wife (she turns 60 this year) no longer likes sex -- it hurts (so getting an implant was a waste--maybe ?)

[Waynetho]

PS: the other method to firm up the glns is to use a cock ring -- that definitely works, but the women will notice the cock ring which might be a buzz kill ?

There is one method you didn't mention, although I hear from those who have used it, that it burns a lot (right, Old Beak?).

That method is Alprostadil suppositories, a.k.a. MUSE. One would go into the bathroom and urinate first, then insert the applicator into the urethra and administer the pellet as instructed. After a few minutes, it is said that the spongiosum and glans will engorge as though you were taking injections, but without the needle. If one also gets any engorgement in the corpora cavernosa, I would imagine they too would engorge at that time as well.

[OregonStrong]

PS: the other method to firm up the glns is to use a cock ring -- that definitely works, but the women will notice the cock ring which might be a buzz kill ?

There is one method you didn't mention, although I hear from those who have used it, that it burns a lot (right, Old Beak?).

That method is Alprostadil suppositories, a.k.a. MUSE. One would go into the bathroom and urinate first, then insert the applicator into the urethra and administer the pellet as instructed. After a few minutes, it is said that the spongiosum and glans will engorge as though you were taking injections, but without the needle. If one also gets any engorgement in the corpora cavernosa, I would imagine they too would engorge at that time as well.

from what I've been told putting MUSE inside your urethra burns like hell. Not sure I'd even want to have sex distracted by that sensation going on.

[LookingUp]

On wife #3....

1 departed before menopause.
2 departed after menopause.
3 waiting to see if she departs.....

regards #3, nympho for 6 years (her 52-58), then meno stepped in. My ED became the Excuse for no sex. "Sex as long as we are able" became her mantra of No More.

So, enter CV-19 as a delay, travel, exposure, etc. I live in central Florida but wish to have Dr. Eid do the surgery. Travel in the next few months is an issue.

My thought: Fuck me as you found me or someone else will. Sad but I won't be a Monk to her hormones.

[BillinAL]

I have been very fortunate so far re: sex with my wife. We have been married 47 years and she turns 69 in August. We typically have sex in one form or another 2-3 times per week. Two thirds of the time it is PIV but she has never needed any additional lubrication. She generally massages, bj, etc me first and that gets her turned on and wet. I then do the same for her. The last year or two, she will occasionally just climb on top of me and lay there for an hour or so with relatively small movements. That is one real advantage of the implant - I don't ever remember being able to stay hard for that long without additional stimulation. She says she loves the feeling of me being inside her. I have asked many times and she claims she is very comfortable (she is a small woman 5'1" and about 120 lbs and my penis is about 7" with 5.5" girth). The only thing I have noticed is that if she is masturbating, she can cum in about 5 minutes (quicker than I can), but sometimes she has a hard time having an orgasm by PIV unless I put a finger in her anus or she plays with her clit while I thrust. Neither one of those activities ever fail to make her cum pretty quickly. Anyway, that is my experience so far.

[Smetro]

Hey Tanj
Smetro here. Sorry you are facing these trials. Marriage is a very interesting lifestyle with its own set of morals and conditions.
I’ve had sex with a number of older women since becoming bionic. 3 of them over 60 and none with any issues. Currently with Miss D who turned 66 two weeks ago and she is on my case if I don’t deliver for her at least 5 times a week. We only use a small amount of lube when fucking for extended periods.
No problems with tips or the extreme firmness.
I sympathise with you because I love sex (with her) and having a pretty fine Titan myself, would not be a happy camper if fucking went off the menu.
In the same situation I think I would be visiting a “knock-shop” to get my regular dose.........
Maybe that’s not an option...but at least it would allow u to bang like the Tyro I know you are

[TANGERINE]

Hey thanks guys, this has been a very helpful discussion thread (and do keep comments coming).

Here are a few of my comments and reactions:

(1) REGARDING painful sex in your woman

This is driven in large part by if your woman wants to do something about it. It is very reasonable to ask her to go to gynecologist for treatment of "atrophic vaginitis" or to ask her to go to gynecologist for "vagina rejuvenation", since after all, you did something similar by getting an implant. The rejuvenation methods (estrogen cream/estrogen/kegels/mona lisa laser) do indeed work; and my woman now gets nicely lubed naturally after all those maneuvers (though the mona lisa was the key, and it literally took twelve months)

(2) REGARDING increasing your woman's libido

Yes, there are things that work, but she needs to have the desire to ask her gynecologist for prescriptions. Likely, the entry to all this is to get her to go to gynecologist for above described vagina rejuvenation. Once that door is open, maybe she can ask her doc if there is something that can improve libido. Many women (including my wife) take testostorone (low dose). As an aside, there is indeed a libido enhancing injection that a woman can take 30 minutes before sex...it is called Vyleesi , bnut my woman refuses to go that far.
Wow, what a concept, an injectable instantly horny freaky woman--I have no idea if this indeed works (ie, no field test experience by me and my woman)

(3) REGARDING getting the implant for your own self esteem

So, if your woman hates sex, I completely understand the comments some of you have made regarding "heck, you get the implant for you and your own self esteem". For a man, just knowing that he is sexually cured and fully capable can be a wonderful thing, possibly enough for a satisfying life. The implant makes for wonderful self esteem, even if you are not using it. I frequently think about a quote from LMCatman who stated:

Knowing I can f..k her is life changing, will she let me do it is a whole other thing....by LMCATMAN (franktalk)

"
This knowledge that you are sexually complete, and actually super capable, is such a mood changer.

(4) regarding glans harness solutions

Yes, the four options are: cock ring/urethra trimix gel/muse urethra pellets/viagra pills
My experience is that although the cock ring works, it is noticeable to the women and maybe a sign and flag of my neuroticism (does a bionic man really need that—-really?). Trimix gel into the urethra helps me a bunch, but the women can taste it during non condom blow job. Muse pellet into the urethra: I had a hard time finding this on the market, although it can be prescribed, my pharmacist could not find a supplier (and some franktalk members say it stings anyway). Finally, I did try viagra, that helps some, nut my ED is so bad that the effect was minimal, and I hated the headaches and the need to "plan for sex". Also, stay away from meds that make ED worse (eg, propecia (which really messed me up) and amphetamines such as diet pills or adderal.

Regarding my bionic brother SMETRO

Smetro and I are true bionic brothers since we were implanted on the same day three years ago and since we have the same implant model. SMETRO, thank you so much for sharing your journey with us all, I love all your comments and philopsophy. (especially when you wrote to me that I should "bang like the Tyro I know you are")

The shared advice on how to live life here on franktalk is super helpful, and to all you guys I thank you for making this such a great support group.

[LookingUp]

Hey Tanj
Smetro here. Sorry you are facing these trials. Marriage is a very interesting lifestyle with its own set of morals and conditions.
I’ve had sex with a number of older women since becoming bionic. 3 of them over 60 and none with any issues. Currently with Miss D who turned 66 two weeks ago and she is on my case if I don’t deliver for her at least 5 times a week. We only use a small amount of lube when fucking for extended periods.
No problems with tips or the extreme firmness.
I sympathise with you because I love sex (with her) and having a pretty fine Titan myself, would not be a happy camper if fucking went off the menu.
In the same situation I think I would be visiting a “knock-shop” to get my regular dose.........
Maybe that’s not an option...but at least it would allow u to bang like the Tyro I know you are

Please forward Miss D contact info when you're tired of her.

LU