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So if the suggestion is to wait till you get the implant, again that could be 3-4-6 months, how to you survive mentally?

Are you still on the fence with regard to the implant? (that's where I am at) I'm still doing P-SHOTS, TRIMIX and Cialis. So I really can relate.

....but If you have already made the implant decision, then you know that in 3-4-6 months you will have a different situation, and you will be able to evaluate it, learn its idiosyncrasies, work out the bugs and then perhaps have a few dress rehearsals with low stakes situations, ......and then (and only then) would I start courting "the dreamgirl" candidates. If you where a magician, would you do a big opening night show with a new magic trick you just bought from the magic store?

I'm in a very similar situation as you , and my message is : that you cant really approach this like these guys who are with a wife they have been through thick and thin with. People entering into new relationships are "vetting" each other and things like looks and sex are generally the gating factors (in the beginning) .

Would you move forward with someone you were not attracted to, if they promised they were in the queue for plastic surgery ? or if you were out of shape, would you assure women you were getting ready to become a bodybuilder ? and that they should be anticipating this amazing transformation and factor that into their "vetting" process?

I would not go 3-4-6 months without sex just for the hell of it. ...but I have gone longer than that when crisis's came up, and in this situation it seems better than the alternative. If you were not getting an implant and had resigned yourself to your situation; then I would say it would be worth the investment of finding this "unicorn of a woman" who will love you for you.....(about as common as a 4 leaf clover) but whats the point? if in six months you can be just fine with the 3 leaf clovers.

QuestionGuy wrote:Are you still on the fence with regard to the implant? (that's where I am at) I'm still doing P-SHOTS, TRIMIX and Cialis. So I really can relate.

....but If you have already made the implant decision, then you know that in 3-4-6 months you will have a different situation, and you will be able to evaluate it, learn its idiosyncrasies, work out the bugs and then perhaps have a few dress rehearsals with low stakes situations, ......and then (and only then) would I start courting "the dreamgirl" candidates. If you where a magician, would you do a big opening night show with a new magic trick you just bought from the magic store?

I'm in a very similar situation as you , and my message is : that you cant really approach this like these guys who are with a wife they have been through thick and thin with. People entering into new relationships are "vetting" each other and things like looks and sex are generally the gating factors (in the beginning) .

Would you move forward with someone you were not attracted to, if they promised they were in the queue for plastic surgery ? or if you were out of shape, would you assure women you were getting ready to become a bodybuilder ? and that they should be anticipating this amazing transformation and factor that into their "vetting" process?

I would not go 3-4-6 months without sex just for the hell of it. ...but I have gone longer than that when crisis's came up, and in this situation it seems better than the alternative. If you were not getting an implant and had resigned yourself to your situation; then I would say it would be worth the investment of finding this "unicorn of a woman" who will love you for you.....(about as common as a 4 leaf clover) but whats the point? if in six months you can be just fine with the 3 leaf clovers.

you are very right.

I d actually go so far and say I will most probably try my implant with prostitutes...

Needhelp
I suggest you try to find a friend for companionship. To try and bring someone new into a sexual relationship would be too deep and probabky scare her away. This is also not about the ex. Im not gonna put her down. Cant explain why people do what they do. Point is it would suck to go through things alone. You and i are close in age. I know i make acquintances daily. Maybe that friend could turn out to be more. Maybe she could be understanding of the situation you are in. Point is not to be without some support. Sometimes it happens when your not even looking for it.
Bandit

QuestionGuy wrote:Are you still on the fence with regard to the implant? (that's where I am at) I'm still doing P-SHOTS, TRIMIX and Cialis. So I really can relate.

....but If you have already made the implant decision, then you know that in 3-4-6 months you will have a different situation, and you will be able to evaluate it, learn its idiosyncrasies, work out the bugs and then perhaps have a few dress rehearsals with low stakes situations, ......and then (and only then) would I start courting "the dreamgirl" candidates. If you where a magician, would you do a big opening night show with a new magic trick you just bought from the magic store?

I'm in a very similar situation as you , and my message is : that you cant really approach this like these guys who are with a wife they have been through thick and thin with. People entering into new relationships are "vetting" each other and things like looks and sex are generally the gating factors (in the beginning) .

Would you move forward with someone you were not attracted to, if they promised they were in the queue for plastic surgery ? or if you were out of shape, would you assure women you were getting ready to become a bodybuilder ? and that they should be anticipating this amazing transformation and factor that into their "vetting" process?

I would not go 3-4-6 months without sex just for the hell of it. ...but I have gone longer than that when crisis's came up, and in this situation it seems better than the alternative. If you were not getting an implant and had resigned yourself to your situation; then I would say it would be worth the investment of finding this "unicorn of a woman" who will love you for you.....(about as common as a 4 leaf clover) but whats the point? if in six months you can be just fine with the 3 leaf clovers.

Thank you. I first tried the PShot. Nothing happened. They wanted me to come back for another treatment. I was getting suspicious, because it was like nothing happening, I even was taking Viagra with it and sex was so embarrassing compared to the way it was with me and her. So I decided to go to the shots. The Dr said if they do not work we have to start thinking surgery. I was sooo sure the shots would work. AS of today I'm at the max dosage and nothing but a soft erection. I hate the shots. Now I'm scared. As of 6/18 I was a fully functional guy...8 months later I have to decide if I want to have sex again...and I'm single (big difference) I have to have an implant. Every time I get the courage to accept it I have a set back like now...… but what am I suppose to do? I get so freaked out when I start to think how I was with the early foreplay (that feeling) and trying to get in her pants..... I get fucked up when I start to think about that......but the longer I put it off the worse it gets......

[quote="Bandit"]Needhelp
I suggest you try to find a friend for companionship. To try and bring someone new into a sexual relationship would be too deep and probabky scare her away. This is also not about the ex. Im not gonna put her down. Cant explain why people do what they do. Point is it would suck to go through things alone. You and I are close in age. I know i make acquintances daily. Maybe that friend could turn out to be more. Maybe she could be understanding of the situation you are in. Point is not to be without some support. Sometimes it happens when your not even looking for it.
Bandit[/quote.

Bandit its so hard doing this by your self. I thought my old gf was going to be by myside....what a time to get dumper. Finding a companion is not easy either. Would love to have that support. If I was still in a relationship I can tell you this that the motivation to get this done would be sooo much eaasier..... but your right I rhink we all need some type of support....for now its just FT and a couple guys who gave me there number....

I hear you. I'm not optimistic about the P-shots or the chemicals ....but lets face it, regardless of what anyone says, the implant is a big deal! here's where I am at: all other solutions have to be exhausted, because if the implant is not all it is cracked up to be, or (god forbid) something goes wrong: I will never forgive myself. OR if someone had said "hey, whey didn't you try the P-SHOT?

I love love love this site, but sometimes there is a bit of confirmation bias . I've seen people suggest to young virgin guys to run out and get an implant , when they get nervous and cant get it up (something which has been happening to inexperienced human males since the model first rolled off the assemble line). I've seen posts from men with bandages still on their penis proclaim it to be "the best decision they ever made". When I was on the injection forum, I saw men immediately opt for the implant over injections because they "did not want to prick their penis with a needle" (i guess a scalpel doesn't count) So my point is. Do it on your own timeline.....

On another note: I just saw your 61. Why so frantic? I'm 55 and have had a good long run, and no matter what happens I dont feel like I got ripped off by the "roulette wheel of life". Why all this urgency? and bemoaning the possibility of going 4-6 months without sex? I hope that question is not offensive, but my heart really goes out to the young guys. We "our day".

I posted on Craigslist and PoF (Plenty of Fish), frankly, clearly but discreetly that I was looking for an understanding woman willing to help me on my journey from impotence to (probably) an implant. I received several replies, almost all supportive and nearly half willing to consider entering into the physical relationship I requested (sort of a before-to-after journey). Many women expressed admiration for my bravery.

Denial is not attractive. When a man refuses to ask directions, when clearly he is lost, that is a turn-off for many women. A man who is strong enough to admit a mistake, being lost or a weakness AND IS ALPHA MALE ENOUGH TO TAKE STEPS TO FIX THE PROBLEM is attractive. More attractive than even a so-called "perfect" specimen of a man. So say all the women I have polled on the matter.

(That is, "polled", not "poled")

Lost Sheep

see these threads which have titles like
Womens reaction to ED
Could my ED kill a future for a new girlfriend?

viewtopic.php?f=3&t=10659
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9990&p=82420
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9236&p=73992
viewtopic.php?f=3&t=2010&p=44955

Lost Sheep wrote:I posted on Craigslist and PoF (Plenty of Fish), frankly, clearly but discreetly that I was looking for an understanding woman willing to help me on my journey from impotence to (probably) an implant. I received several replies, almost all supportive and nearly half willing to consider entering into the physical relationship I requested (sort of a before-to-after journey). Many women expressed admiration for my bravery.

Denial is not attractive. When a man refuses to ask directions, when clearly he is lost, that is a turn-off for many women. A man who is strong enough to admit a mistake, being lost or a weakness AND IS ALPHA MALE ENOUGH TO TAKE STEPS TO FIX THE PROBLEM is attractive. More attractive than even a so-called "perfect" specimen of a man. So say all the women I have polled on the matter.

(That is, "polled", not "poled")

Lost Sheep

see these threads which have titles like
Womens reaction to ED
Could my ED kill a future for a new girlfriend?

viewtopic.php?f=3&t=10659
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9990&p=82420
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9236&p=73992
viewtopic.php?f=3&t=2010&p=44955

Thank you Lost Sheep

Ahh the best part of this will be when you realize that your bionic dick is a dream come true for very sensual women, and that your ex blew the best future she could ever imagine by not sticking with you until you became bionic. Go for it man.