An Advocate for Implants

[David_R]

I am very careful whenever I talk about my implant, which makes sense to me as I would be very careful to talk about my penis for any reason. (Wife, doctors, and medical techs are the only ones who know at this point; no friends or relatives.)

[Greg1956]

Don't know if this will change anything in my approach to talking about this, but for sure, your post made me think.

Merrix,
My goal is not to change anyone, just to see if anyone out there is approaching it like I do. I am not sure I would have been so open if it had not been for my dentist telling me his Prostatectonmy left him impotent because they had to sever nerves where the cancer was intertwined with them so he was left unable to get erections. I thought that was pretty amazing of him.

I also recalled a story about a young woman here in Atlanta who contracted a flesh eating disease and lost all four limbs. She went on to be a motivational speaker and has no sense of shame or embarrassment. I realized I did nothing wrong to cause my situation, but I did do something right to overcome it. I am proud of that.

I feel great about helping the guys I have talked to and done show and tells for. It has been especially rewarding when it for guys I know and I can see after the fact that it made a difference to them.

I think I may find it easier because I was a nude model for much of my life. You make yourself pretty vulnerable doing that and I am very at ease without clothes on. It is different though having the guys feeling my dick and pumping up my implant. But I remember how helpful and meaningful it was to me that guys offered to do it for me.

You do a lot to help guys here on FT. Maybe that is all you need to do, but if you ever take it a step further you will likely feel rewarded by it.

[Greg1956]

I am very careful whenever I talk about my implant, which makes sense to me as I would be very careful to talk about my penis for any reason. (Wife, doctors, and medical techs are the only ones who know at this point.)

David,
I am careful with these conversations, too. I don't instigate them, but do not shy away from talking when a guy says something where I believe I can be helpful by mentioning my situation.

[DaveKell]

At this point most everyone in my extended family knows about my implant. Telling our 3 adult kids was necessitated when I was contracted to speak at ED seminars with doctors.Then, of course, there's the actual seminars where I tell my ED story in very stark facts to upwards of 100 people on average.
I don't have any problem discussing it and have initiated conversations with men I thought might be experiencing ED. A couple of them readily joined the conversation and were glad to learn of highly effective treatments. A few others wouldn't go near the topic. I look at discussing ED treatments to be no different than my youngest brother explaining why he has to inject himself with insulin throughout the day. It's a medical issue that is usually foisted on us through no fault of our own. It has medical solutions to discuss. Granted it has to do with a part of the body we grew up inherently believing was strictly private and off limits for any type of mention. It's precisely that cultural view of discussing one's genitals that motivates me to do just that. Breaking down a rigid societal construct is a leftover in my brain of how we used to think in the 60's. When people leave a seminar I spoke at, they hear of a guy who was at the bottom of hopelessness and despair. They know about the treatments I tried that were at best only mildly helpful and they know how long I last now that my lifelong PE scourge is ancient history. Most of all, they know how getting my ED "cured" brought me back mentally to a point where I started another business (I retired from my 1st business at age 58). They know beyond any doubt that I now carry in myself the total confidence of one whose manhood has been restored. All of this makes for fine, meaningful conversation when approached in a certain way.

[Greg1956]

At this point most everyone in my extended family knows about my implant. Telling our 3 adult kids was necessitated when I was contracted to speak at ED seminars with doctors.Then, of course, there's the actual seminars where I tell my ED story in very stark facts to upwards of 100 people on average.
I don't have any problem discussing it and have initiated conversations with men I thought might be experiencing ED. A couple of them readily joined the conversation and were glad to learn of highly effective treatments. A few others wouldn't go near the topic. I look at discussing ED treatments to be no different than my youngest brother explaining why he has to inject himself with insulin throughout the day. It's a medical issue that is usually foisted on us through no fault of our own. It has medical solutions to discuss. Granted it has to do with a part of the body we grew up inherently believing was strictly private and off limits for any type of mention. It's precisely that cultural view of discussing one's genitals that motivates me to do just that. Breaking down a rigid societal construct is a leftover in my brain of how we used to think in the 60's. When people leave a seminar I spoke at, they hear of a guy who was at the bottom of hopelessness and despair. They know about the treatments I tried that were at best only mildly helpful and they know how long I last now that my lifelong PE scourge is ancient history. Most of all, they know how getting my ED "cured" brought me back mentally to a point where I started another business (I retired from my 1st business at age 58). They know beyond any doubt that I now carry in myself the total confidence of one whose manhood has been restored. All of this makes for fine, meaningful conversation when approached in a certain way.

Dave,
I think it is fantastic that you speak at events so men get to hear your story and realize there is hope. When you combine people’s general discomfort speaking in front of groups with the topic many people keep to themselves, you are quite special.

If it is not too personal, I am very curious how you brought up your implant with your kids and how they received the news. I can see it varying from eeeeewwwww, to much info to cool, dad is bionic.

[SW0110]

I have talked to several men on getting an implant. I am definitely an advocate and would choose it over pills, injections, etc.

Fixed my peyronies curve. I do not have to worry about it anymore either. If I have any plaque, I cannot feel it. No hourglass, dents. Straight.

I can engage in vigorous sex and i stay hard. No worrying about hurting myself trying to have sex with a semi.

I would also would not be ashamed to tell anyone about it. Not something i would just blurt out at a family reunion.

Having a conversation with uncle Steve over turkey and just say oh you know I got a penile implant. It is fantastic and has changed my life. It might come up if I heard him talking about viagra and ease into the topic if ed was discussed.

Not sure we would discuss a penile implant like we do our knee operations.

[DaveKell]

Dave,
I think it is fantastic that you speak at events so men get to hear your story and realize there is hope. When you combine people’s general discomfort speaking in front of groups with the topic many people keep to themselves, you are quite special.

If it is not too personal, I am very curious how you brought up your implant with your kids and how they received the news. I can see it varying from eeeeewwwww, to much info to cool, dad is bionic.

I emailed all three of them an explanation. I covered the history of when ED first showed up and the toll it took on my mind and motivation. I briefly educated them on what an implant is and how wonderfully it had restored my confidence and self esteem.My two sons took it in stride with only the oldest to say it was nice to know a remedy existed if his problem escalates. My youngest, our only daughter, was instantly skeptical I was playing a joke on her. She didn't believe it until my wife assured her I was entirely serious. Then her only comment was "that explains a lot about how much happier mom has been lately". In the email I invited each of them to call me with any questions they might have. None of them ever did.

I have a theory about discussing an implant. This is based on observation of a dear friend of over 30 years who has one of the worst documented cases of Tourette's Syndrome in the state of Texas. He lives a mostly isolated life because his speaking language is liberally interspersed with vile racial slurs and derogatory words for women. Imagine having a friend who knocks at your door and when your teenage daughter answers it she's met with being called a "ni**er whore" three times in a row. My daughter ignored it as if he'd never even said it because we know the guy is a kindhearted person who would do anything for you. We've also seen him cry when his language caused someone true upset. The point is we've removed the power those words and phrases used to have over us. We just need to ignore the perceived stigma talking about a medical procedure on your dick tends to carry with it. Only by ignoring and being victorious over the natural reticence we feel when trying to discuss this can we defeat the reticence and have a meaningful discussion. Plus I've found it feels good to occasionally revisit the topic to educate another about it. Occasionally reaffirming the benefits of an implant keep our new capabilities in the front of our mind as a source of strength and inspiration.

[Greg1956]

That is great Dave. Thanks for the explanation.

BTW...I have a cousin with Tourette’s so I know about the fowl language that comes out at times. It is so embarrassing for him because he is quite religious and it is not at all what he would say if he could control it.

[DaveKell]

That is great Dave. Thanks for the explanation.

BTW...I have a cousin with Tourette’s so I know about the fowl language that comes out at times. It is so embarrassing for him because he is quite religious and it is not at all what he would say if he could control it.

Haha. Your reply reminded me of when I invited my friend with Tourettes to attend my church. I warned my pastor about him but nobody else. He carried a water bottle with him constantly because sipping it stopped his vocal outbursts. However his hopping while simultaneously shooting the bird alarmed more than a few people. I had lots of explaining to do to people who learned I was responsible for him being there. He got baptized in front of the congregation and splashed a lot of water but you could see him gripping his jaw muscles the whole time! The church moved away from his neighborhood so he stopped going because he doesn’t travel well as someone who has to vigorously flip off any cops he sees! He is a kind hearted guy though who usually brought us a tub of ice cream every time we had a yard sale in Texas heat.

[Greg1956]

That is great Dave. Thanks for the explanation.

BTW...I have a cousin with Tourette’s so I know about the fowl language that comes out at times. It is so embarrassing for him because he is quite religious and it is not at all what he would say if he could control it.

Haha. Your reply reminded me of when I invited my friend with Tourettes to attend my church. I warned my pastor about him but nobody else. He carried a water bottle with him constantly because sipping it stopped his vocal outbursts. However his hopping while simultaneously shooting the bird alarmed more than a few people. I had lots of explaining to do to people who learned I was responsible for him being there. He got baptized in front of the congregation and splashed a lot of water but you could see him gripping his jaw muscles the whole time! The church moved away from his neighborhood so he stopped going because he doesn’t travel well as someone who has to vigorously flip off any cops he sees! He is a kind hearted guy though who usually brought us a tub of ice cream every time we had a yard sale in Texas heat.

I know it is not fun to have to deal with that, but some of the stories would make for a good sitcom character.