with my implant. I hope this feedback helps.

Good luck
Sam

Hey ejf110,

Sounds a similar story to mine in that even on my best days, its still shit. There are people on here that respond to even low does of pills that give them 100% functioning, if this is not you then do not accept it.

Floppy head is zero risk if you go to a good surgeon. Do not ever let the NHS do this operation unless you can pick the surgeon (see Ruktitan's posts). I have been saving all year and will be going to NYC for mine in the new year. If you are not going to do that, then try your best to get Mr Ralph. If you are in London that will be easy enough.

This is our one shot at normal as you say. Don't let some inexperienced surgeon take it away from you!

Hello ejf110,

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Clayton2526

You have not mentioned the use of injections that I can see. If you have not tried them you should. They did not work for me but do for most men. That is the safest way to go before an implant. Jim

You should definitely check out injections as the poster above suggested. I believe Alprostadil also has the added benefit of increasing penis size over time. I am also young like you OP, in fact a few years younger. Pills are currently working OK for me (not great, just OK) but when they fail I will turn to injections for several years to reach my max penis size possible for the eventual implant surgery. What I'm most worried about with the implant is erosion; that is, the implant eventually wearing through the penis skin over time. Maybe it's not something that happens in 10 years, but at our age of 30ish we would expect to be using the implant for 50 years or more. There is no data to support whether erosion can be held at bay for that long with an implant installed.