Too stiff? How to know.

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defiant
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Re: Too stiff? How to know.

Postby defiant » Fri Feb 15, 2019 9:52 am

Smetro wrote:Interesting Lost and Beek.
I’ve just begun a new relationship. Ms S is 59 and adores sex.
Like many women in their late 50’s/early 60’s they seem to go for long periods without sex.......And in S’s case 5 years!.......it’s a common phenomenon.
We planned for a month in advance of seeing each other and under the advice of her doctor she went on a program of hormone replacement pessaries inserted into her vagina to ‘thicken’ her vaginal walls.

We met up and spent 3 days fucking like rabbits. At first I ensured I left 3 or 4 pumps OUT because I didn’t want to spoil the party by tearing her internal tissue.
I explained to her that I can attenuate so as not to cause damage.....all she said was ‘can we try fully pumped?’
From that moment on (first night) she insisted on having my cock at “stiff as possible” for every session.
She didn’t complain however in full cowgirl (her legs forward) she said she could feel my glans pressing against “something” but she didn’t complain once.
She is great in bed, loves sex and seems very happy to fuck a very stiff cock.
Ps
If your cock hurts when fully pumped up......for me it’s a sign of not following the cycling regimen right through to its conclusion
I would be cycling morning and night until there’s no more pain :)


What happened to Miss H?! You were infatuated with her!
35 y.o, mild to moderate ED since 21, 3 Dopplers with 1 result of VL & 3 later results of NO physical problem, critically dependent on cialis (efficacy now waning), overcame Lymophoma at 26, ED causing immense & profound psychological distress

Lost Sheep
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Re: Too stiff? How to know.

Postby Lost Sheep » Fri Feb 15, 2019 11:58 am

merrix wrote:One way to answer your question is: What does it matter?
I mean, if harder than your max would be even better, then so what? There is nothing you can do about it, so why worry about it? You have what you have and that’s it. It would be harder with a Titan, but you don’t have a Titan. And from what all LGX people here say, it is harder than a natural dick.

In my case, I thought anything harder than 20 pumps was too hard (for me and my partner) in the beginning.
Now, after 3 years, I do 70 pumps with my Titan and we both love it. My advice stays the same. It takes time to get used to the Titan. A long time. But once there, it’s amazing.

And another advice is that an implant is an implant. It’s not a natural dick. There are drawbacks. But hey, what’s a better option if our dicks fail us completely? Nothing.

I cannot speak for the LGX.

True. But I am an inveterate tinkerer and was born curious. (Upon my delivery, the Doctor looked at my Mother and remarked, "Curious!".)

But don't worry about me doing something crazy. I never take anything apart that I cannot put back together. I learned that lesson with a transmission over 50 years ago.
Lost Sheep
Born 1948 AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT; no second chance with one's first.
Anchorage AK, USA

Bionic Richard
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Re: Too stiff? How to know.

Postby Bionic Richard » Fri Feb 15, 2019 12:25 pm

She will tell you, or ask her.
Mine prefers 70 to 80% for oral, 80 to 100% for penetration.
It cool you can adjust!!
1957 model, married 27yr first time 6 yr present,10/16 Retired,12/16 PSA 4.9, 1/17 Biopsy, 2/17 Gleason 4+3, 3/17 Robotic Prostatectomy, 4/17 PSA nondecetable, Penile therapy, pills/VED/Trimix, 5/25/18 AMS 700 LGX 21cm 3cm RTE.

Lost Sheep
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Re: Too stiff? How to know.

Postby Lost Sheep » Fri Feb 15, 2019 1:03 pm

Bionic Richard wrote:She will tell you, or ask her.
Mine prefers 70 to 80% for oral, 80 to 100% for penetration.
It cool you can adjust!!

I have asked. She has told me (even when I haven't asked). She likes it fully pumped - and can tell when I am only at 95%. And asks for stiffer.

So, I suspect she would like it even stiffer than what it is at 100% pumped.

I would like to provide that degree of rigidity but cannot.

This is not as bad as total E.D. but gee whiz, I had this operation and would really like to make up for lost time and undo all the self-criticism that sub-optimal sexual performance generated. So, here I am wondering if my current (rebuilt) penis is yet optimal.

Not that she is complaining. This is pretty much all in my head. So I am sharing this here, looking for input.

So, yes, I am looking a gift horse in the mouth.

Observing that my penis' SHAFT is as stiff or even stiffer than it ever was (even at its maximum in my youth), I wonder if I am looking at the wrong parameter. Stiffness of the glans perhaps or stiffness of base (while I can hang a beach towel on it when erect, my penis CAN flex left/right and up/down quite a bit) And a soaking wet beach towel would be a bit much.

Maybe stiffness at the base (rather than stiffness of the shaft) is what is being reported as being "too stiff" in the other threads I have read?

Put another way, Is it the stiffness of the shaft that is uncomfortable or the limitation to the angle of the penis at the base?
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Lost Sheep
Born 1948 AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT; no second chance with one's first.
Anchorage AK, USA

Lost Sheep
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Re: Too stiff? How to know.

Postby Lost Sheep » Fri Feb 15, 2019 1:16 pm

Bionic Richard wrote:She will tell you, or ask her.
Mine prefers 70 to 80% for oral, 80 to 100% for penetration.
It cool you can adjust!!

Thanks, Bionic Richard.

Thinking about oral...

When I am inflated 100%, fellatio is not as good as when I am at 70-80%. Perhaps my girth is too much for her mouth or stiffness not allowing my penis to flex to fit her oral cavity. I can't really tell.

I used to LIKE fellatio a lot, particularly because I could orgasm easily even when not fully erect. Oddly, now it is almost impossible for me to orgasm by fellatio. But that's OK because I can do coitus any time and even if I do not orgasm, it is because my body did not hunger for it and I do not miss it one bit. Besides, I find that on those occasions, HER orgasms are more satisfying than if I HAD cum.

I find it strange. To hear those thoughts coming out of a man's head. Women have often told me, "It's all right if I didn't orgasm. I just like to feel you cum inside me." I always discounted that as them being polite. Now that I have experienced something similar, I am not so sure. Unless my anorgasmia is an artifact of the implant operation.

I know, from long experience, that if I cum and she did not, I feel as if I have short-changed her and fallen down on my part of the copulatory exchange. If she cums and I do not, I consider it payback on the debt of orgasms I owe to womankind. Besides, as I said above, I do not miss it one bit - especially I know she will want to give me orgasms in the future.

Getting back to my original thought: I don't just want to be good for her. I don't just want to be the best she has ever had. I know I may not be able to be the best she ever COULD have, but I want to be the best for her that I could EVER be - in size, stiffness, movement, whatever.
Lost Sheep
Born 1948 AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT; no second chance with one's first.
Anchorage AK, USA

Smetro
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Re: Too stiff? How to know.

Postby Smetro » Sat Feb 16, 2019 12:08 am

defiant wrote:
Smetro wrote:Interesting Lost and Beek.
I’ve just begun a new relationship. Ms S is 59 and adores sex.
Like many women in their late 50’s/early 60’s they seem to go for long periods without sex.......And in S’s case 5 years!.......it’s a common phenomenon.
We planned for a month in advance of seeing each other and under the advice of her doctor she went on a program of hormone replacement pessaries inserted into her vagina to ‘thicken’ her vaginal walls.

We met up and spent 3 days fucking like rabbits. At first I ensured I left 3 or 4 pumps OUT because I didn’t want to spoil the party by tearing her internal tissue.
I explained to her that I can attenuate so as not to cause damage.....all she said was ‘can we try fully pumped?’
From that moment on (first night) she insisted on having my cock at “stiff as possible” for every session.
She didn’t complain however in full cowgirl (her legs forward) she said she could feel my glans pressing against “something” but she didn’t complain once.
She is great in bed, loves sex and seems very happy to fuck a very stiff cock.
Ps
If your cock hurts when fully pumped up......for me it’s a sign of not following the cycling regimen right through to its conclusion
I would be cycling morning and night until there’s no more pain :)


What happened to Miss H?! You were infatuated with her!

Life evolves relationships change :)
65, Titan Touch 22cm+1.5cm rte's op done in Melbourne, Australia Feb 2017 Venous leakage over a previous 2 year period, did pills and Caverject. Length 2 years+ post-op is 7.5” erect, 6.5” flaccid and almost 6” girth

Bandit
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Re: Too stiff? How to know.

Postby Bandit » Sat Feb 16, 2019 8:04 am

I have the lgx. I get it super hard and wife enjoys it. Cant imagine it getting harder but maybe the titan could be even more rigid. Agree with you guys who pump less for oral. Wife prefers that because she said the upward angle makes it awkward when fully pumped. But fear not, we found a solution. I just spin her around and she sits on my face. She gets the perfect angle and i get a great view. What a life !
Bandit
Born 1958, married. Prostate Cancer. RRP November/2014. PSA undetectable since. Implant May/2017 AMS700LGX 18 cm + 1.5 cm RTEs.


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