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Hi,

I am trying to find solutions to the problem I have making love to my wife. As I posted, I was unable to do it because the pain and the small size. Regarding small size, I can't do anything but cycle everyday and wait. But regarding the pain, do you think it would be easer using some lubricant?

If I have to wait 2 more months without sex, I will have no choice but wait, for me is not a problem, but I don't want to have my wife so much time without sex, she has been many months already without it. And if you say that sex can be done in other ways, I say yes, but my wife don't enjoy without pennis penetration.

Can anybody give advice on how to avoid pain?

My grocery store in the female isle has a water base personnel lubricant. I used this a few times early on or after if my partner has trouble with dryness. Only trouble is at room temp it can be cold. Microwave can make it really hot fast so be careful. Using hot water can take time. I have thought of looking for a lube warmer. Like maybe a sex toy with a warmer and lube to use for foreplay. Some lube for anal play is advertised to have some kind of pain reliever but as you are healing I would not use that. You need to feel the pain and not over do things while you are healing. If your wife has trouble with dryness she might want to talk to her doctor about what to use.

Thanks for the answer. My wife doesn't have dry problems, but with her wetness I have much pain. More than that, because I cannot penetrate her well due to my pain, she doesn't get enough wet. When she gets totally wet is after a while once I am inside her. It is like a vicious circle: she needs penetration to be fully wet. When I was able to have good erections, I just penetrated her with some difficulty (very little), and she got very wet quickly. Now, that makes me fell much pain and I cannot go ahead.

That's why I think a lubricant could help, but I am not sure if that is recommended.

I have also used saliva (spit). Just build up a good amount in my mouth and then use my hand to apply to the head of my penis as I am ready to insert. Makes the first entry very easy. But for some positions lube is a better choice. If your grocery store does not have it your pharmacy should. The generic brand personal lubes are not very expensive. But if you want there are a lot of sex lubes you can buy online or if you have a sex toy store near you. Just some ideas of things I have used. Good luck.

A good round of oral gets my wife to orgasm and extreme wetness. If this doesn’t do it for your wife, you will have at least delivered a good bit of saliva in a most intimate and enjoyable way.

For lubricant we haven't found anything better than Sliquid: https://sliquid.com/shop/sliquid-naturals/naturals-water-based/h2o-sliquid-naturals/. There are probably cheaper places to buy it. You can easily use too much and and end up without enough friction.

there is a "buzz" about a lube product that many are saying is exceptional. My wife's friend told her about it (and the friend works in an ob/gyn office), and we tried it. Yes, it is great since it feels natural and is not sticky later.

product name = uberlube

Someone already brought it up but I am here to say Uber lube!! Anytime you ever do anything sexually, use lube! My girl is plenty lubricated but this stuff is amazing… We rub a bit on her clit I swear to God it’s like magic potion… You need to figure, that thing is thousand times more sensitive than the head of your penis… Use a lubricant! this stuff also has vitamin E in it which is really good for skin and hair “bonus“ you can use just a couple of drops and it comes in a really pretty bottle… I swear to God though it is the difference between good sex and phenomenal sex for any woman to bust that out is the surprise! Just rub gently on the clitoris… and sneak a little in to the vagina to help you out! She never even needs to know but she will! Best of luck, mate…

Bought in Amazon.

Lets see if it facilitates penetration and let me have sex without pain.

Thanks!!