25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

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mr.skin
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25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby mr.skin » Sun Jan 06, 2019 10:26 am

Hello to all,

I am quite active in this forum for roughly about a year now. I initially had implant surgery planned for last july, but had to postpone bc of suffering a severe ankle injury. Few months later I decided to go with vein ligation bc of two reasons i) i had ectopic veins, which are a good indicator for an improved long term outcome ii) it would help with glans engorgement, which was one of my major concerns for after the implant bc of having a big glans.

It did indeed improve my EQ to an extent but came with the drawback of length loss (3/4 of an inch) and numb skin on the upper penis (glans still intact). They must have damaged some cutaneous nerves, mechano receptors are still intact meaning I feel pressure, but no warmth/cold and no slight touches on the upper third of my penile shaft. glans completetly normal. (guess that s the same kind of sensitivity loss some might get from the implant on the lower penile shaft bc of the clamps stretching skin and tissue during surgery. nothing major)

I tried to have sex one time since then, being a bit tipsy(or more a bit drunk) I could get an erection laying on my side, but after going down on the girl my erection faded and when she tried to give me a blowjob it completely collapsed. At this night I've been on Cialis 30mg and Doxazosine (alpha1-antagonist) additionally

RN I think with a cock ring and jacked on medication I could get an erection sufficient for sex in 6/10 cases, but I d still have to focus on getting constant stimulation. Meaning I have to focus on putting in a as fast as possible and it will last for 5-10 minutes until it subsides. But that s just a guess, as having not a proper erection for 7 years I dont know how hard of a dick is necessary.

Emotionally I am not in a good place bc pursuing a relationship is completely impossible and I additionally (unfortanetly) implented some self-coping mechanisms to avoid sexual contact ( I usually am flirty whith people in my pretty big social circle and being impotent is nothing you want to have spread about you in uni life) which are a major drawback bc I feel completely uncapable of ever having a normal relationship to sex/ women bc of the "routine/experience" I am missing in interactingn sexually with women. And I guess being viewed as an inexperienced men in bed is an other thing which holds me back.

The thing is in the past few weeks I got more self-conscious about the implant, bc if I don't like it it even a half limp dick which at leasts allows for masturbation might pleasure me better than a plastic tube in my penis.

On the other hand, I had so many evenings / nights where I went home alone and cursed my fate and would have immediately traded my limp dick for a"bionic" working one. It s just the nature of being irreversible, infection risk and the risk of mechanical failure and needing another one after 1-5 years, bc I guess more than 3 or 4 revisions in a lifetime is not really the standard.

I hope you guys can give me a decent imput.
Last edited by mr.skin on Sun Jan 06, 2019 10:59 am, edited 2 times in total.
1993
ED since 2012
nothing works properly

chonky
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Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby chonky » Sun Jan 06, 2019 10:46 am

I've gone through much of the same as you with the emotional struggles. The thing I've learned is that it doesn't stop. I've had a botched implant and considered trying again , cancelled when outside issues came up along with seconds thoughts over my doctor. I go to a new urologist tomorrow and will discuss options which is can he do an implant , if he doesn't have the experience recommend someone who can. That is the only solution to ED in the end when all else fails. We are each different and some have an easier time than others . If everything goes good we all have a chence to make it over the hump and reach acceptance with it.
65 Periodic ED since 20's due to venous leakage. Pills stopped working . Implanted 3/2012 removed 6/2012 in a"WTF Moment" after several complications. Re-implanted 4/5/19 AMS 700CX

Larry10625

Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby Larry10625 » Sun Jan 06, 2019 11:12 am

mr.skin wrote:Hello to all,

I am quite active in this forum for roughly about a year now. I initially had implant surgery planned for last july, but had to postpone bc of suffering a severe ankle injury. Few months later I decided to go with vein ligation bc of two reasons i) i had ectopic veins, which are a good indicator for an improved long term outcome ii) it would help with glans engorgement, which was one of my major concerns for after the implant bc of having a big glans.

It did indeed improve my EQ to an extent but came with the drawback of length loss (3/4 of an inch) and numb skin on the upper penis (glans still intact). They must have damaged some cutaneous nerves, mechano receptors are still intact meaning I feel pressure, but no warmth/cold and no slight touches on the upper third of my penile shaft. glans completetly normal. (guess that s the same kind of sensitivity loss some might get from the implant on the lower penile shaft bc of the clamps stretching skin and tissue during surgery. nothing major)

I tried to have sex one time since then, being a bit tipsy(or more a bit drunk) I could get an erection laying on my side, but after going down on the girl my erection faded and when she tried to give me a blowjob it completely collapsed. At this night I've been on Cialis 30mg and Doxazosine (alpha1-antagonist) additionally

RN I think with a cock ring and jacked on medication I could get an erection sufficient for sex in 6/10 cases, but I d still have to focus on getting constant stimulation. Meaning I have to focus on putting in a as fast as possible and it will last for 5-10 minutes until it subsides. But that s just a guess, as having not a proper erection for 7 years I dont know how hard of a dick is necessary.

Emotionally I am not in a good place bc pursuing a relationship is completely impossible and I additionally (unfortanetly) implented some self-coping mechanisms to avoid sexual contact ( I usually am flirty whith people in my pretty big social circle and being impotent is nothing you want to have spread about you in uni life) which are a major drawback bc I feel completely uncapable of ever having a normal relationship to sex/ women bc of the "routine/experience" I am missing in interactingn sexually with women. And I guess being viewed as an inexperienced men in bed is an other thing which holds me back.

The thing is in the past few weeks I got more self-conscious about the implant, bc if I don't like it it even a half limp dick which at leasts allows for masturbation might pleasure me better than a plastic tube in my penis.

On the other hand, I had so many evenings / nights where I went home alone and cursed my fate and would have immediately traded my limp dick for a"bionic" working one. It s just the nature of being irreversible, infection risk and the risk of mechanical failure and needing another one after 1-5 years, bc I guess more than 3 or 4 revisions in a lifetime is not really the standard.

I hope you guys can give me a decent imput.



I see that you have tried pills and injections. The only real option you have left is the implant. I think you know that and I think you are trying to talk yourself out of it. The infection rate is less than 1% and AMS also has a product called Inhibitone coating that prevents infection. Yes, it is irreversible, so, that's a good thing isn't it? Yes, it is mechanical and therefore subject to failure and you will need revisions BUT, the product keeps getting better and when I first joined Frank Talk, there was a member who was on his 20th year with an implant. Get an implant, see a few professional ladies and watch lots of porn. You will be a pro in no time. ED is NOT YOUR FAULT. I think if I were you, I would tell everybody willing to listen and then when my dick was back in service, I would say that too and then just wait for the phone to ring. Cheer up my friend, you have options. :)

Larry

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Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby ED2013 » Sun Jan 06, 2019 12:08 pm

Yes, an implant is irreversible. But you know what ? So is a limp dick. Consult a top surgeon and ask him about your concerns.

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Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby alibaba » Sun Jan 06, 2019 11:53 pm

I have this suggestion about needing 4-5 replacements in your lifetime. The lifespan on an implant is a suggested number based on past history. How do you know they have not improved and today's implant won't last twice as long as one from 10 years ago? How do you know that 2 years from now they won't be so well made to last 35 years? .

Next issue is how do you know what fate has in store for you? Will you live to be 91 or will you die at 32 like a friend of mine? Will you die happy but sexless at 32 or would you rather die young or old fucking on demand? Procrastination does not fix anything nor has your cheap quick fix which has been discussed for years on the young peoples forum. I am sorry it did not work but that is the typical outcome. You need to figure out the next step. Sexless and depressed forever, or a young stallion. It is your call.
LGX 21cm .Milam 01/13/16. Horror; both service and surgical outcome. hated infrapubic installation. Kramer revision 03/01/17. 22cm Titan +1.5cm extender. Those who think their opinion is the only one that matters are a danger to themselves and others.

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Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby kosh200 » Sun Jan 06, 2019 11:59 pm

I’d like to address the mental portion of this horrible situation. At its worst, I almost got divorced. I not only stopped having sex with my wife, but I lost who I was, the actual essence of being a man. It was a combination of these two things that almost resulted in a divorce. When my first urologist suggested quite early on that I should consider an implant I thumbed my nose st the notion, I was in my late 30s! Men my age don’t get implants! Well, after I almost lost my marriage, the idea of an implant was quite scary as it was the last straw. My wife had conveyed to me, not malicious mind you that anything is better than what we have now. So I thought I’d give it a go.
After my first use with my wife, I immediately thought,” wow! I’m back in the game!”

I can’t speak for the single people but I can surmise that it may be challenging. You may find young girls that will reject the idea, but there will be other( more mature ) girls who won’t care. The wonderful thing about the implant is it eliminates the guesswork of whether you will get an erection or not.

Mentally, I went from... man I’m going to get divorced and no woman is going to want to be with me if I can’t perform- to a man who is back in the saddle again riding high. This change is life altering. I’m going to leave you with a phrase my old grandmother used to tell me... everybody's Got something! Whether it is asthma, or diabetes, or even ED. Everyone’s got something!
45 years old. Diagnosed with Peyronies over 5 years ago. Successfully implanted on 9/6/18 with a Coloplast Titan 18 cm + 3 cm RTEs 4.5”-1st Activation, 6.25” three months of cycling. Dr. Levine. Chicago, Illinois

Larry10625

Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby Larry10625 » Mon Jan 07, 2019 6:31 am

alibaba wrote:I have this suggestion about needing 4-5 replacements in your lifetime. The lifespan on an implant is a suggested number based on past history. How do you know they have not improved and today's implant won't last twice as long as one from 10 years ago? How do you know that 2 years from now they won't be so well made to last 35 years? .

Next issue is how do you know what fate has in store for you? Will you live to be 91 or will you die at 32 like a friend of mine? Will you die happy but sexless at 32 or would you rather die young or old fucking on demand? Procrastination does not fix anything nor has your cheap quick fix which has been discussed for years on the young peoples forum. I am sorry it did not work but that is the typical outcome. You need to figure out the next step. Sexless and depressed forever, or a young stallion. It is your call.



Agreed 100% AND, every day he has ED, his penis is atrophying.

Larry

mr.skin
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Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby mr.skin » Mon Jan 07, 2019 2:48 pm

Certainly some true points, but I could actually recover from ED if they find a cure for Finasteride-induced ED. It s most probably a symbiosis of neuroendocrine and tissue problems with me.
1993
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Youngmen
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Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby Youngmen » Mon Jan 07, 2019 3:22 pm

I have talked with Dr Eid and Dr Osmonov in Germany and I decided that an implant is the only real solution if pills don’t work. A lot of people are very happy with their implants and I hope I will be satisfied too.
1995, ED since birth due to venous leak. Pills worked but then get
peyronies. 24 cm Coloplast Titan with Dr Osmonov, germany on 2019/21/3

smphead
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Re: 25 yo guy on the edge (again.)

Postby smphead » Mon Jan 07, 2019 4:16 pm

mr.skin wrote:Certainly some true points, but I could actually recover from ED if they find a cure for Finasteride-induced ED. It s most probably a symbiosis of neuroendocrine and tissue problems with me.


Hi, i send you a pm.

Have thought about TRT? Also the Baylor-study will be published this year.
1978, male Netherlands. ED due Propecia use. Currently using cialis.
Thinking about Penile Implant.


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