Seize and feeling after implant

[Alf 77]

Hi! Im new here. I've been considering an implant for the past two years. Been very sexually active until 2 years ago I developed anxiety and depression, and due to this condition I now take pills which don't seem to work anymore. I don't date as much anymore due to the enormous insecurity that ED has caused, thus increasing my anxiety and depression, like both conditions are entangled. I figured that an implant would take away my insecurity and my anticipation anxiety and therefore able to make my life normal again. My main concerns are sensation and seize after implant. Planning to go with doctor Perito in Miami on June 27th. Can somebody help me with this issues and questions?

Thank you very much!!

I'm 42 years old, used to be very secure of myself and had really good luck on dating.

[Lost Sheep]

Hi! Im new here. I've been considering an implant for the past two years. Been very sexually active until 2 years ago I developed anxiety and depression, and due to this condition I now take pills which don't seem to work anymore. I don't date as much anymore due to the enormous insecurity that ED has caused, thus increasing my anxiety and depression, like both conditions are entangled. I figured that an implant would take away my insecurity and my anticipation anxiety and therefore able to make my life normal again. My main concerns are sensation and seize after implant. Planning to go with doctor Perito in Miami on June 27th. Can somebody help me with this issues and questions?

Thank you very much!!

I'm 42 years old, used to be very secure of myself and had really good luck on dating.

Welcome to FrankTalk. I hope we can help.

Do not neglect the other ways sexual satisfaction may be achieved without the radical (and irreversible) treatment of an implant. Remember, an implant is not a cure. Just a treatment. The success stories here make it seem as if an implant is a panacea. For those unable to be satisfied without coitus, it pretty much is. But it is not better than sex with a fully functioning natural penis. An implant operation also eliminates any future alternative treatments or actual cures that may come in the future. Unfortunately the future is uncertain and our life on this planet is limited. So, we balance the trade-offs.

When I first joined FrankTalk, I took a couple weekends to read through two and a half years of posts/threads with titles that looked informative. I recommend this to you. It will give you a better basis for forming question and understanding the answers for your decision-making.

Note that there is no "cure", for physiological E.D. yet; all currently available treatments are temporary, more or less.

Dr. Perito has been mentioned many times in this forum, and doing a search on his name will show you many testimonials regarding his effectiveness.

I also recommend doing extensive research on your chosen surgeon and interview him (or her) pointedly and make yourself an integral part of the medical team. (Of course, many men choose not to do that and I cannot fault them - just do what is comfortable for your personality and approach to your medical care.)

Your E.D. history (you told us very little of those past two years) might help us help you. For instance, some anti-depressant drugs, blood pressure medications, etc. can induce E.D. as a side-effect. Switching to alternative drugs can relieve the side-effect. Please share your medical history.

I note that Viagra (sildenafil) worked for me for a while and when that became ineffective, Cialis and then Tadalafil (Levitra) each took their turn being effective and then losing power. Have you tried different medications? A new one might give you a reprieve.

I hope you are not thinking of an implant as way to improve your sex life. The success stories here make it seem as if sex after implant is better than sex was with a fully functioning natural penis. In some ways it is (for me), but one loses a lot of subtle things when getting an implant. For one, you are guaranteed you will never again achieve a natural erection. And if it quits working, coital sex is impossible unless you replace it. Also, the surgical risks and costs are considerable.

The spontaneity of a natural erection is one of the things I miss. Spontaneity with an implant is better than with injections or V.E.D., but not as nice as the completely self-erecting penis. Still, a non-spontaneous erection beats a spontaneously collapsing erection hands-down.

A decent surgeon will spare your nerves (and thus, sensation) and preserve your size. I suggest you measure yourself carefully (take pictures with a ruler) both length and girth when you do have an erection (induced by pills or whatever means are necessary). Memory is notoriously unreliable, particularly when it comes to a man's own erection. A decent surgeon will preserve your size, too and the best are pretty good at it. "Sizing" (measuring to determine the proper size of implant) is EXTREMELY important .

Looking forward to your next questions.

[antelope]

I'm really sorry you're experience ED at such a young age. Mine kicked in in my late fifties and I thought that was awful. Here are my thoughts:

ED is a symptom of something else gone awry in your body. Prostate cancer is probably the biggest culprit, but I'd guess diabetes is right up there. In my case, it was diabetes, aggravated by various cardio-vascular issues. As my doc says, I managed my diabetes very well for over 20 years, but I finally won the Limp Dick Lottery.
Point: Step 1 is to determine what is causing your ED. Treat that and the ED may go away or at least be more manageable.

Allowing even a well trained and highly skilled professional to come toward your favorite body part sharp knives is a major step. In any problem solving process, particularly a medical situation, it is always best to start with the least invasive therapy and move toward the more invasive.
Point: Try everything before going under the knife. I tried pumps, pills, and porn to little or no avail. Then I tried injections. BAZINGA! It was (and still is) like being 19 again without the stupid. Sure, it's inconvenient, but the results for me have been consistent and fantastic. That being said, the 3rd time an injection doesn't do what it should, I'll be making an appointment for my implant.

Finally, this is your life and you have to make the best decision you can. Whatever that may be, we will support you. For sure, don't even think about giving up sex at your age. My uncle got his implant at age 75 and is going strong 15 years later. IJS

[Slavicguy123]

Hi guys, lost sheep i have sense that you are wise and philosophycal man, i would like to ask question and ask you to give your best to understand it and to respond.
Can implant sex or masturbation be better than nature one,what do you think can people with implant develop mental focus to enjoy erection more than non implant or vice versa, you can have perfect dick and shitty brain or vice versa,is natural obtained erection really that great or did our brain grew with it? Can we reach perfect sex or is it thing of past?

[Alf 77]

Been suffering from anxiety and depression since 2017 due to an unexpected situation, have taken lots of meds for that, and of course talked to my doctors about the sexual side effects which they sure have, some more than others. The thing is that I can't keep off my mind the sexual anticipation anxiety. Went to a urologist, and did some tests and everything is ok, but my mind just keeps focusing on the "what if" I can't get it up, all the time, 24/7. Been to therapy, done all. I am a healthy guy that swims 2k every day, goes to the gym, eats healthy etc, and truly feel that if my erection was automatic, then that worry alone could help me tremendously (mentally and peace of mind). Due to anxiety sometimes even cialis doesn't work. I know its radical, but is a solution, after trying everything (therapy, medication, etc,. to end the depression/anxiety). I used to have sex everyday, more than once. Now im afraid I won't perform.

Currently I take pristiq 50 mg and lamictal 50 mg as well. Maybe my thoughts don't let the medication work due to the "sexual situation".

Thats why I figured, after much research in the past two years, that an implant could be a way out, and theres only one life. How many more treatments and waiting could I do and miss the only one chance that we got to live? Want to regain my security and peace of mind. Maybe it all sounds crazy but believe me, not after two years.

Thanks again!

[Lost Sheep]

Hi guys, lost sheep i have sense that you are wise and philosophycal man, i would like to ask question and ask you to give your best to understand it and to respond.
Can implant sex or masturbation be better than nature one,what do you think can people with implant develop mental focus to enjoy erection more than non implant or vice versa, you can have perfect dick and shitty brain or vice versa,is natural obtained erection really that great or did our brain grew with it? Can we reach perfect sex or is it thing of past?

Thank you for the (unwarranted) praise and faith in my sensibilities.

My immediate thought is the axiom, "The brain is the greatest sexual organ."

Sex, even without an erection (and some say, even without an orgasm) is MADE GREAT primarily by our attitude. (Of course, ALL experiences are appreciated only through our attitude towards the experience.) It may take a remarkable aesthete to rise to that degree of appreciation of a physical experience (sex), though.

The conclusion I am reaching for is that sex, however you manage to have it, is as perfect as you can have. This does not depend on your equipment, but on your attitude and your partner (if you have one).

If you want to compare sex 1) with an implant to sex 2) with a natural, functioning penis or to sex with 3) a dysfunctional penis or to sex 4) with a completely non-functioning penis, what would be the point? You have sex with what you have.

My opinion (and my girlfriend and I are trying for this nirvana) is that "perfect sex" is ALWAYS in the future. The joy is in the journey, not the destination. After all, if you ever did achieve the "perfect sexual union" would you even consider stopping? No, you would seek to surpass that experience with a more perfect union, wouldn't you?

[oldbeek]

Nothing beats a natural hard on. Work on the mental problem not the mechanical problem. The answer is out there. You need a sex therapist. not a surgeon. You might start with a professional girl.

[Slavicguy123]

Good point of view(youve got what youve got), so what do you think (hipoteticly) man born with implant could have ultimate urge for intercourse same as natural man or would it would be somehow reduced becouse of no erectile response?

[DougAnd]

77,
Dr Perito will not give you an implant unless you need one. So you can cross that off of your list by making an appt and finding out what he thinks.
As for size Dr Perito believes in giving you all that you have. Cross that one off.
I can tell you that my cock and I had some very heated conversions. My brain said "I am doing my part get off you slackard!" My cock said "I am!" Yet nothing was happening. And this went on for 2 years or more until the cheering section did not even bother to show up for the game. Very sad indeed.
See Perito. Do what he suggests.
DougAnd

[Lost Sheep]

Good point of view(youve got what youve got), so what do you think (hipoteticly) man born with implant could have ultimate urge for intercourse same as natural man or would it would be somehow reduced becouse of no erectile response?

I have wondered that myself.

Years of E.D. (without implant) reduced my urge for sex (the natural decline of libido with age might have something to do with it, also). But after implant, my urge for sex actually has more to do with my desire to please my partner (now that I can do that reliably) than with satisfying my own lusts.

This is a question that can (and probably will) produce volumes of thought.

In my experience, my difficulty in maintaining an erection sufficient to give my partner coital sex was a much greater reducer to my urge to initiate sex than the implant could ever be. The only way my implant reduces my urge for sex is that I now make a decision to have sex and pump up. Before, my penis made the suggestion that I should have sex (by a spontaneous erection) in addition to my brain making the suggestion. Now, only my brain makes that suggestion.

As I said before, the brain is the greatest sexual organ we have. Penile response (or lack of it) is irrelevant if a man WANTS to be with a partner. The difference an implant makes to a man's urge for sex (in my opinion) is nothing compared to what his brain wants.