QuestionGuy wrote:With the right stimulation I can become erect, and just prior to orgasm, I am as hard as a tire iron. But much like pumping a tire with a leak, if that stimulation stops: so does the erection. I am ready to move forward with implant, but am concerned that my issue falls into the realm of "erectile dissatisfaction".
On the one hand : I do not have a penis usable for intercourse, therefore I am a candidate.
On the other hand: The technical definition of ED is : no erection functionality regardless of pills, injections, or stimulation. I will be forever severing connective tissue which up until 2019, did have the capacity for erection.
On the other hand: We now understand that psychology, physiology and endocrinology all work together synergistic-ally
to produce a usable erection, so there is no such thing as the old : "its all in your head"..... and I've been hassling with this for 12 years now
I know its a really a personal judgement call, and not a medical question, but was interested to know if anyone has any info on such situations.
I was like you describe as well. Out of 10 times I had sex, I could penetrate 9 or 10. But never without working for it. I either had to put in right away as soon as it got hard, and sometimes it never got hard enough by itself. Less than half the times. Or I had to get help with oral from my partner and then quickly move into position and stick it in.
Once inside, I could most of the times finish, let's say 7-8 of 10. 2-3 times it would go down before I could come.
And this meant I normally went on like a rabbit for a few minutes which wasn't very good for the receiver...
So should I have fallen in the category of Ereictile dissatisfaction as well, and not have gone on with my surgery? Hell no.
I remember asking my doc about this. Was my ED not bad enough for an implant? Was it only for those with complete ED who could never penetrate, never come?
According to him, definitely no. It was definitely for me. And in my case he was right.
I actually discussed this issue with my wife the other night. She is super happy that I did the surgery as well. For the same two reasons as I am myself.
1 - Yes, of course, we have better sex now. We take our time before intercourse (if we want to), and sex lasts longer (when we want to). Both of us always orgasm, and we simply enjoy it more.
2 - None of us have to think about this crap called ED anymore. It used to be a mix of excitement and anxiety before sex in the past. None of us wanted my crap-dick to fail. Of course, because then there would be no sex. But mostly because of the disappointment that always would come with the failure. And my wife suffered with me. She almost started to avoid sex just to avoid putting me in that situation of disappointment and shame. Now it is all different. All that anxiety is gone, and sex is just fun and pleasure. It will always work.
I am 100% sure that if I hadn't done the surgery, I would be in a much worse place now than I was just before I did it. Of course, as time goes by, my ED would probably just have kept getting worse. But I am also pretty sure that by time, heavy problems would have popped up. With our marriage, with my general happiness and enjoyment of life, etc.
A man (or very, very few at least) cannot go through life feeling like a loser in bed all life. It will eventually and definitely have some impact on other apsects of life.
So I would say "Erectile Dissatisfaction" is, when defined with realistic benchmarks, definitely a good reason for an implant.
Just know what you are getting in to.
You will have a plastic prosthesis in your dick and a manual pump in your scrotum.
The getting hard process is not like it is for a man without ED.
You will have to pump your dick up, you cannot hide it for every woman for the rest of your life.
Sometimes you will (probably) end up in an awkward situation.
But every time you will have a dick that is ready to go as long as you are.
Every time you will be able to satisfy your partner. If you don't, it has nothing with your dick to do.
And what is more awkward by the way?
Picking up a sexy girl who is turned on by you, getting her home, getting her in bed, and after 1 minute your dick goes down. She gets dressed and goes home and you lie there starring in the ceiling.
Or you get that same girl home, you pump your dick up in the shower before you walk out in the bedroom with a raging hardon and enjoys sex for as long time as you want, take your time and give here sex with the hardest, most durable dick she ever encountered.
And maybe in the process of doing so she will feel your pump and you will come up with some explanation. But is that more awkward than the first scenario?
Of course not.
So the downsides of an implant are irrelevant when comparing to ED. It is no point comparing the implant to a pornstar dick. Becuase we don't have one. Will never get one.
I am closing in on 4 years now and I am still amazed how well it works. So is my wife.
It has literally changed our lives and maybe saved our marriage.
Good Luck.